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Eye to Eye Tormenting

There is a phenomenon that is  very intense for both parties involved but I know of only a limited number of activities when one can indulge. This is when the Domme can be looking into the eyes of a sub, who is looking back at her, at the exact moments of regulating or increasing a torment. Such activities require that the Domme does not need to look away for even a second,  while she is regulating or increasing the intensity of the torment.

Nipple Pinching is one such activity. Not using clamps, but actually one’s fingers and thumbs.

Increasing the electrical power of a Tens Unit is another. But to be honest, even moving the dial around very slowly, it is only a second or two between, uncomfortable, and, the sub thrashing around in the their bonds and not being able to hold eye contact.

A new activity I have been enjoying experimenting with, on a bound bitch-boy, is pushing a dildo down his throat, past the gag reflex point. Doing so as I look into his pleading, distress filled eyes. SO HOT! …….. Much to his immense shame and extreme discomfort,  I am training him to be able to deep-throat a long, thrusting cock like a well practised whore. A couple of entries in my imminent new journal, recount sessions of his early training in very fine detail, including; an appropriate whore-money-maker outfit and an hour of forced video watching, while bound, of a video compilation of deep throating. Then comes the practical lesson!

Face slapping can just about work as an activity for engaging the phenomenon but I can think of no other physical activities.

So I ask dear blog reader, do you know of any other activities that engage the phenomenon of  the Domme looking into the eyes of the sub, who is looking back at her, at the exact moments of regulating or increasing a torment?

There are activities of humiliation  that can engage the phenomenon, but perhaps not quite so intensely as when physical pain/discomfort is involved. Although quite a rare event, one can lock eyes with the sub while  the Domme is speaking on the phone to a new partner Domme and arranging the new partner Domme’s first visit to one’s house. Eyes still locked with bitch-boy, as I describe to the impending visitor, the parody of a little girl outfit bitch-boy will be made to wear and the little girl activities he will be made to perform during her visit.

More common an occurrence can be a question and answer session designed to humiliate. I once had an amazing Domme visit my home and bitch-boy was indeed dying with shame as he had been made to wear a parody of a little girl outfit and his dollies were nearby. His shame reached staggering levels as she locked eyes with him and then engaged in a question and answer session. (And, oh my, her demeanour and her eyes could not have been more disdainful, cruel and mocking.) I had made clear to bitch-boy that even the slightest failure to engage fully would result in a phenomenal and immediate thrashing!

Asked with long pauses between each question, to milk every last drop of his shame from it, moving onto the next question.

Which is your favourite dolly? ………………………What’s her name? ……………………………..Why is she your favourite dolly, you little maggot? ………………………………………..What little games do you play with her. ……………………………Do you love her with all your heart? ………………………Ask her if she loves you with all her heart. And on and on and on went the questions. Poor bitch-boy was shattered by the end and his shame was so intense as he had been having to look into her disdainful, cruel and mocking eyes the whole time.

Having to do nursery rhymes with actions can also work with eyes locked.

Returning to the phenomenon in question, there is also the degradation activity when one can lock eyes, while the sub has to drink urine from source.

Finally, I can ask my girlfriend to stand behind my sub and apply cane or whip strokes to his butt, while I look into his eyes. But to engage the phenomenon each stroke must be individually requested. I can look into bitch-boy’s eyes and say, ‘The first stroke please Nicola‘. Thwack! ‘Another‘. Thwack. ‘Another.‘ Thwack! This just about engages the phenomenon but it is not quite the same as when one is physically regulating or increasing the intensity one’s self.

I’m afraid I have rambled rather. Just to be clear, I will repeat, I am requesting dear blog reader; do you know of any other activities that engage the phenomenon of  the Domme looking into the eyes of the sub, who is looking back at her, at the exact moments of regulating or increasing a torment?

My BDSMLR site

My new BDSMLR site that replaced my Tumblr site already has 1600 followers. I imagine so far BDSMLR has far fewer users than Tumblr.

