Monthly Archives: December 2018

Satisfying feedback

Yet more satisfying feedback about my BDSM manual. Nothing satisfies me more than learning that a woman is now enjoying the pleasures of domination, partly because of my BDSM manual. (And a sub is gaining submissive contentment too.) Mistress Rain Star wrote:

Thank you for your blogs and books, they’ve helped me tremendously……………….. We’re on a short trial period and it’s going very well. Your book, Gratifying Domination and Submissive Contentment: A Guidance Manual, in particular, has been more help to me than anything else.

The full text of Mistress Rain Star’s comment on my blog are at the foot of this post, together with my reply.

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Rain Star

Thank you for your blogs and books, they’ve helped me tremendously. I want to tell you a brief overview of my situation because it’s been difficult to find a support group. Almost 17 years ago I met my submissive but I wasn’t ready. We were together on and off for 6 or 7 years (with me topping him) and then we broke up and I asked for no communication. Of course, he respected my request and never contacted me again. I spent the next 10 years in and out of mostly non-con D/s relationships (with me being the non-con s). Only 1 of those relationships was healthy. I missed my sub and thought of him often. A few recent events led me to contact him again, after a decade. He’s a year single and I asked him to be in service to me. We’re on a short trial period and it’s going very well. Your book, Gratifying Domination and Submissive Contentment: A Guidance Manual, in particular, has been more help to me than anything else. But I’m looking for even more information. Classes, a community, another Domme. I have friends in the lifestyle and have thrown out lines. I live very close to San Francisco so it shouldn’t be this difficult, but it is. All the classes are too expensive or don’t teach the basics. My sub is training me as I’m training him but I want to accelerate the process. I want to keep him in his sub space by being the Domme I know he craves. Already I’ve come up with some amazing ideas that I use to top him but I’m doing them in a way that keeps him feeling dominated. He’s also a chaste cuckhold and my mind reels with all we can explore. Why isn’t there a FB group or some other type of community for Domme’s to meet and exchange ideas? I’ve scoured Fet and all the kinky places near me… there’s really an under-serviced need here.

MISTRESS SCARLET WROTE:  Thank you for the kind words about my manual.

It is such a shame you are not in the UK. I would love to have you visit me and I would demonstrate on my bitch-boy literally anything you wanted and of course discuss in depth anything you were interested in about how I live my life . I would also be happy to visit your place and the two of us could practice things on your sub. But obviously, geography precludes this reciprocal double-domming avenue. Huge shame.

Keep looking for Dommes’ groups that meet up. I understand they do exist in most big cities. Perhaps this post will cause an SF Domme to come forward and let me know she is a member of such a group. Also if you attend munches and BDSM nightclubs, you might be told of such an SF group.










Dramatic price reduction

I have slashed the price of my first book short stories published in 2011.  Details of the retailers are below.

The reason;

I AM ABOUT TO PUBISH A SECOND BOOK OF SHORT STORIES. This second book has over 54,000 words and consists of four femdom stories which are quite different from the boundaries and topics on which I normally write. I have let my perverted mind wander freely. I will publish a blog post when that new book has been published.

ABOUT THE FIRST BOOK OF SHORT STORIES. Had the circumstances or creed of my birth and upbringing been different, or had I been born in another time, then I may have been a central character in any one of the stories I have penned in this book.

I would certainly have adored to have been. I identify strongly with one of the characters in each of these tales of other lives of female dominance and supremacy, and the lives detailed in the book present options, some perhaps unlawful, not open to me in the life I have lived and live.  However, had I not lived the wonderful life I now have, and have enjoyed so much over the last decade or so, I would have cherished any of the alternatives that might have been.

LULU.COM    eBook       Paperback


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I believe it is also available on BARNES and NOBLE, NOOK, iTunes, etc.

Here is a brief précis of each story.


16 year old orphan Hilary is decanted out of London to avoid Hitler’s bombing. His destination is a house of five females; two women and three daughters. They had expected to receive a girl, not a boy.


Gloria and Elles were both employed in the young entrepreneur’s hi-tech business. Unless he is taken under some control, their own blissful future could be in jeopardy.


Mistress decides to experiment with a female submissive to augment her enchanting life with her boy-toy.


Jearl is of black Caribbean ancestry. Her husband will be away a great deal with his new job. Jearl’s use and abuse knows no bounds with her new gift.


A new governess arrives to take care of Edwin while his parents are abroad. The governess does not believe in sparing the rod, or in young masters possessing arrogant male


Beautiful Jessica settles into university life quickly but she has always been spoilt and
cannot bring herself to partake in her share of the chore rota drawn up by her room-mate. An unwitting solution presents himself.


Xmas day nettles, AND MORE!

So we reached Xmas day and I WAS able to use nettles on bitch-boy!

They were good and stingy, but the stings did not seem to last too long. On reflection I should have followed up the nettle whipping with a treatment of Deep Heat or Linnex. But I am sure bitch-boy felt his stiff little clitty had suffered enough as I had started with a session of the 12 inch ruler using VERY HARD smacks indeed; before moving onto the nettles.

Christmas is a time of giving, so I started the day off by giving him a VERY SERIOUS deterrent punishment session. Ignoring completely his sobbing and repeated pleading through his gag, until I felt fully satisfied I was done with each of the five implements I used. The dressage whip left some lovely thin purple lines which are still there this morning.

Then I gave him an hour of teasing on the sofa while I watched TV. I have several orgasms during this as he is soooo frustrated and I get to see his red and striped butt when I glance away from the TV.

