I receive a lot of comments from submissive men who want to be in a 24/7 relationship with a dominant woman and cannot make it happen. Although I am poorly qualified to give it, possessing almost no scientifically derived data, nonetheless – here is some advice.
Some research I did read many years ago estimated that, because of society’s stereotyping, there are between 10 and 100 submissive men to each dominant woman. Wonderful (smug) for us Dommes, a problem for male subs. But there it is. So it is a competitive situation. As a male sub you may be competing with between 9 and 99 other sub men to secure your spot in 24/7 enslavement. How do you win the competition? What follows are my suggestions – obviously they may not be right for all other Dommes.
Learn to be excellent at housework, ironing and laundry. Learn to be an excellent cook. Perhaps learn about wine and cocktail making, giving pedicures, massages, get good computer skills. Get good at yard work and gardening, at decorating and DIY. If you are excellent at some or all of these things remain very humble about that!
Learn to talk less and listen more. Get physically fit. This does not mean become a muscle man. Some Dommes do like a muscle man but many, like me, do not want to see big muscles. However we are unlikely to want to see obesity and much more importantly, you have to be able to run up a few flights of stairs without getting out of breath. Good sexual oral skills and being content giving far more sexual pleasure than you receive is important. Earn a decent wage. If you do not, go to college, get some more qualifications, get a better job. This takes time so you will have to spend less time reading blogs like mine! So if I have already put you off – you probably are not going to win the competition. If you take the advice so far, but still fail to win, well you will be a better, and probably happier person anyway – as a side-effect.
You may be married or in a serious relationship and hope to ‘turn’ your woman into a dominant. Do not show her extreme things from the internet. Start off by waiting on her hand and foot (with some dignity – not cringeworthy creepiness) – cook, clean, buy flowers, give compliments, give much more than you receive in the bedroom. You may reach a point whereby she would miss all this lovely attention and graft if it stopped. You might at this point subtly talk about being submissive to women.
WARNING – All of the above may not result in what you want. For a woman to become seriously dominant and cruel she either has to be very brave (as in my case) to go against all of society’s rules and morals and traditions, (particularly overt sadism as well as the female being in charge rather than the male), or has to be the sort of woman who does not give a damn about society’s rules and morals and traditions. Many, many woman are not brave enough and do very much give a damn, so will never become seriously dominant and cruel. DO NO RESENT THEM! It is how they are made and you chose them. Deal with it with good grace.
I would love to hear from other Dommes who could provide advice and I will amend this post with any I receive.
Please, male subs note – I have a sub (bitch-boy) who I have been training and subjugating for over a decade. I do not need another sub and I have no intention of replacing bitch-boy, so there really is no point in asking if you can be my sub, although it is flattering to be asked.