My Tumblr site had over 18,000 flowers before Tumblr was sold and ‘explicit’ images were banned. I always took from the number of followers an indication that there were/are many people who share my tastes in female dominance. Particularly things not in the Femdom mainstream industry, like; #males distressed by petticoating humiliation, #males undergoing hours of tedium, #males being humiliated and ignored, #wives, girlfriends and or mothers-in-law dressed in everyday clothes humiliating a male who is naked, or is a sissy maid or school-girl, #the use and abuse of males in everyday homes, #’lesbian’ wives with their girlfriends cuckolding their chastised husbands .

So where possible, I do not post images in dungeons or where women are in corsets, leather or PVC. Some examples:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When I imply ‘I post’, that is not actually the case. bitch-boy is given a number by me, of posts to make each week, sometimes high, sometimes low. And these posts must all be images I LIKE VERY MUCH. If I do not like one, or I am inadequately titillated by one, he is, of course, punished. And given his state of sexual denial and his inescapable chastity cage, I am sure the poor thing finds this task quite a trial!

There are no posts of lesbian domination. As much as I adore a pic of a helplessly bound and very vulnerable female submissive, I feel such imagery is not suitable for male submissives to be pointed toward.

 

Zero Vanilla Time Extreme

Dirty sissy Jessica recently left comments on this blog she thought I would be interested in. She was right. Her comments identified a DS relationship she had come/cum across on Twitter. (No pun intended I hope Jessica!)

On 11 March 2018 I published a post about how long term DS relationships tend to have the magnitude of how extreme they are, defined by how much the Domme gets pleasure from the vanilla company of the sub. If she gets no pleasure from his vanilla company, then the most extreme relationship and activities quickly develop.

Well, the relationship identified by Dirty sissy Jessica certainly seems to be one where the amazing Domme gets no pleasure from the subs vanilla company; so extremes have blossomed!

It is yet another clear example of how a true submissive can become profoundly addicted to a ruthless, heartless and cruel dominant woman. Mistress Jay has a website but it is her twitter account, (@MistressJay1),  video clips that best reveal the nature of her relationship with her sub, @ButlerJonBoy. The fantastic Mistress Jay and her equally fantastic associate, Mistress Saskia, are fine examples of truly dominant women. And butler john boy gives yet another demonstration of just what true submissives will endure to obtain time in the company of cruel, heartless women.

I know for subs like my bitch-boy, who spend a proportion of their lives in vanilla time, the concept of a zero vanilla time life is probably a fantasy. But I wonder if such subs would really get more from life in such a relationship? A question impossible to answer I think.

 

For info on my own BDSM manual, click on an image below.

 

Vile Task, to be done more often!

About every 9 to 12 months, our walk-in shower trap needs removing and cleaning. This is discovered to be due when the water does not drain away quickly and one ends up standing in soiled water. Not appropriate for a princess’s beautiful feet I think!

It has just happened and my first thought was to issue a curt instruction to bitch-boy to clean it out. That would amuse me a little as it is a truly vile job. The trap is full of my beautiful long blonde hair matted with disgusting grey soap residue. Having bitch-boy clean this vile mess also no doubt reminds him of all the times he has been pissed on in the shower since he last cleaned the trap out.

However! It dawned on me that I could kill two birds with one stone. Both ensure my beautiful feet never again were in the soiled water, AND, also subject bitch-boy to the vile task more often than once a year. So I have put a recurring task in my calendar for every two months. ‘bb to clean out the shower trap.’ Poor bb.

I may decide to dress up to the nines in a very short, expensive, figure hugging dress and high heels, lots of make-up and dripping with expensive jewellery and have him padlocked into his heavy, uncomfortable, rubber collar, naked but for his penis cage. Then I can watch him on his hands and knees skivvying away in the vile grime; reminding him of all the times he has been pissed on….. Until I get bored and leave him to it.

 

Early praise for Journal 13: The Institute

I am so grateful to those who provide positive compliments on my journals; like those below for the new Journal No. 13.  It encourages me to write more and supports that my style and life experiences are of interest and hit the mark to many in our lifestyle.

### Just finished this wonderful journal and forwarded to my Mistress………

### I immediately purchased Journal 13 as soon as I read it was available. I have just completed only a few dozen pages, and I believe it may be one of your best. Thank you for creating the best writings for the BDSM community.

