First, a HUGE thank you for the amazing response to my previous post. I am so grateful to have such a helpful gang looking out for what is best for me! THANK YOU!
Unfortunately, a good number of commenters on my last post suggested gender neutral names for bitch-boy which was not the task. The task was a way to replace the words, ‘he’ and ‘him’ and ‘his’ with genderless terms that would not be used for a human being. Also a number of commenters suggested using “speech marks” which unfortunately cannot work as I will often use the terms in question, “within passages of speech“, which are already in italics and bounded by speech marks.
The vote was broadly equal between options 1 and 3. There were a number of objections to 3 over it causing confusion to the reader. (No apostrophe when there WAS possession.) There were objections to option 1 over confusion with the acronym for information technology, which I struggled to have sympathy for given, firstly the context of what I write, and secondly, how the subconscious of the reader will quickly adapt to the use I MAKE of the word IT. And also objections over what I deal with in my next paragraph.
As many of you know, I analyse everything that is based on convention. I reject a huge amount of convention in the domination-submission world that has so often been founded on misunderstanding and never been corrected. For instance: The term BDSM. The phrase, Safe, Sane, and Consensual. That the male in the book Venus in Furs was a masochist! So many commenters had a problem with capitalisation of the word, ‘IT’, because capitalisation has often been used in femdom communications for references to the Domme, while lower case used for references to the submissive. (A very clunky and significant grammar error no one seems to have a problem with!)
Raising this issue with me, caused me to think long and hard about the importance of my slave-husband. I resolved that while it is true that he has no importance of status, he is of great SIGNIFICANCE to me, is that importance? A significance worthy of capitalisation though! It has me thinking all long-term submissive spouses warrant capitalisation, but not for reasons they like! They are a very significant focus of their Domme when they so often would rather not be.
There were only two commenters who wanted bitch-boy to retain a gender. I am perhaps incorrectly thinking that means everyone else would prefer I choose option 1, 2 or 3 rather then 4, even if the option I choose out of 1, 2 or 3 is not their preferred option. No one wrote that were I to choose an option from 1, 2 or 3they did not like, they would stop reading my journals!
So, although my mind is not made up at all over what I will do, I probably will eradicate his gender and I am minded to go for, ; ‘IT’ and IT’s, and if so, I will include the following within the introduction of my next journal:
For possible inclusion in the journal introduction
He and his are replaced with IT and IT’s in this journal because I have chosen to delete the gender of my slave-husband. As IT has at most, two erections and orgasms per year, and soon will never have any for the rest of IT’s life, for all intents and purposes IT is not male, and certainly he can never reach the high status of female. No operational sexual organ equals no gender.
The capitalisation does not represent importance of status. The capitalisation has three purposes in all.
## Chiefly, it is to make it easier for the reader to understand the passages.
## Secondly, it is the case that the capitalisation represents significance. IT is very, very significant in my life. IT is the foundation of my totally satisfying and extraordinary sex life. IT is also my personal slave, providing manicures, pedicures, hair washing, hair drying, leg and cunt and arm-pit shaving, feet moisturising, etc. IT is also my chore slave, doing all chores inside and outside the home so I have no chores to do. I am sure IT wishes IT was not significant to me in this regard.
## Thirdly, IT is the target of my gratuitous meanness and my sadism. I am sure IT wishes IT was not significant to me in this regard.
IT, certainly does not feel the capitalisation represents importance of status! Clearly the capitalisation cannot represent importance of status given: IT is constantly teased but has no sex life, IT does all the chores and often the most lowly chores repeated several times. It is physically tortured for my amusement, and IT is a thing that suffers the worst degradations and humiliations. No, the capitalisation clearly cannot represent importance of status and I am sure IT very often wishes IT was not significant to me in the ways it is.