On the 2nd September I posted a theory on maximising the effect on the submissive. There was more detail, but the key I contend is that the submissive’s PERCEPTION of the dominant’s cruelty is key to maximising effect. I mentioned that if there is any doubt that humiliating, painful, tedious, and or demeaning activity for the submissive was giving sadistic pleasure to the dominant, then the dominant should verbalise that fact.
(I amended the theory the next day to say that if the Domme makes it ABSOLUTELY clear to the submissive that the Domme is a sadist and many acts in which they partake are to satisfy their sadistic desires, then there is no need to verbalise their sadism. I will stress however that there must be no doubt in the mind of the submissive. Any such doubt should be eradicated by verbalising. If in doubt, verbalise.)
Well I have, since these posts, had around a dozen responses to my theory from submissives and 100% agree with the theory. So ladies, if you really want your puppet addicted to you, DON’T BE SHY! You must make it very apparent that you get pleasure from inflicting physical and or mental suffering. If you have feared using the word as a label for yourself. Start using it. – I am a sadist.