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Art of sissymaid

Many submissive males fantasise about becoming enslaved as 24/7/365, permanently chastised, seriously used and abused, cuckolded, sissy maids. Fantasies of 24/7/365 extreme use and abuse as a sissy-maid are, for many submissive males, the ultimate fantasy. This blog features written, potentially real-life accounts of such situations, including: (Candy Floss and Pamela, Mistress Anita and Fifi, Mary from Maxstoke, Letters from the owner of Susette FAGGOTT.) I have dipped my pretty toes into the experience, although for only a few consecutive days at a time, and I can’t deny for those Mistresses who have zero interest in the vanilla company of their submissive male, it must be a VERY REWARDING AND EXHILARATING lifestyle. Indeed, if the Mistress (A) has no interest in the vanilla company of the submissive, and (B) the submissive does not need outside employment because no income from the submissive is needed, or he retires with a pension, then in all those circumstances, the evolution of the relationship to the regimen described is almost inevitable.

Perhaps understandably, visual images of such regimen on the net are pretty much non-existent, although the latter above example does have some photos of susette faggot. So visual depictions that capture the essence of such a regimen, with all its grindingly relentless chore time and gratuitous torments and punishments, are only found in artists illustrations. The art quality is usually at the low end of the spectrum but notwithstanding that, some artists still beautifully capture the essence of the regimen. One such artist is the wonderful Lady Carole, with whom I have had the privilege of exchanging pleasantries and who has been featured on my blog before.

Well I have been directed to a collection of work on the theme of this regimen by an artist called, sissymaid1973. Although his art quality is at the low end of the spectrum, it does nonetheless, beautifully capture the essence of the regimen. I provide some examples below. sissymaid1973 has a portfolio on the website, Deviant Art.

Anyone have any other examples of visual depictions of this particular regimen?

Perhaps my favourite image. It seduces my depraved mind into the image. My little puppet cleaning the patio for the third time on the trot, despite the first two times being perfect. Approaching him and him expecting the probability of being told he has done enough on it now, but instead, crushing his hopes of mercy, by spitting in his face and telling him to get on with it; while I go out with my girlfriends, one of which is of course, my lover.

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Volume 18 of my journals is now available in most formats including  as a paperback in LULU.com.

(For anybody reading this post who does not know the purpose of the hole in the stage on which I stand, in the above journal cover image, follow this link for an explicit image.)

So far Volume 18 is published as an Amazon Kindle book, and an eBook and now as a paperback. In due course it will be available on iTunes Books, and Nook etc.

The eBook is also on Lulu.com. (Please note that if you are searching for my books on Lulu.com, you will need to tick the ‘explicit content box‘ to see all of my books.)

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On Amazon Kindle

USAUKDE. FRES. ITNLJPBRCAMXAU.

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Positive reviews of my recently published Journal; No. 18

5 STARS

Mistress Scarlet has done it again! Journals of Real Female Domination, Volume 18, is an exhilarating read from start to finish that chronicles the extraordinary life that she and her submissive husband enjoy. Written in her own unique style, this book transports the reader into the lived experience of lifestyle female domination in a way that captures the eroticism and complex mix of human emotions that very view authors manage to convey. Reading it is a visceral experience that sets the heart pumping and pulse racing. You may well find that it stirs emotions and desires that you have not perceived before. Whether you have read her previous journals and are aware of how her real life marriage has evolved or are new to her work you will find this an arousing and stimulating book. Once I started reading it I read it from cover to cover without putting it down.

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BTW your Journal #18 is fantastic!!!

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Hello Mistress Scarlet, I just finished and thoroughly enjoyed your 18th journal.
You are a very talented writer and it is always enjoyable to read in detail about your life with bitch-boy. It was nice to hear how affecting the photo collage is for poor bitch-boy and the resulting pleasure his suffering of being reminded of the pleasures he once had but will never, ever have again gives you. It must be difficult for bitch-boy knowing that future lovers you haven’t even met yet will be allowed to do all the things bitch-boy can only dream of doing with you.

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More mainstream, realistic dominance and submission

Below are two clips from the current SKY series Succession, which shows the submissive relationship between the character of Roman, a rich young man, with an older woman who works for his dad’s company. The only way the man appears to be able to “get off” is through massive verbal humiliation. It is great and KEY to see the older woman enjoying dominating and humiliating him.

