Monthly Archives: November 2013

The Big 6 O

I know I keep reporting the same routine for some of my favourite days, but I just love the routine! So why change it at the moment? Apologies if it is boring.

Sunday started with bitch-boy in his pink shortened maid’s outfit which comes down only to his hips. (He had been in his restraint tube for two weeks without release or removal so very frustrated and emasculated. I allowed the tube to be taken off for a supervised genital shave and shower.) I had him do some chores and make me my lunch. He had none. During this time, I had to cane him twice. Each time I had him kneel on the floor, forehead resting on the floor and hands bound behind his back. After the first half a dozen strokes are over I love to continue with hard strokes at one second intervals and take pleasure in how the begging and apologies become more and more desperate and poignant. ‘Oh, oh, I’m sorry, I’m sorry, please, please, please, I’m sorry oh, oh I am really sorry Mistress, please, please, I am so sorry, please……..’ etc. etc.   I had to be licked to orgasm after each caning.

After lunch I spent 45 minutes playing with his boy’s bits while watching a foreign language subtitled TV program I had recorded.

Then it was time for some extended total sensory deprivation bondage on the BDSM bed with the gynaecological stirrups. He was in the bondage for over 4 hours. I visited him about 6 times and I have never been so mean with nipple clips, and with ruler and Deep Heat to that vulnerable tube of flesh between his legs, which just kept getting all stiff and hard – just begging me to abuse it! I had 6 orgasms in all on Sunday and they were all massive! There is no doubt the intensity is directly proportional to how mean I am, which is bad news for bitch-boy – and he probably noticed while he sobbed with pain while listening to me bring myself off. (He can just about hear my climactic screams, despite the silicone ear plugs and ear defenders.)

I was feeling so good and relaxed by the end that after a long session of ruler smacking and edging, I allowed him to cum at my skilled hands. Oh my! How he needed that! Going by the explosion and emotional sobbing.

I decided on a few more Christmas presents for him while he was secured – he will not like them though. But he had better feign gratitude!

Time of year again

That time of year again. I had bitch-boy kneel down, naked on the floor while I sat at the PC to order some Christmas presents for him. I don’t give him surprises at Christmas because then he would miss out on all the pre-Christmas thinking time – about the delightful presents he will be getting. Six weeks to fret and dread.

The first present was the mixed pack of interdental brushes. Just look at the diameter of the biggest! He begged me not to place that order.

Next some pink baby’s rattles for him to use. Next a Disney Princess game he will be able to play with his dolly while I sit relaxing and making nasty comments, insisting he converses with dolly. Finally for this present buying session, a baby doll without panties and with short, puff sleeves that he will be wearing as a party dress. So very short!

How I love Christmas!

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Photos of bitch-boy

A number of my blog followers have requested photos of bitch-boy’s TSD bondage. I took those below this Saturday, during his, over four hours, in TSD bondage on my BDSM bed. The first photo shows his head with the following. The narrow-neck funnel secured to the head harness, the rigid posture collar, the top of his winter little girl’s dress which comes down only to his hips, his blindfold, his sound proof ear protectors, (under the protectors, silicone ear plugs are inserted in his ears), the chain which runs across the bed to which the top of his head harness is secured.

He has pegs on his nipples at this point which is why his dress is undone at the neck.

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In the second photo you can see my golden nectar ice cube melting in the funnel.

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Regarding the rest of him. His hands are buckled into leather mittens and these are tightly secured to a belt around his waist. His legs are secured wide apart into the gyno stirrups at ankle and thigh.

I hope this is what those requesting photos were looking for.

Advice to a Domme

I received a request for advice from a fellow Domme. Although I am not sure I am qualified to be dishing out advice to others, having received a request I am happy to give my view and hope it helps. An excerpt from the request is below, followed by my answer.

