I know I do bang on about partial ignoring a lot, but it is one of most my favourite things. I find it sooooo relaxing and arousing!
Having bitch-boy in sensory deprivation bondage for an hour or two, his only contact with me the occasional top-up of nettles stings or a nasty cream to his clitty. I sit downstairs, reading, watching TV, swiping on my device, on telephone calls, sunbathing, whatever. I am so relaxed and content and he is so very miserable! Now and again I look at the tiny baby monitor receiver screen to see him in his total bondage. The feeling of total power is delicious. I have to use my massager wand on myself every now and then, to relieve the arousal. I have even been known to prep the evening meal, (slaves work!), rather than free him to do so. I would actually prefer to prep the evening meal while thinking of his suffering and my power, as I prep.
Having bitch-boy do colouring-in with his dolly while I mostly ignore him. How he truly hates those hours of humiliating misery – passing by so slowly. While I sit reading, watching TV, swiping on my device, on making telephone calls; sunbathing, whatever. I occasionally look down at him, so very miserable and humiliated, and I am sooooo relaxed and content. As the hours pass, he repeatedly gets to hear the massager wand throb and pulse and then my ecstatic cries of orgasmic bliss. I am quite happy for him to look up and observe me. It simply further reinforces for him the difference in status and lifestyle between him in his chastity and subjugation and I. It is the second and third consecutive days that REALLY DISTRESS him, and seriously give me my power rush. (Although an hour is all that is required to achieve the effect of partial ignoring.)
Having gone through a serious number of hours of colouring-in with dolly the day before, the appropriate time the following day is reached when he presents himself in front of me and I say those dreaded words, ‘Time for colouring-in with dolly little maggot, for 4 or 5 hours.‘ I can see the distress in his eyes as he thinks about how much of his previous day was agonisingly consumed by colouring-in with his dolly, and how this humiliating and tedious misery is to continue today. And is the 4 or 5 hours a mind-fuck, or will it actually be 4 or 5 hours, as it has been on many days in his life over the past few years.
I do acknowledge that one requirement of Partial Ignoring, is time. Lots of time. I know this is a problem for many FLR couples when there are other DS activities to also be fitted in, but any Domme with the time, who has not tried partial ignoring; please try it. You might be surprised at the power rush.
It may be he is writing lines, or cleaning a few pairs of your boots or trainers. You can occasionally glance at him, so very miserable and humiliated while you watch TV, swiping on my device, on making telephone calls, sunbathing, whatever. A few other activites could be:
- lay on their back on the floor, wrists secured to collar, and lick the sole of the foot or shoe of the dominant which is resting on the submissive’s lips – and the submissive must kiss/lick continuously;
- stand in the corner with wrists bound behind them and holding a coin to the wall with their nose;
- practice curtseying, over and over, possibly while facing the wall;
- clean the floor with a toothbrush;
- completing a large pile of ironing;
I do cover partial ignoring more fully, with more activities, in my BDSM manual, devoting almost 3 pages to it; such is my passion for the activity.