Then the clitty torments already mentioned, followed by an hour and a half of sensory deprivation bondage. He endured a disgusting  semen / water ice chunk in his funnel gag. Finally, while he was still helplessly bound, I generously gave him a PROPER orgasm with my skilled hands. Although he had to beg for a long time to get it and suffer another session with the ruler. His milkings since Nov 13 had all been spoiled and under the sole of my shoe. Oh my how he sobbed when he came yesterday. He has suffered quite a long period of denial; on the whim of Mistress Nicola during her visit to us on Nov 13 – ‘…..only spoiled orgasms until Christmas bitch-boy.

I had eight massive orgasms during this long DS session. It turns me on so much being a heartless, total bitch!

What a delightful Xmas day!


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Refined Curt Instructions

Two more submissives (below) confirming the subjugation value of curt instructions! And two wonderful Mistresses who have refined the technique superbly.


You are truly a Goddess! Any submissive male should recognise that reality! i have been subject to curt instructions and as you say, “thank you” is not a part of that…a more appropriate reply after he’s obeyed an order might be…”return to your duties” or “get back to work”!


Mistress – I didn’t comment on your earlier post about using curt commands but it has been a standard part of my Mistress’ approach for a long time. It absolutely changes the nature of “vanilla time” from a partial respite from kink time to an extension of it.

Of course there have to be exceptions for clarity but her general practice is to use only a single word. She never uses “please”, which would suggest a request vs. a command. And, as you said, never “thank you”.

Instead of “get me a cup of tea” she would simply say “tea”. Instead of “get me my yoga bag” she would say “yoga bag” (admittedly two words) and point to where she wants me to put it. Or, instead of “get my my cell phone”, just “phone” (we no longer have a landline phone!) and point to her feet if she wants it brought to her or perhaps point to a table if that’s where she wants it.

There are certainly times in public and vanilla settings where she is much less “curt” – I guess you’d say “more appropriate” – but whenever possible curt has, for some time, been her standard.

That includes when we are with the small handful of friends who are aware of the nature of our relationship. She does not, as you do, have friends that are in active dominant relationships or (as far as I know) even looking for one, but the several who know of ours are clearly drawn to and fascinated by it. My Mistress has invited them to use curt instructions to me, which they started doing very tentatively and now more routinely.



Curt instructions new years resolution.

At the end of last month I published two posts on the pleasure and effect, during vanilla times, of issuing curt, impolite instructions to your submissive instead of polite requests. Publishing these posts, and seeing the numerous comments from submissives passionately endorsing how much curt instructions in vanilla times affect them deeply, I decided to ramp up my own use of curt instructions during vanilla times.

Well what a pleasure it truly is, bringing a little power rush almost every time, especially when the instruction is as curt as it can be. And then seeing bitch-boy obediently scurry off to carry out the instruction obviously feeling quite bullied and exploited by my behaviour. Delightful! (And obviously no, thank you, when the instruction has been carried out).

Get my yoga bag, top up my wine, put my shoes away, load the dishwasher, get me a cup of tea, defrost my car, get me a towel, tidy the kitchen, get my gym shoes, get my book from the bedroom, get my cell phone, put my cell phone on charge, etc, etc.

I may well make it one of my new year’s resolutions to maximise issuing curt instructions at every opportunity. I have noticed it becoming much more natural and subconscious to me. It feels soon it will be a natural thing I do in vanilla times without thinking about it. Poor bitch-boy will be even more subjugated to me and addicted to me. And I’ll have little hits of extra pleasure every day.

So close : Xmas day nettles

Just a quick post as an update. From three stinging nettle stems picked and used yesterday, one produced VERY powerful stings indeed. We are so close to an Xmas day of using stinging nettles!

Mistress Nicola was over and expertly applied the nettle stem for A LONG TIME! When it seemed she was satisfied and bitch-boy was writhing and sobbing, I held his clitty upright with my tongs and the foreskin was back and invited Mistress Nicola to attend to the cock head. Her front was sensuously pressed into my back and with one warm hand sensuously holding me where top of thigh meets tummy, she attended to the cock head with the nettles in her other hand. From bitch-boy’s reaction, this was much, much more painful than on the shaft. So much sobbing and carrying on when we had finished.

So four days to go and we will have to got to Xmas day. Fingers crossed there are no serious frosts before then.


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New girlfriend for bitch-boy

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Yes a picture paints a thousand degrading words! My right wedge shoe (RWS)  is until further notice, bitch-boy’s only sexual partner. His new girlfriend. As things stand, all orgasms come from intimate contact between him and RWS. The sole of RWS to be precise.

As I mentioned in previous posts, I JUST ABSOUTLEY ADORE this new way of milking him. Yesterday there was some foreplay before the milking. I had the contraption the other way round on the little chair, and RWS spent quite some time stomping and squashing his little  clitty. Such intimate, passionate and meticulous foreplay! Then after the foreplay, the contraption was turned the right way around  and RWS pressed down hard on his clitty which was pressed onto the massager head and as soon as he began to cum, RWS lifted from the clitty, causing a spoiled orgasm.

As you will also have read before, on the whim of Mistress Nicola, bitch-boy was only to have spoiled orgasms from November 13, the day of her whim, until at least Xmas day. So Xmas day, or sometime soon after, he is expecting a proper orgasm. Expecting it no doubt, from my soft, skilled, cool, slim fingers. I am wondering whether, although it will be a full orgasm, should it be from his new girlfriend instead of my hands? Decisions, decisions.

I should also mention that, of course, he has to show proper respect to his new girlfriend. So I like to leave RWS out by the wall of the sitting room. The whenever he curtseys to me, on entering or leaving the room, he also has to curtsey to her as well.


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