In the first clip, 12:00 minutes onward,

In the second clip, from 13:20 to 15:15 minutes.

From the perspective of wanting a society where more men are submitting to a dominant wife for their lifetimes, it is much more valuable that, in this mainstream material, we see the woman enjoying dominating and humiliating the male, than that we see a male who is submissive. There are endless examples of submissive males in the mainstream but they are almost always dominated either by a professional dominatrix, or by a woman who is not at all enjoying her power and meanness. I don’t think any vanilla women question that there are submissive men out there, but vanilla women seem to have no idea that it can be beneficial and a serous pleasure to be properly in charge and mean. This is the phenomenon that is so rarely shown.

These three mainstream examples are also great because the women are dressed in everyday clothes and not in latex/rubber/leather/corsets/thigh boots or and other dominatrix uniform styles. And thirdly these women do not have amazing body shapes or facial beauty. They are everyday women.

But now we have Succession, On Becoming a God in Central Florida, and The Sinner

On Becoming a God in Central Florida
Succession
The Sinner

Are there other mainstream films or TV that show everyday women getting benefit and serious pleasure from being properly in charge and mean?

Two Things

1. Overnight with a Dominatrix

A fellow blog follower is seeking to emulate the experiences set out in my Journal Number 13 and Journal Number 15, overnight at The Institute. Does anyone know of a Dominatrix in the UK who offers sessions that can last 48 hours, including overnight ?

2. On stage, public, Golden Shower

A blog follower has kindly drawn my attention to an incident not many, certainly in the UK, will have heard of, I think.

The incident involves the beautiful singer, Sophia Urista , in the band Brass Against, giving a, seemingly very submissive, fan who climbed up onto the stage, a golden shower. A golden shower while his mouth is open too, so to speak!

There is a video of the incident on YouTube. Here are some still images.

A LINK for the video on Twitter

Sadly, a police report that was filed concerning the incident. Urista singled out a male fan in the crowd with a camera mounted to his head. She called him up onto the stage while the band was playing. She then told him to lie down on the stage, at which point she pulled down her pants and urinated on his face. Details have emerged regarding the incident itself. Urista told the audience she had to use the bathroom, and then said, “Get my man with the can on his head ready, ’cause we’re going to bring him onstage and I’mma piss in this motherf**ker’s mouth.” She added, “I gotta pee, and I can’t make it to the bathroom. So we might as well make a show out of it.”

The band initially responded to Twitter messages by writing, “We’re truly sorry. Not who we are as a band” and “We’re still processing … this was profoundly unexpected.” Later they issued a full statement: “We had a great time last night at Welcome to Rockville. Sophia got carried away. That’s not something the rest of us expected, and it’s not something you’ll see again at our shows. Thanks for bringing it last night, Daytona.”

I find it very hard to believe she is not, either a dominant, or a patriarchy hating woman, possibly, a lesbian patriarchy hating woman, who has very low regard for the male of the species. I may be wrong. Does anyone have any information about her as a person?

Achieving maximum cruelty?

Here is a short question I received that required a long answer.

Mistress, do you think you will ever reach the point where you achieve maximum cruelty? Where you can’t become anymore heartless or sadistic?

Answer

A much more tricky and complex question to answer than you might imagine. Although both issues are linked and codependent, I will start with the issue of maximum heartlessness. My definition of heartlessness is feeling no guilt, no pity, no sympathy, no inclination towards mercy while being cruel. I would say I am already at maximum heartlessness. I never, ever feel any guilt, pity, or sympathy, or ever have any inclination towards mercy while I am being cruel.

Linked though, is what constitutes maximum sadism. If I define my sadism as taking sexual pleasure in causing physical and/ or mental discomfort, I must first point out that discomfort for my plaything can come in many forms, including, sexual frustration from orgasm denial. And also having that frustration made worse by physical or visual teasing, or both. I currently set out to maximise this. I think I am successful in my objective. I could not get any worse.

