Its all true

I know some readers of my blog and journals doubt the whole truth that this life, as described, is actually led by bitch-boy and I. This does bother me a bit because I want all women to know just how relaxing and exhilarating a life with a real sub can be, when you adopt it and then ensure it  evolves fully over the years. Below I evaluate some of the doubts that have been expressed to me. I always welcome these doubts so that I get a chance to address them. (Keep them coming.)

Too much for one man to take. Firstly, bitch-boy did not go from zero subjugation to where we are today. I evolved, and my lifestyle became more extreme over – coming up for – 15 years. So, much like how – if you slowly heat a pot of water to boiling point with a frog in it, the frog never jumps out – bitch-boy has been conditioned to just take more and more, his evolution of deepening acquiescence following my evolution of ever greater control and cruelty. Secondly, he is deeply, deeply submissive to women and has been since before he was 11 years old. So when faced with say, me and my two sisters for the first time taking utter control of him – three, tall, attractive, highly intelligent, very dominant women – his submissiveness overwhelmed all other traits in him and despite the terrible humiliation on that day, he was a deeply submissive rabbit caught in the headlights of intractable female dominance. (And having submitted once, the future led only one way.) Thirdly, he has managed to compartmentalise, mentally, the different aspects of his life. Within half an hour of the most terrible humiliations, he is able to, just about, deal with a business call. He can switch either way with only a little duration of transition. Fourthly, there are our practical lifestyle arrangements. He is awake for an average of 122 hours per week. Running his business takes only about an average of 22 hours per week, most weeks, (he works from home for 90% of that), leaving him 100 hours. Chores, garden and yard work take about 21 hours per week. This leaves 79 hours per week – when I am not at work, to use and abuse him. Deducted from that is vanilla interactions with family and friends about one weekend in four. So, it is not too much for one man to take. And I know of real Dommes, some of whom I have met, who have a lifestyle considerably more extreme than mine!

It is fantasy that you would have the sisters you do and meet the women you have met. Practical matters. (A) In the world, there are millions of families that consist of  a mother, father and several daughters. It is a statistical certainty that a percentage of these families will be led by a dominant mother who raises very dominant daughters. My family is one – even if such families are rare. (B) The children have all flown the nest and live some distance away. We moved to the countryside leaving all our family members and friends some distance away, we also have only a cordial nodding relationship with our few neighbours. This all means we never have people simply drop in to see us. All visitors are by appointment. (C) See above, bitch-boy runs his own business, works from home 90% of the time, and we both earn very good money. (D) In nearly 15 years, I have met only a handful of women who have wished to join me in my life with bitch-boy. Some moving in with us for a while, (one at a time! over the years) – most visiting regularly for a while. (Plus my sisters and Akesha).  Life is change. The women move away or abroad with work, they move for family reasons, they meet a sub of their own and stop visiting – so these are transient relationships. Over such a number of years, is this small number unbelievable? Given I have been on a number of BDSM contact sites and I visit fetish fairs and fetish clubs such as Club Pedestal. (And yet again, here is an invitation to any woman who wishes to join me in the use of abuse of bitch-boy (without bringing a man with them) although I am happy to have them come to me alone and then, me go to them alone, if they would like to double-domme any sub they own. (This is just how I like to take pleasure – a single male the absolute centre of attention! – Its my thing – I don’t know why.)

Equipment and apparel. Look on the internet or in the high street. All equipment I use is out there and most of it (not including BDSM beds) is quite low cost.

 So in conclusion. My life is real. Ladies who have a sub as a partner – try it. Ladies who have no partner – find a sub and try it. (There are 100 male subs looking for each Domme!)



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20 Responses to Its all true

  1. cagedmonkey says:

    In my opinion, regardless of whether people think you are for real or not, you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone. If people think that the life you live is way too awesome to be real, then more power to you! 🙂


    • subhubphx says:

      I couldn’t agree more CM. Keep being awesome Mistress Scarlett!

      • slave05 says:

        personally i belive You. know from past experience that their is only one person in close to 6 billion people on the planet that You can change. YOU.
        Also belive a MISTRESS can change Her slave but it needs to want to change.
        This slave prays every day that You are succesful in influncing other Wonen to be more like You

        • As a general rule, I agree that if you want to change your life for the better, changing your own behaviour is the only way. However, as with all things to do with human behaviour – it is complicated and there are almost no simple rules that are applicable. When it comes to a submissive, using careful conditioning, over time – the inclinations of a submissive’s nature can be exploited to change them, whether they want that change or not. I make this statement from a position of unarguable experience.

  2. gsluxwar57 says:

    I like reading about your lifestyle and would love to be in a true female dominated relationship. I even love the idea of it being the norm in our society. Although I am submissive, I think there are degrees of submissiveness and for me it would only really work if my female partner was genuinely physically superior to me and could enforce her will in any given situation. Resistence is an important part of the experience from the male point of view, or more to the point – having your resistence crushed. I’m the kind of guy who would need to be reminded who is boss on a regular basis. There is something incredibly sexy about female will prevailing over your best efforts. Cruelty and ruthlessness are the icing on the cake..

