Refined Curt Instructions

Two more submissives (below) confirming the subjugation value of curt instructions! And two wonderful Mistresses who have refined the technique superbly.


You are truly a Goddess! Any submissive male should recognise that reality! i have been subject to curt instructions and as you say, “thank you” is not a part of that…a more appropriate reply after he’s obeyed an order might be…”return to your duties” or “get back to work”!


Mistress – I didn’t comment on your earlier post about using curt commands but it has been a standard part of my Mistress’ approach for a long time. It absolutely changes the nature of “vanilla time” from a partial respite from kink time to an extension of it.

Of course there have to be exceptions for clarity but her general practice is to use only a single word. She never uses “please”, which would suggest a request vs. a command. And, as you said, never “thank you”.

Instead of “get me a cup of tea” she would simply say “tea”. Instead of “get me my yoga bag” she would say “yoga bag” (admittedly two words) and point to where she wants me to put it. Or, instead of “get my my cell phone”, just “phone” (we no longer have a landline phone!) and point to her feet if she wants it brought to her or perhaps point to a table if that’s where she wants it.

There are certainly times in public and vanilla settings where she is much less “curt” – I guess you’d say “more appropriate” – but whenever possible curt has, for some time, been her standard.

That includes when we are with the small handful of friends who are aware of the nature of our relationship. She does not, as you do, have friends that are in active dominant relationships or (as far as I know) even looking for one, but the several who know of ours are clearly drawn to and fascinated by it. My Mistress has invited them to use curt instructions to me, which they started doing very tentatively and now more routinely.



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Curt instructions new years resolution.

At the end of last month I published two posts on the pleasure and effect, during vanilla times, of issuing curt, impolite instructions to your submissive instead of polite requests. Publishing these posts, and seeing the numerous comments from submissives passionately endorsing how much curt instructions in vanilla times affect them deeply, I decided to ramp up my own use of curt instructions during vanilla times.

Well what a pleasure it truly is, bringing a little power rush almost every time, especially when the instruction is as curt as it can be. And then seeing bitch-boy obediently scurry off to carry out the instruction obviously feeling quite bullied and exploited by my behaviour. Delightful! (And obviously no, thank you, when the instruction has been carried out).

Get my yoga bag, top up my wine, put my shoes away, load the dishwasher, get me a cup of tea, defrost my car, get me a towel, tidy the kitchen, get my gym shoes, get my book from the bedroom, get my cell phone, put my cell phone on charge, etc, etc.

I may well make it one of my new year’s resolutions to maximise issuing curt instructions at every opportunity. I have noticed it becoming much more natural and subconscious to me. It feels soon it will be a natural thing I do in vanilla times without thinking about it. Poor bitch-boy will be even more subjugated to me and addicted to me. And I’ll have little hits of extra pleasure every day.

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So close : Xmas day nettles

Just a quick post as an update. From three stinging nettle stems picked and used yesterday, one produced VERY powerful stings indeed. We are so close to an Xmas day of using stinging nettles!

Mistress Nicola was over and expertly applied the nettle stem for A LONG TIME! When it seemed she was satisfied and bitch-boy was writhing and sobbing, I held his clitty upright with my tongs and the foreskin was back and invited Mistress Nicola to attend to the cock head. Her front was sensuously pressed into my back and with one warm hand sensuously holding me where top of thigh meets tummy, she attended to the cock head with the nettles in her other hand. From bitch-boy’s reaction, this was much, much more painful than on the shaft. So much sobbing and carrying on when we had finished.

So four days to go and we will have to got to Xmas day. Fingers crossed there are no serious frosts before then.


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Fix for the video echo problem.

Well my thanks go to Mark who solved the problem with an easy fix. Open the videos using the latest version of Google Chrome browser.

Well done Mark.

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New girlfriend for bitch-boy

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Yes a picture paints a thousand degrading words! My right wedge shoe (RWS)  is until further notice, bitch-boy’s only sexual partner. His new girlfriend. As things stand, all orgasms come from intimate contact between him and RWS. The sole of RWS to be precise.

As I mentioned in previous posts, I JUST ABSOUTLEY ADORE this new way of milking him. Yesterday there was some foreplay before the milking. I had the contraption the other way round on the little chair, and RWS spent quite some time stomping and squashing his little  clitty. Such intimate, passionate and meticulous foreplay! Then after the foreplay, the contraption was turned the right way around  and RWS pressed down hard on his clitty which was pressed onto the massager head and as soon as he began to cum, RWS lifted from the clitty, causing a spoiled orgasm.

As you will also have read before, on the whim of Mistress Nicola, bitch-boy was only to have spoiled orgasms from November 13, the day of her whim, until at least Xmas day. So Xmas day, or sometime soon after, he is expecting a proper orgasm. Expecting it no doubt, from my soft, skilled, cool, slim fingers. I am wondering whether, although it will be a full orgasm, should it be from his new girlfriend instead of my hands? Decisions, decisions.

I should also mention that, of course, he has to show proper respect to his new girlfriend. So I like to leave RWS out by the wall of the sitting room. The whenever he curtseys to me, on entering or leaving the room, he also has to curtsey to her as well.


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The video site echo

Further to my last post, a few people had a look at the issue for me. I thank them all even though some made much more effort than others!

It seems that as soon as a video is selected its soundtrack immediately starts playing and then after the visual images have buffered they begin playing with their own soundtrack.

So kind blog followers, I am still looking for some help to solve the problem.

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A video site

Akash left a comment with a link on my last post. The link is to a BDSM video site. The site seems fab with lots of femdom videos I have not seen before. Its worth a look. But, I am asking for help, dear blog followers, as I so often do.

Many of the videos have an awful echo effect and if you pause them it seems there is a copy of the video playing somewhere else which can be heard but not seen. Anybody know what’s going on or how to lose the echo?



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