Then we get the discomfort of tedium. I do not hesitate in imposing up to six hours or more of sensory deprivation bondage on my plaything, if I have a female lover/sub over. And, all full-on DS days I involve a minimum of two hours of some form of tedium torment. I do not think I could get any worse with this than my current capability and occasional application.

Then we have humiliation. I could not get worse with this. I will dress my plaything as humiliatingly as possible and have him perform in front of, whenever possible, any number of women he has never met before. I adore having him literally, physically trembling with anxiousness before such an event.

Then we get to causing physical pain and also subjecting him to degradation, (degradation – like having to lick clean the soles of my footwear or consume my urine and spit). I will put physical pain and degradation together. I put them together because these things can be taken to dangerously agonising, or dangerously unhealthy extremes and I would never do that. I feel no need so to do. As long as I have him genuinely pleading and begging with all his heart for the physical discomfort or the degradation to end, (or to not start), my sadism is satisfied. He is suffering and I am taking power-rush and sexual pleasure from that. I need go no further. I guess, although very unlikely, were he ever to become habituated to the levels of physical discomfort or degradation I currently cause, and therefore, he stopped genuinely pleading and begging with all his heart, I would need to ‘up the levels’, and I would not hesitate so to do.

The final issue is the proportion of waking time, my plaything is suffering in some way. Obviously increasing the proportion of time, is an increase in cruelty. But I have to say, I don’t think this aspect specifically relates to my sadistic desires, (apart from the 24/7/365 chastity and enduring orgasm denial, but I am not taking pleasure from that 24/7/365, because I forget about it. It has to be said though he might be suffering virtually 24/7/65, as he seems to much more rarely forget about it. LOL). I like to use him quite a bit for his vanilla company, but at all other times he is dominated in some way or other. But I think this proportion of time issue does relate to my feelings of power and ownership. The larger the proportion of time we are not in vanilla mode, the more I have that warm, decadent, relaxed feeling that I have absolute power over him, and that I OWN him. Like I own my car, or my shoes.

Coincidentally, associated with this, I have taken to padlocking a rubber collar on him 24/7/365 when at home. (Because it is rubber, he can bathe and shower with it on.) Every time I see the collar during vanilla times, which is very often, I do for a few moments get that warm, decadent, relaxed feeling that I have absolute power over him, and that I OWN him. Much more often than before he had to wear the collar 24/7/365 when at home. The collar is uncomfortable and is degrading for him but of course, I feel no guilt, no pity, no sympathy, and I have inclination towards allowing him to remove the collar for even a moment, so he wears it 24 hours a day, day after day after day.

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On another matter

Volume 18 is now available in most formats including  as a paperback in LULU.com.

(For anybody reading this post who does not know the purpose of the hole in the stage on which I stand, in the above journal cover image, follow this link for an explicit image.)

So far Volume 18 is published as an Amazon Kindle book, and an eBook and now as a paperback. In due course it will be available on iTunes Books, and Nook etc.

The eBook is also on Lulu.com. (Please note that if you are searching for my books on Lulu.com, you will need to tick the ‘explicit content box‘ to see all of my books.)

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On Amazon Kindle

USAUKDE. FRES. ITNLJPBRCAMXAU.

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Positive reviews of my recently published Journal; No. 18

5 STARS

Mistress Scarlet has done it again! Journals of Real Female Domination, Volume 18, is an exhilarating read from start to finish that chronicles the extraordinary life that she and her submissive husband enjoy. Written in her own unique style, this book transports the reader into the lived experience of lifestyle female domination in a way that captures the eroticism and complex mix of human emotions that very view authors manage to convey. Reading it is a visceral experience that sets the heart pumping and pulse racing. You may well find that it stirs emotions and desires that you have not perceived before. Whether you have read her previous journals and are aware of how her real life marriage has evolved or are new to her work you will find this an arousing and stimulating book. Once I started reading it I read it from cover to cover without putting it down.

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BTW your Journal #18 is fantastic!!!

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Hello Mistress Scarlet, I just finished and thoroughly enjoyed your 18th journal.
You are a very talented writer and it is always enjoyable to read in detail about your life with bitch-boy. It was nice to hear how affecting the photo collage is for poor bitch-boy and the resulting pleasure his suffering of being reminded of the pleasures he once had but will never, ever have again gives you. It must be difficult for bitch-boy knowing that future lovers you haven’t even met yet will be allowed to do all the things bitch-boy can only dream of doing with you.

