When to finish a sex session??

The other evening I was enjoying a very funny female comedian’s stand up routine. One routine was both funny and for me resonated around my sexuality and relationship with bitch-boy. So probably also applicable to a number of DS couples. The comedian had mentioned she was bi-sexual and then talked about how a straight forward aspect of sex with a man was that it has a natural end point;  when he cums, often quickly arrived at!

But good sex with another woman just goes on and on unless there is a reason to stop. And it is a difficulty to stop without a reason.  This brief routine sparked so many thoughts in my head when applied to my and others’ DS lives.

How wonderful it is to be a dominant woman so sex with a male does not have a natural end point, because the male either does not cum at all, or only cums when I the Domme is ready to end the sex session. How wonderful that that phenomenon, of itself, raises arousal and orgasm intensity for the Domme.

How wonderful that I now only like mutually rewarding sex sessions with other women and I can remind bitch-boy that when I used to have mutually rewarding sex sessions with him, a very long time ago, they were sometimes over rather quickly, while my  mutually rewarding sex sessions with women go on and on and on.

And finally, loosely linked to all this, I thought about how, under my ‘new’ denial regimen for bitch-boy, during the frequent full-on DS days I enjoy, I have more orgasms during any one of those days, than bitch-boy will get in a year. Then as I pondered on that, and I realised that, more accurately, I have more orgasms during any one of those DS days, than bitch-boy will get in TWO YEARS!  I don’t know why I had not recognised the actual extent of this disparity before! I could not wait to tell him!



15 thoughts on “When to finish a sex session??

  1. Oh a new picture of facesitting. I can see that this is something Ms Scarlett really likes. And for good reasons. It is hot!

  2. Last evening I gave my wife a long massage and then used her Lelo massager on her clit after applying a clit lube stimulant. She had about 11 or 12 orgasms, which she is normal for her. She has a very intense first one, and the rest are almost as good she says, and they are one after the other. I have often thought, as you mentioned, that she gets more orgasms in one session than I will be allowed in 5 years. It arouses me so much to see her cum so intensely. I am never allowed to ask to be allowed to cum, I just have to wait my 6 months and hope I have pleased her enough.

  3. Yes, it is so emancipating to not require a penis! I think of how often in the past things ended with disappointment, and rarely lasted ten minutes! And, I certainly don’t miss the mess! No more stained sheets either, the only stains I see are tearstains; and they quickly dry :). Using a male who knows it is so utterly futile to even entertain a moment’s thought about his own selfish needs, thus ensuring his total devotion to pleasing his Mistress; is LIBERATING.
    I often enjoy him for two hours or more between my legs, directing his tongue to my caprices, e.g. slower, faster, deeper, DEEPER, softer, gently, harder… with him devoted to diligently striving to delight me. I will be ever so relaxed, listening to my classical music, enjoying a glass of fine wine and perhaps some expensive Belgian chocolates! This may even follow a ½ hour or so of me lying on my front, while he first ‘laboured’ deep between my cheeks!
    I finish in a state of absolute euphoric, languorous bliss, having had more orgasms than he will get in several years! David is usually exhausted, his tongue and jaw aching greatly, his lips lightly chafed and (if worn) his make-up smeared. Though he never complains, I know from his confession times, that he will have been yearning for me to be sated and stop, long before I do!
    David is ever so good with his tongue and, despite the above, genuinely wants to please me; and takes great joy in seeing I am left gratified. It’s also sweet to see his doe-like eyes at the end, stupidly hopeful that he might be rewarded with a release for pleasuring me so well.
    He will usually be allowed to retire to bed with me; though sometimes I will drowsily tell him to redo his make-up and get back to his chores. Very occasionally, I might be feeling ‘mischievous’, and it will amuse me to scold him about how he looks like a slut, with his make-up all smeared and ‘deal with’ his shamelessness.
    The last time was 6 or 7-weeks ago. After a particularly lengthy session, I stared down into his wistful eyes, noting too that he seemed ever so pleased with himself for serving me so well for so long, no doubt yearning for a small word of praise.
    I couldn’t help myself. I sternly scolded him over his effrontery in presenting himself to me looking like a slut, telling him to take a shower immediately, iron a clean uniform, and apply his make-up properly. He could then get straight back to finishing his chores… “And to teach you not to look so slatternly; you can fetch a bag of your punishment ironing and complete that as well! I’ll inspect it in the morning before I cane you! So make sure everything is neatly folded!” The poor dear was heartbroken.
    I however, then enjoyed my wand in bed! I was so satiated, I didn’t even hear him when he finally came to bed! I do like this life-style!

  4. Thank You for sharing this Mistress Scarlet. The differences in Your sex life and bb’s couldn’t be more pronounced. He is most fortunate to be privileged to be denied for Your pleasure.

    1. An initial expression of shock that turned into a realisation of my pronouncement’s accuracy. Then, I think him noticing how pleased I was with this new more accurate and damning measure of the disparity, and my obvious pleasure and absence of sympathy or guilt, pushed him to a state of sad helplessness, but also, there was a glint of him being in awe of me.

      1. so pretty much perfect then :)
        thank you for sharing, for all things considered, it is quite a contrast!!

  5. Christine M, your writing skills and talents make it sound so hot!
    I wish I could have half your talent to express my thoughts in English.
    This is one of the reasons why I don’t often participate in writing my daily dominant activities here.
    I have started writing about the first anniversary of the slave’s ;total denial and how we celebrated it, but it seems I will never finish it…

  6. Miss Christine, I’m always amazed at the new and inventive time wasting activities you have! First the lines, now ironing! What other devilish, and completely useless, tasks do you implement?

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