Many people have a primary sense of vision. (Rather than sound or even touch, etc.) But so much of DS activity excludes seeing all that is happening, thus missing out on power-rush pleasure for the Domme and subjugating effect for the sub. The Domme should have a think about increasing access to the visual aspects wherever possible.
Administering a caning of a bent over sub, with his head to one side and cheek flat against the table/bench, often means the Domme does not see the sub’s face between strokes and the sub does not see the body and face of the Domme in pitiless, sadistic, caning mode. If possible a full length mirror strategically placed will allow each to see the other and enhance the ‘experience’ for both. Dommes please don’t think I am pandering to the sub with this. If the caning is a punishment rather than simple ‘bullying’ and a lesson must be learned, the sub seeing your absolute pitilessness while his begging is totally ignored, will enhance the deterrent effect of the punishment.
Without prompting, several Dommes who have been with me during a punishment of bitch-boy have placed themselves where they can see his grimacing face as each stroke lands – enhancing their sadistic pleasure from each stroke delivered.
I will mention one caveat before continuing. An embryonic Domme, finding her feet and shedding her self consciousness over beckoning forth the sadist within her, (going against societies norms for females), may not want to be observed by her sub. That is fine and in fact a blindfold on the sub to avoid observation may be a good idea until she has become confident and proud of her depravity. (Yes proud. Always remember there are at least 100 male subs for every female Domme and as a cruel Domme, courageous enough to go against society’s strictures, you are rare, precious, sought after and worshipped from near and far.)
But even the embryonic Domme may increase her pleasure from a strategically placed mirror, the images on which are only for her. I doubt I will ever get bored while stood up, from having a male kneeling and kissing my footwear. If you have never watched yourself in a full length mirror during this activity, have a go. (Especially if you look gooooood!) The same applies with having your butt kissed or being licked to orgasm. The power rush increases; especially if you are a ‘visual’ person.
I have before mentioned video goggles and my ceiling mirror, but I thought I should expand on the enhancement of the visual sense, especially for those for whom the visual sense is primary.
All this does remind me of the failing of the majority of Femdom videos, one aspect of which I have banged on about before. So many activities where seeing the expression on the face of the Domme would be very erotic, but instead, during the crucial moments we only get a close-up of, often disgusting, male body parts.
When the caning gets ‘serious’, we get a close up of a male butt. A spoiled orgasm – a close up of the spurting object . When the electrical genital torment gets serious – a close up of the twitching object. Eating spat out food or mud from the sole of the Domme’s boot – a close up of the male’s lips and tongue. ETC! ETC! Are the movie makers really so thick as to fail understand that it is the human INTERACTION that counts and needs to be seen. The demeanour of both parties. The best movie makers in this field, show the scene as a whole, including the expression on the Domme’s face, when things get serious.