  3. Serena says:

    I have no doubt whatsoever of the validity of your detail and authenticity. In the relative few weeks since discovering your blog, and subsequently, Journals, my sissy boi/bitch, tiffany and I have really progressed and we are both, in our own way, reaping the rewards of a FemDom led relationship (marriage). I had previously been less demanding of her (him) and definitely far too soft when it came to controling and punishing her.
    I now have more time to relax, and daily tasks and chores are no longer my responsibility, apart of course, from making sure they are performed adequately by my sub. It would appear bitch-boy and tiffany are likeminded and as a result it is a win-win scenario for us both.

  4. Skeptic says:

    I would never have posted this without your invitation. I’m sorry if it seems rude. But so many of the stories seem more like things guys enjoy than what dominant women enjoy. I know women who are really into things like caning, and I know women who are way into a raw power exchange. But I don’t know many women who wouldn’t get bored dressing a guy up as a sissy and making fun of him, over and over and over again. Mostly, that seems like something the guy on the receiving end likes, not what women like.

    • So amazing. I would never have dreamed to get such a comment. It just goes to show the wide range of experiences there are out there. I have met a good number of Dommes and professional dominatrix. Professional Dominatrix and Dommes who have no live-in sub, I agree are much more into serious punishment and tortures. However, I would say the majority of Dommes I have met (70%?) who have a live-in sub, engage in some form of sissyfication. And perhaps more than half of those evolve into using the deeply shaming techniques of sissyfication. I can only advise you that that is my experience. bitch-boy REALLY HATES the humiliations and my guests and I get REAL pleasure from it. Both his mental pain (our sadism) and the power rush of having such power over bitch-boy. Perhaps you have not met many Dommes with live-in subs. Websites like Petticoat Discipline Quarterly and the much missed magazine of old – Madame, contain letters from real life Mistress-Wives and 99% use and adore petticoating humiliation. Also, if you are going to have a male do all the housework and chores, surely humiliating him in a sissy maid outfit while he works is just an added amusement.

      Having written all that, don’t forget I use the cane very, very often and I adore putting bitch-boy into hours of total sensory deprivation bondage, and pissing on him and I love subjecting him to dickie-discipline (CBT) so its not all sissyfication.

      By the way, what exactly is ‘Raw Power Exchange?’

  5. slave05 says:

    Would love to live Your life style but would seem my chances are super super slime as You said. have very few so sad.

    slave barry

  6. monique says:

    I know my english is bad, but I hope you understand me, I and my Wife Queen, we are living the BDSM 6 years, and we look at sites like yours, inspiranção to move on, already copied much of their techniques, one of them is ice in fubil, hopefully always continue to guide us! Bjs on their feet Lady.

  7. westfalen says:

    Having experienced some varietals of this myself over the years, i absolutely believe your lifestyle is the real deal as the saying goes as it rings so true in the many personal ways…….and the way you describe it as having evolved over more than a decade is best, as it has allowed you both to progress together along the path of increased domination and cruelty with trust and assurance of no genuine abuse as you two are such a committed couple to each other.

  8. westfalen says:

    Dear MsScarlet,

    Regarding your point (quotes below) that you have met other Dommes with considerably more extreme FemmeDomme lifestyles than your own, i was wondering are these Pro-Dommes who practice more severe forms of SM as given your great concern and responsibility for Bb’s health, i note that you stay away from what might be considered the more extreme edge activities………or do these other more extreme Dommes have a lifestyle relationship similar to you and Bb but which is more on the extreme side of things such as the slave being in genuine servitude 24/7/365, in contrast to which Bb due to his regular daily employment and other family activities as you mention, has other alternative outlets for daily life-??……….

    ‘And I know of real Dommes, some of whom I have met, who have a lifestyle considerably more extreme than mine!’

    • It is partly the aspect of bb having his business to run and the resultant headspace almost entirely free of submission during that time. But also things like Dommes who never ever let their slaves have a proper orgasm by only ever allowing spoiled orgasms or prostate milking. Or Dommes that do full on cuckolding with a constant stream of other males and the sub has to be present and has to fluff the bull male etc. And the bull male moves into the home, living there for days at a time. Or, Dommes who use preparations like Extra Strength Deep Heat in far more extreme ways than I do. I always have a default of just using enough to induce real sobbing. (By doing this, I have plenty of room for escalation for special occasions or serious punishment.) so, generally, just on the shaft and some on the head is al that is needed to produce REAL sobbing. I know Dommes who every time they use Deep Heat, will cover every bit of the shaft and the head, try to push a little into the entrance to the urethra, smear all over freshly shaved balls, push the cream into the anus. Dommes who have their slaves eat tins of real dog food.

      These were the sorts of things I had in mind.

  9. westfalen says:

    Thank you your comprehensive and detailed reply as i can see that as you are so health sensitive for bb’s welfare that you would not feed him real dog food, etc. as some of those other more extreme Dommes, and your deep heat approach seems to optimize between current genuine suffering via bb’s sob, and the ever present potential for escalating such treatment for more severe punishment as you note……probably keeps bb on his submissive and obedient toes in that sense:)

  10. sissy jamieanne says:

    Having lived a Femdom lifestyle most of my adult life, I’ve never doubted the truth of Your writings, Ma’am…and have I mentioned…YOU are absolutely amazing!


    sissy jamieanne

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