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Cake and eat it too!

One major hurdle for women flirting with the idea of being a Domme is often expressed with words to the effect of: ‘I want a real man, to look after me, not a weak submissive man.‘ And one major hurdle for Mistress-wives flirting with the idea of dressing their submissive as a French maid, or sissy maid, or parody of a schoolgirl, or parody of a little girl, is often expressed with words to the effect of: ‘I want to dominate a real masculine man not a weak feminine man.’

Well I implore such women to experiment and they will most often find they can have their cake and eat it too. ALL the women I have been in close exchanges with who have experimented after expressing such qualms, change their approach and never look back! By way of explanation I will give a brief insight into a day of mine a few days ago .

When bitch-boy woke me with tea in bed, I informed him that the day was to be a full-on DS day. He would repeatedly suffer considerable physical discomfort and he would suffer very considerable humiliation and tedium for a lengthy period. And he would NOT be getting to cum. The DS element of the day would probably last seven or eight hours.

Before he had got very far digesting this announcement and coming to terms with it, I asked him. ‘What do you say?’ I adore this simple verbal tweaking of his submissive soul with the injustice of him having to answer as he must. Which he did, although a little gloomily. ‘Thank you Mistress.‘ I answered in a tone of mock irritation. ‘I should think so!‘ What a lovely start to my day; and plenty for my poor puppet to think about.

However, sticking to the point of this post , I will skim over his very hash deterrent punishment, (Oh how he pleaded, and I repeatedly, verbally raised and dashed his hopes that I might end the punishment! Until finally I did). I will skim over how I played with his boy’s bits for over an hour while he was in sensory deprivation bondage and I sat next to him on the sofa and I watched a subtitled TV programme I love. (He has not cum for 9 weeks!) I will skim over his second punishment, given just because I could; and later how his stiff little defect suffered while I used my Vampire gloves. And I now get to the first relevant activity for this post.

I had him dressed in his full-on parody of a little girl outfit, (see previous post), and for half an hour he had to face me and whisper the words to the nursery rhyme, I’m a little tea-pot while performing the actions, while mainly ignored him and I enjoyed social media on my cell phone. Occasionally I would glance up at him and, using a harsh tone, briefly tell him how pathetic he was.

Then he had to colour-in with his dolly for THREE HOURS! His humiliation was very deep as was his tedium. He hated every second of that humiliation, made worse by my sporadic comments about how he was not a real man, just a pathetic sissy and a pathetic submissive put on this planet to be used and abused by women like me. I whipped and stomped on his defect on the stomping stage for half an hour and, having had 9 orgasms throughout the day, I finally decided DS time was over. (He got locked back up: He did not get to cum.)

And I now get to the second relevant activity for this post. I told him I would now be using him for his vanilla company until sleep time. He put things away and changed into his vanilla clothes. We then sat in the conservatory, discussed the news of the day, and drunk wine together. I nestled into his large barrel chest and his muscular heavy arm comfortingly draped over me. I felt utterly content, and comfortable and protected and safe. All was right and perfect in my world.

I praised and thanked him for how he had charmingly but assertively dealt with a brutish argumentative delivery driver the day before and a tradesman working on the boundary with the neighbours house on the same day. (It made me think about a holiday I am planning in a slightly dodgy third world country and how safe I will feel with the charmingly assertive, barrel chested, large shouldered bitch-boy by my side.) I slept briefly for a while with my head on his chest. (Believe me, a couple of lengthy sessions wielding punishment implements and NINE massive orgasms in a day, takes it out of girl!) I woke and, after we ate, we watched TV, with me again cuddled into him, resting my head on his chest. What a blissful day!

So ladies, experiment! Your submissive needs to suffer deep humiliation to sleep the very soundest sleep of a submissive – who truly knows he is; helplessly in the power of a cruel, pitiless, dominant woman. AND YOU CAN HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO!

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Flattery or fantasy; from imitation?