### Oh wow! Just WoW!! Purchased & read avidly in one day. This boy would so like to endure the ‘Slug’ like experience… Simply magnificent femdom – thank you for sharing your bank holiday weekend.

### Loved your latest journal, No.13! I read it over two days and savored each horrible/ thrilling punishment and torture of each slave. I found myself going into a form of subspace just reading it! Your best book !

Given the journal is of 70.000 words I am amazed many people read it in one go!

As I mentioned in a previous post it, is available on Amazon Kindle, and from Lulu.com in ePub format and paperback. Since my last post it has become available in Nook format on Barnes and Noble.

I will let you know when available on Kobo, iTunes, etc.

 

 

Volume 13: The Institute, Click on any link below:

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Paperback version,       ePub version,

Amazon Kindle –

USA,    UK, 

DE,    FR,    ES,    IT,    NL,    JP,    BR,    CA,    MX,    AU,    IN, 

Nook – Barnes and Noble

 

 

 

New Femdom Literature

Due to various reasons I have been busy writing for the last few months. I will imminently be publishing a journal entirely dedicated to events at The Institution. And it has a bigger word count by far than any of my other journals.

Also, I am two thirds of the way through a collection of short stories with quite different femdom themes to my usual whims.

More later…………………….

Another Real Domme Wife Blog

Dorinda a Femdom Wife is a blog I have come across as a result of comments Dorinda sent me on this blog. She and I have a great deal in common when it comes to zero pity for true submissive husbands getting what the deserve (and need), no matter how much they a portion of their life. may make them miserable.

Also in common we have double-domming and introducing other women to the lifestyle. I hope you find the blog of interest dear followers.

You can learn for yourselves her particular predilection for keeping her husband well subjugated, (and no doubt deeply content in his submissive soul as well).

 

 

 

 

Less than three months

So in less than three months, follower numbers of my Tumblr blog have grown from 16,000 to over 17,000.

As I wrote before, I think this does show the gap between what the femdom porn industry and many Dominatrices provide online and  what submissive males are actually affected by. My Tumblr site almost never features dungeons or warehouses or women in PVC or women in uncomfortable underwear or corsets. It mostly features women in comfortable clothing, sometimes sexy too; but nothing a woman would not wear in a vanilla situation. Women, often relaxing and focussing on what they get out of domination, not what the male might fantasise he wants.

My three biggest peeves!

# Mentioned before, are the videos which focus in tightly on the topic of the video and thereby fail to show the expression on the face of the  dominant woman. Acts of CBT, pissing in the mouth, forced oral worship, licking spit from the floor or boots, licking boots and shoes clean of food or detritus, spoiled orgasms, caning, paddling, cuckolding, etc. etc.

# There cannot be a much more crass thing to do than add a music track to a femdom video; like some trashy 1960 porn film.

# Amateur videos, (probably my favourites because they are so REAL), BUT hugely spoiled because the TV is on somewhere in the background and the volume is high! Sometimes so high you cannot hear the dialogue. And so often the video does not depict a spur of the moment activity but rather something that has involved some preparation.

Does anyone disagree about these peeves?

A feeder bottle for my little lamb

So are there any of my followers who are farmers?

By accident I came across feeder bottles for lambs. I do think of my puppet husband, bitch-boy, as my little lamb sometimes, in so far as his helplessness. Although rather than melting into goo as I do when I see a real lamb, with my husband-lamb my reaction is very different. If he is dressed in infantile shame clothing or is in very strict bondage, or both; well those sights of my helpless lamb-husband bring out very different emotions to feeling all gooey, emotions more like bullying, sadism and abusing power.

Anyway, the lamb feeing bottles! Feeding with a real baby’s bottle does take rather a long time even if one cuts the teat, and if the bottle is upside down, it leaks. So here are my questions to experts.

With a lamb feeder bottle, is my assumption correct that, if the bottle is upside down, no liquid escapes unless the teat is sucked?

Are different teats available that allow a greater flow and others a lesser flow?

I can see these bottles are very cheap and can be boiled for sterilisation. I guess if I have no farmer blog followers to answer my questions, I will just buy a few and experiment. My imagination is working overtime with the possibilities!