……..The problem is I feel now he is just not truly submissive to me until about 5 minutes before we play. He has become bratty, dismissive and not very obedient. You seem like you have your submissive exactly how you want him. I was hoping you could offer up some ideas on what i need to do with my submissive to change his mindset and make him understand that I am the supreme being in this relationship. Ideas on punishment, what actions that I can take to make him feel submissive in our home.
 
 He is not a huge fan of bondage, however I like it and i am very good at it (used to teach rope bondage classes in Los Angeles) So he spends the majority of the time tied up, usually gagged with a leather paneled penis gag and a vibrating remote controlled dildo in his ass. Controlling his hole’s are very important to me. Spanking with my crop is usually his punishment and time out corner time in a standing kneeling hogtie with leather hood and penis gag is the other. But thats all that I can think off.
I realize that taking a break was my decision, however I just can’t live without his submission and feeling worshiped by my husband. I am just not creative enough and stern enough in my punishments and my overall treatment of him but I want to be and hope that you may provide some insight into achieving my goal……

 

I had a similar situation many, many years ago. I followed the advice in a book – Owning and Training a Male Slave written by Ingrid Bellemare. It is really a case of conditioning the male.

Two things are needed. Consistency and real punishment.

CONSISTENCY means if you have a rule you must enforce it 24/7/365. If you enforce it one day and not the next (because one of you is not ‘in the mood’) the slave does not know where he is and will not feel submissive 24/7. To put it another way, he will not feel you are dominant enough to ‘deserve’ his submissiveness. Whether the rule is opening the car door for you, kissing your footwear whenever you are about to leave the house, curtseying whenever entering a room you are in – whatever the rules – any infraction must mean punishment.

Moving onto REAL PUNISHMENT.  Punishment must mean punishment. That is something that the slave does not like to the extent that he is truly frightened to commit the infraction again. For practical reasons, the punishment type adopted needs to be something that can be delivered fairly quickly. While he may hate being put into TSD bondage for 8 hours, say, that requires waiting for the opportunity to do that. The wait between punishment and infraction will sometimes be too long. I consider that the punishment must be within 12 hours of the infraction whenever possible. I chose to give a caning. And not just half a dozen strokes which may cause begging and pleading, but might nonetheless be quickly forgotten and be relatively easily coped with. I probably applied a minimum of 25 hard strokes during each of the canings. A punishment bitch-boy was truly, truly afraid to receive. Not a playful punishment. Not a punishment type which was a turn-on for him. It was a punishment he wanted to avoid at all costs.

So, in the beginning of this regime, there is the most awkward atmosphere and you must use your resolve to get through it. In the beginning he will need to be punished when he is not feeling submissive towards you. When I was dishing out 25 strokes, then, possibly during the first 12 strokes say, the atmosphere was awkward and his submissive buttons where not being pressed. But I had told him that an infraction would result in the punishment and I was seeing it through. By the last five or six strokes, his submissiveness would appear, in the face of this obvious, pitiless, determined dominance. Probably within around a week of this regime, and after perhaps four such punishments, his full submissiveness to me and worship of me had returned to satisfactory levels. (It does then have to be maintained with consistency and punishment.)

It may be that you have to deliver two or three punishments that he is truly, truly  frightened of, before you get to this position. Obviously the punishment does not have to be caning as long as it is a punishment he truly, truly fears and wishes to avoid at all costs. Some masochistic slaves might adore a prolonged caning so then something completely different may be needed such as, repeatedly extending their sexual denial period or only giving/allowing spoiled orgasms for a period. Hopefully you get the idea.

There are some caveats.

My toy and slave, bitch-boy, has a deeply submissive soul. He has been this way in the face of any truly dominant, cruel woman since he was around ten years old. If a slave does not have such a soul, the regime may not work, ever.

A particularly stubborn slave may also need deterrent punishments to speed up the process. These are punishments awarded when there has been no infraction, but you advise the slave that he is in need of a reminder of what would happen were he to commit an infraction. As my bitch-boy works from home, I used to, and still do, sometimes dish out a deterrent punishment before I set off for work in the morning.