Well I cannot deny being quite shocked by this image on BDSMLR. Shocked because it must surely be more than just a coincidence that the male in the photo wears EXACTLY the same head harness, dress and mincing ribbons as I often have bitch-boy in. The head harness also sports a pink satin bow atop, although bitch-boy’s pink satin bow is about three times the size.

Just to be clear, I don’t mean these three items are very similar, I mean they are EXACTLY THE SAME. And in the background, there is a blow-up doll which of course bitch-boy once used to have as his ONLY sex partner.

So I do wonder, what is the story? A MASSIVE, MASSIVE coincidence, or a male submissive who follows my blog and reads my journals or, fingers crossed, a Domme who follows my blog and reads my journals and has forced her little puppet into this attire. The photo is on BDSMLR here.

(For complete accuracy I must point out, I had the dress shortened for bitch-boy by one row of frill, just to make sure is was maximum humiliating!)

Making Comments on posts: Comments do not appear on my blog until I have moderated them. Comments that insult anyone will not be published, nor will aggressive comments. A wide range of views is truly welcome, we all have things to learn, however comments will not be published that take a contrary or critical view to any aspect of a post, but fail to explain why this contrary view is held, or fail to address the reasoning set out in the post to which the comment relates. (Such unexplained contrary comments are simply boring.)

Images of REAL Dominant wives and girlfriends

Well, not exactly, but…………………..

There are many submissive men who wish their wife or girlfriend was dominant, or who are seeking a dominant female. The internet, with 90% of its images of dominant women being professional dominatrices, can easily trick submissive men into thinking those internet images are what dominant women look like and behave like most of the time.

So here are images that represent what most submissive men see most of the time when those men are under the 24/7/365 domination of a REAL dominant woman. Not a Miss-World-super-model dressed in a selection from PVC, latex, corsets, above the elbow gloves, exotic lingerie, thigh high boots, sky high heels, etc. But a girl-next-door -type, dressed in everyday clothes, or sometimes alluring, but comfortable clothes. And not endlessly using BDSM equipment in her constant attendance to the male, but relaxing while the male, often in another room, toils on chores, or tedium torments, or becomes human furniture or waits quietly for an instruction.

And there will be vanilla times when a REAL dominant woman uses her male for his vanilla company. And there will be lots of orgasms – for her! (Why does all vanilla erotic literature and why do all vanilla sex blogs depict the women constantly enjoying massive orgasm after orgasm, while almost all femdom literature and femdom blogs are silent on the frequent, massive orgasms we REAL dominant women enjoy??? Far better and many more than when we were vanilla.)

Obviously there are punishments or punishment ‘sessions’ of one kind or another, to ensure obedience, and almost certainly torment sessions of physical discomfort and / or humiliation for the amusement of the dominant, possibly a maid’s uniform for him, possibly cuckolding and chastity, but,

I am interested to learn, you submissive males seeking to be under the control of your very own domestic tyrant, are these images representative of what you are expecting to see for many hours each week of your submission? And would your submissive core be content?




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YouTube Femdom video

I came across a link on Femdom Resource to this amusing mainstream music video on YouTube.


On the YouTube page, one suggested video was this video which may be a music video? I honestly do not know.


Then this video, with no English language, I found contained ethically confusing messages but was an interesting video up to the 4th minute. I would love to know what was being said throughout.


The last two just go to show that you do not need petticoating, nudity, bondage or physical punishment to create an erotic femdom scenario worth watching. (Not, of course, that I am opposed to seeing femdom related petticoating, nudity, bondage or physical punishment!)

It made me wonder what the best femdon videos on YouTube might be and how to find them.

It also had me thinking how I would like to write screen plays for videos acceptable on YouTube, yet still deeply erotic on powerfully subjugating femdom themes.


New Section For The Blog

Ladies- adopt the lifestyle

My biggest pleasure from writing on this blog would be that, as a result, another woman, or several, adopt a lifestyle similar to mine and enjoy all that I do. To that end I have added a new section to this blog. On the top menu bar you will see the new heading, (Ladies – adopt the lifestyle),  I will be expanding this new section over time.