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Realistic mainstream femdom on Netflix

For one minute and ten seconds, in season 1 of the series, On Becoming a God in Central Florida, there is a domestic femdom scene which is VERY realistic indeed. In the UK this is on Netflx, it may be available from other sources. It occurs 40 minutes and 34 seconds into episode 4. It is on Showtime on the US.

The Domme’s behaviour is incredibly realistic in depicting how she enjoys abusing the power she finds she has while she is completely relaxed; including her becoming sexually aroused. And the submissive freely makes clear he is a submissive and ‘is being positively affected’ by the abusive treatment of him.

BUT THAT IS THAT! There is no more mention and no more depicted activity of this femdom nature in the rest of the series. Further, there is no implication that femdom is continuing between the two, away from the included scenes . Why the scene was included is a mystery and the director, and / or actors, either researched what would be a very accurate depiction, or one or both have ‘lived’ the roles in real life.

I would imagine there will almost certainly be a season 2. I wonder if the femdom relationship will reappear. If no, I am bursting with curiosity as to why the scene was included and who in the production/acting team knows, to such an accurate degree, how domestic Dommes and subs act in real life?

Post UPDATE: This is a Youtube link to the first portion of the scene.

Volume 18 as a paperback now available

Volume 18 is now available as a paperback in LULU.com.

(For anybody reading this post who does not know the purpose of the hole in the stage on which I stand, in the above journal cover image, follow this link for an explicit image.)

So far Volume 18 is published as an Amazon Kindle book, and an eBook and now as a paperback. In due course it will be available on iTunes Books, and Nook etc.

The eBook is also on Lulu.com. (Please note that if you are searching for my books on Lulu.com, you will need to tick the ‘explicit content box‘ to see all of my books.)

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On Amazon Kindle

USAUKDE. FRES. ITNLJPBRCAMXAU.

.

Positive reviews of my recently published Journal; No. 18

5 STARS

Mistress Scarlet has done it again! Journals of Real Female Domination, Volume 18, is an exhilarating read from start to finish that chronicles the extraordinary life that she and her submissive husband enjoy. Written in her own unique style, this book transports the reader into the lived experience of lifestyle female domination in a way that captures the eroticism and complex mix of human emotions that very view authors manage to convey. Reading it is a visceral experience that sets the heart pumping and pulse racing. You may well find that it stirs emotions and desires that you have not perceived before. Whether you have read her previous journals and are aware of how her real life marriage has evolved or are new to her work you will find this an arousing and stimulating book. Once I started reading it I read it from cover to cover without putting it down.

.

BTW your Journal #18 is fantastic!!!

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Hello Mistress Scarlet, I just finished and thoroughly enjoyed your 18th journal.
You are a very talented writer and it is always enjoyable to read in detail about your life with bitch-boy. It was nice to hear how affecting the photo collage is for poor bitch-boy and the resulting pleasure his suffering of being reminded of the pleasures he once had but will never, ever have again gives you. It must be difficult for bitch-boy knowing that future lovers you haven’t even met yet will be allowed to do all the things bitch-boy can only dream of doing with you.

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I’ve just completed Volume 18. A wonderful publication. I have read it cover to cover. So exciting to read yours and bb’s evolving journey.

Bound by technology

In a recent post a month ago, I discussed the conditions required to, (and the ‘hotness’), of having a submissive bound by fear, rather then being bound physically. Well, I recently read of an innovative Domme who binds her submissive with technology. I am experimenting with it and it is cruel and amusing!

In the earlier post to which I make reference, I was referring to a submissive being bound only by fear, but nonetheless, taking a painful thrashing without moving . What I am about to describe is binding the sub with technology for a period of sensory deprivation ‘bondage’.

The innovative Domme has a kitchen in which the lighting is controlled by a passive infrared detector, (a PIR). Someone walks into the room and the lights go on. Movement ceases in the room, the lights go out. The innovative Domme does not ever use her 24/7/365 sissy-maid submissive for vanilla time company so the relationship is quite extreme. When the sissy-maid has completed all duties, usually by the early evening, and reports this to its Mistress, it is banished to the kitchen for sensory deprivation bondage. The sissy-maid enters the kitchen, switches on a baby monitor that sits on the counter, pulls a blindfold sleep-mask into place and stands in the centre of the room feet together and arms folded behind its back. Soon the lights go out.

