I mentioned in my post on 21 August 2019 the term or label ‘SADIST’, along the lines of the following two paragraphs.
I have expressed often, that sadism is a natural trait in humans inherited through evolution, as a means of clarifying relative statuses in a pack of mammals. It’s form in humans is taking pleasure in inflicting physical and/or mental pain. One must have power over the subject of ones sadism. (Be of higher status in the pack.)
It took me a number of years to accept having the word applied to me although there was NEVER any doubt I was a sadist. (My definition is someone who finds pleasure in inflicting physical or mental pain on another.) Now I treat it as a badge I am proud of. It seems it takes considerable independence and mental strength to reject the behavioural shackles of society to the extent of acknowledging one is a sadist.
One comment on that blog post re-confirmed that other Dommes have a problem with the word, sadist. I am really wondering why I too used to have this problem years ago, and so many other Dommes still do. I am fairly sure that if a Domme says to a sub male she meets, that she is a sadist, the sub male is instantly in awe of the Domme and instantly placed on a pedestal. So why the resistance of Dommes to the ‘S’ word; many of whom ARE happy to be labelled, cruel?
I should amplify that causing pain can by of the physical type; or mental pain through serious humiliation, degradation or tedium; or the pain of teasing and sexual release denial.
The definition of CRUEL from the MacMillan Dictionary:
– someone who is cruel, who enjoys causing pain to other people or animals, or enjoys making them unhappy or upset
The definition of SADIST:
– someone who gets pleasure from hurting or being cruel to someone else
I would be very interested to have comments from Dommes who are, and who are not, happy to be labelled, sadist, and why they feel as they do.
I would also be interested to have comments from subs confirming whether they find that hearing a woman is a sadist has an effect on them.
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