I have mentioned in a couple of posts in the last few months that I have been finishing work on a new publication. Most of you who read my blog will know that, four years ago, I published a BDSM manual, ( Gratifying Domination and Submissive Contentment – A Guidance Manual .) I have now published Addendum No.1.
In those four years since publication of my first manual, I have been very fortunate to begin close on-line associations with a good number of couples who are in long term dominant/submissive (DS) relationships. More specifically and most often, close associations with the Dommes in those relationships. We have shared experiences as a group and from each other learned many new activities and refinements; and even developed further refinements and techniques of our own, through discussion and experimentation. These new activities and refinements, (that can be as simple as utilising certain verbal mechanisms), provide huge gains in the subjugation of the submissive and in the pleasure of the Domme. Huge gains in the relationship symbiosis.
In addition, in the four years since my first BDSM manual was published, there have been considerable developments in new technology pertinent to the contents of this book and, as well, BDSM has become more mainstream which has meant there are well designed products and equipment easily available on-line, not readily available four years ago.
So, set out in this book, Addendum No. 1, is a collection of activities and techniques and simple sophistications that were not at all included, or barely touched on, in my original manual. This book is my undertaking to share this collection. (This book does not supersede my published Manual, this book is an addendum to the Manual.
I have been amazed by the popularity of my original BDSM manual which continues to be purchased in large volumes since its launch four years ago. A wonderful indication, among others, that more and more relationships are experiencing the journey and pleasures of domination and submission.
Some of the optimisation techniques in my new publication have been scattered through my blog over the last four years with each technique set out initially and, now and again revisited, but my blog is not a book and so none of those technique are comprehensively dealt with in one single place. The remainder of these optimisation techniques are either matters on which I have been in private email discussion with associate Dommes, or have come from my own experimentation. Covid lock-downs have been a boon for the time required for that experimentation!
In due course the book will be available on LULU. com as a paperback and an ePub. The book is available now on Kindle.
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Dommes, I hope you enjoy as much as I have, experimenting with and incorporating into your lives the activities and sophistications set out in the book. And, submissives, I hope the result of your Domme’s experimentation and enhancements deepen your feelings of helpless submission as much as certainly seems to have been the effect on bitch-boy. As always, submissives, be careful what you wish for!
THE FIRST REVIEW: An excellent book. I am reading and loving it. You have such a unique writing style. As I read it I am transported into a submissive experience where the terrifying yet highly arousing torments are endured by me. It stirs me deeply. What a powerful array of guides and methods for any Domme and her fortunate sub. JMF
THE SECOND REVIEW: A highly rewarding and addictive read for anyone into this so special lifestyle from either side. For those less experienced to the experienced there is something for whatever stage their relationship is at. There is both width and depth and a high level of experience and understanding from the author. So you can go back and review if it is not quite the right time. Any Mistress wishing to deepen their Submissive’s desire to go deeper into subspace will be enthralled by new ideas that push a sub to yearn for more. Boundary breaking. Excellent from start to finish. More please. PB
6 thoughts on “My Addendum No.1 is published (for Kindle)”
I have purchased it and am reading it voraciously. I love that you have covered a number of topics of great interest to me such as the tedium of line-writing, the sheer terror of mouthsoaping, and the monotony of corner time.
Please let me know what you think when you have finished it.
An excellent book. I am reading and loving it. You have such a unique writing style. As I read it I am transported into a submissive experience where the terrifying yet highly arousing torments are endured by me. It stirs me deeply. What a powerful array of guides and methods for any Domme and her fortunate sub.
Thank you for the kind comment.
Just finished reading Addendum No. 1 (twice) and all I can say is WOW! I once commented on your blog that you were quintessential expert of the Femdom world (or something like that as I couldn’t find the actual quote). You, being so modest, said you weren’t so sure about that. But your new “Addendum #1” is clearly an example of this. Nobody else is putting out this quality material .
But here are some examples of how you are educating everyone with you manuals and blog. I’ve been reading Femdom material long before the Internet, so I’ve read a lot. There is a women who writes a blog (but no longer keeps it updated) who wrote that her husband ask her to be “more cruel” to him. She said she would and in a follow up blog post she said “I don’t know why that works (being more cruel) but it does”. Now if you read Ms. Scarlet’s blog and manuals you know exactly why that works. A submissive is a person who cannot be truly content without feeling helplessly in the power of a pitiless, cruel dominant among other things.
Another blog had a women leave a comment saying something like “I don’t punish my husband much because I view it as a failure on my part when he needs punished. But I find when I do punish him it works! His behavior does change in a positive way. Also I find when I punish him hard I get wet between my legs and I have to take care of myself. Again, if you read Ms. Scarlet’s blog and manuals you know why this is a symbiotic relationship and why both the sub and dom get something out of this type of relationship.
Another women who is very popular on the Internet and has written several books and pushes the Femdom style she calls “Dom-centric”. Nothing wrong with this, in fact I think my wife would have an easier time embracing this style of Femdom. But I don’t see where a sub like me would get their contentment. In this style the sub isn’t told what to do, but “anticipates” the dom’s needs. Also there is no punishments for misdeeds, sloppy work, backchat, etc. She says if the sub is failing to live up to his commitment to serve me we sit down and have a talk to find out what the problem is. To her punishment is too much work. Would the dom get the contentment from this style? I don’t know. Under Ms. Scarlet Femdom style, the answer is yes to both questions (on contentment).
One more example. There is a group on Fetlife that pushes a style they refer to as “Not One Wayism”. They preach there are many different ways a women can run her FLR and it can still be considered a FLR. It doesn’t have to be this way or that way. Good advice, except when someone come on and writes about their FLR, they descend down from their perch and write this is how I run my FLR and I’ve been doing it for X many years and this is a tried and true way. Then they spout off the SAFE, SANE AND CONSENSUAL mantra and one actually said if the sub isn’t an equal part of the relationship with equal say and respect then it is abuse. Ms. Scarlet says, “A submissive cannot be truly content without feeling helplessly in the power of a pitiless, cruel women.” I could go on, but I won’t.
So this is the reason I believe your blog and journals and manuals are the gold standard by which to rate all other texts and an authority on the subject. Just my opinion, of course.
To finish up, I also really liked how you completed you Addendum #1 with the chapter “Why ARE submissives submissive?” I really loved how you slayed the 5 myths of why men are submissive. I saw and read all of them (myths) throughout the years and it was one of the reasons it took me so long to recognize I was submissive. Those things were preached as facts. In fact, I still see those, even today (just yesterday). So thanks for all that you do.
Wow, thank you so much for the kind words. No problem either way but if it is possible for you to give me a review on Amazon or LULU that would be awesome. Thank you again.