The innovative Domme is lounging on her sofa in the sitting room, with the baby monitor receiver within her peripheral vision. She requires that if she looks at the receiver, she will see her blindfolded sissy-maid standing in the middle of the room, illuminated only by the night vision capability of the baby monitor. If she looks at the receiver, and sees her blindfolded sissy-maid, standing in the middle of the room, illuminated by the kitchen lighting, then the sissy-maid moved enough to turn on the kitchen lighting via the PIR. That amount of movement is prohibited and requires harsh punishment there and then or noted for a later date. But the innovative Domme presses the baby monitor intercom button and informs the sissy-maid the offence has been noted. I have to say I adore this! So relaxing, so decadent, so cruel.

Should the innovative Domme require some type of service from the sissy-maid, like a glass of wine, or snack, she has a little bell on a long handle that she shakes, to summon the sissy-maid to her. Once the serving is completed, the sissy-maid must return to the kitchen and into the technology, sensory deprivation bondage.

In addition, if there are friends visiting, or a cuckolding lover visiting, the sissy-maid finds itself in the kitchen and in the technology, sensory deprivation bondage. If it is the cuckolding lover, the bedroom and kitchen doors are left wide open so the sissy-maid gets to hear ALL the sounds of lovemaking and orgasmic delight.

I was thinking that outdoors as well, seems to be a fertile option. Although perhaps simply standing outside a sitting room or conservatory window, negating the need for the baby monitor element.

Positive reviews of my recently published Journal; No. 18

5 STARS

Mistress Scarlet has done it again! Journals of Real Female Domination, Volume 18, is an exhilarating read from start to finish that chronicles the extraordinary life that she and her submissive husband enjoy. Written in her own unique style, this book transports the reader into the lived experience of lifestyle female domination in a way that captures the eroticism and complex mix of human emotions that very view authors manage to convey. Reading it is a visceral experience that sets the heart pumping and pulse racing. You may well find that it stirs emotions and desires that you have not perceived before. Whether you have read her previous journals and are aware of how her real life marriage has evolved or are new to her work you will find this an arousing and stimulating book. Once I started reading it I read it from cover to cover without putting it down.

.

BTW your Journal #18 is fantastic!!!

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Hello Mistress Scarlet, I just finished and thoroughly enjoyed your 18th journal.
You are a very talented writer and it is always enjoyable to read in detail about your life with bitch-boy. It was nice to hear how affecting the photo collage is for poor bitch-boy and the resulting pleasure his suffering of being reminded of the pleasures he once had but will never, ever have again gives you. It must be difficult for bitch-boy knowing that future lovers you haven’t even met yet will be allowed to do all the things bitch-boy can only dream of doing with you.

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I’ve just completed Volume 18. A wonderful publication. I have read it cover to cover. So exciting to read yours and bb’s evolving journey.

Journal No.18 now published.

Journal No.18 is now published and the early feedback has been wonderful.

So far it is published as an Amazon Kindle book, and an eBook. In due course it will be available as a paperback on LULU.com and will be available on iTunes Books, and Nook etc.

The eBook is on Lulu.com. (Please note that if you are searching for my books on Lulu.com, you will need to tick the ‘explicit content box‘ to see all of my books.

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On Amazon Kindle

USA. UK. DE. FR. ES. IT. NL. JP. BR. CA. MX. AU.

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Hello Mistress Scarlet, I just finished and thoroughly enjoyed your 18th journal.
You are a very talented writer and it is always enjoyable to read in detail about your life with bitch-boy. It was nice to hear how affecting the photo collage is for poor bitch-boy and the resulting pleasure his suffering of being reminded of the pleasures he once had but will never, ever have again gives you. It must be difficult for bitch-boy knowing that future lovers you haven’t even met yet will be allowed to do all the things bitch-boy can only dream of doing with you.

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I’ve just completed Volume 18. A wonderful publication. I have read it cover to cover. So exciting to read yours and bb’s evolving journey.