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DELIGHTFUL Partial Ignoring

One of my favourites from TUMBLR is this very brief video. I adore so much about it! I provide the GIF and I have had bitch-boy create the image below from screengrabs to depict the my favourite attributes of the GIF. Although I am always terribly cautious about getting my website banned by WordPress for showing nakedness, I thought this image is safe as no genitals are shown. Perhaps ironically on that matter, one of the assumptions I make when viewing the video is that the male is in an inescapable chastity device. bitch-boy when in his dog cage certainly always is.
















I love that the slave, or husband, or boyfriend, is naked while she is dressed in everyday clothing. I love that the video begins and ends with him all alone and totally ignored. I love it is a little used area of the home, tucked away. I love that he gets no more from her than a momentary glance and that her satisfied, mocking smile plays on her lips for only a second; then he is pretty much forgotten about again as she gets on with her day. But not completely forgotten about, oh no. If she is like me then;

……. every now and again, she will remember her chaste toy locked away, in a dog cage, lonely, bored, deeply humiliated and totally subjugated. Every now and again she will become aroused with her power-rush and feelings of decadence, bitchiness and pitilessness and she will apply her wand to herself and hope, or ensure, her screams of ecstasy, (during yet another orgasm), work their through the building to his ears.

He will think about the unfairness of how, on so many individual days, she gets more orgasms than he gets in a whole year. And she will think of him thinking that, and a new power-rush will envelop her. And she will leave him there; perhaps for many, many more hours getting her kicks, and in the knowledge that, because he is a true submissive, when all that misery is over, or even during the misery, he will be in complete awe of his mistress-wife and his souls will be filled with submissive deep contentment. He is in no doubt that he is privileged to be helplessly in the power of a pitiless, cruel, dominant woman and that is all that counts!

And she will exploit that for her own benefits and the perfect symbiosis will continue.


A link to all my journals HERE, including:

Images to tick my boxes!

No rubber, no PVC, no Latex, no dungeon, no thigh high boots, no corsets, no above the elbow gloves, no nudity. I am not suggesting these things should NEVER appear, but it is so refreshing when they are all absent. (I have to confess I would now LOVE a dungeon in my home, full of the most devious contraptions. But when I was vanilla the thoguht and images of a dungeon would have horrifed me!)

So, simply a domestic scene in a standard room.

Could it be a submissive boyfriend and a dominant bi-sexual girlfriend with her lover? Or a pair of young lesbians who saw the benefit of a submissive, they keep locked in chastity, who they have visit their home once or twice a week, to do all the chores? Or a pair of young lesbians who discovered the submissiveness secret of their boss at work, and he has to visit their home once or twice a week, to do all the chores, (and has of course substantially increased their pay)? Or, the step father of one of the girls, caught and now blackmailed for spying on his step-daughter and her lover?









You can guess upon what she is sitting in the last image! I did have bitch-boy crop that, as images of face-sitting are I think, (ridiculously), illegal in the UK. Certainly that was a plan of the government. It is not cropped on my BDSMLR site.

I am pleased to say I have been in the place of either of the females enjoying exactly what the images portray, and I do so hope I will be again once the pandemic is all over.









Link to my latest Journal.


Yes, they are truly cruel!

Back on 30 May 2020,  I posted about my pondering on the private lives of some of the truly cruel femdom actresses that produce great videos. Well a submissive came back to me who had experience of one such group of women and a sequence of email exchanges followed. Below,  is an anonymized summary of what I learned. I found the story made  quite fascinating reading and having seen all the many , many actual email exchanges, I can vouch for the veracity.

I will refer to the submissive as Joe. Joe contacted one of the groups of women who operate as a business producing short femdom videos and photo sets. Videos to be sold online as ‘clips’. I will refer to the group as the Femgang.

I will summarise greatly about the initiation. Joe contacted the Femgang and he was instructed to send them a copy of his driving license if he wanted to be an online slave to them, providing admin type assistance for them. He did this. He was then exploited mercilessly and with cruelty and complete disdain.

If it is of interest, I will continue in another post on where Joe ended up with all of this, involving real use and abuse, rather than online.


Hmmm….where are u located, slave?
> Would you be willing to send us a picture of your drivers license, slave?
> So we know who is working for us?
> and we will send you the info for our twitter accounts n stuff- and YOU
> will maintain them for us as Our SLAVE!

>Basically we will just want you to update our twitter, FB, Tumblr, and IG
accounts and you will use your free membership to our sites to update
those accounts every day.  (once per day)  Post a pic from the latest
video, put in same “#s” and tag whoever may be in it- and thats it. We will also assign you to post to fetish forums.  (3x a week)

Can you do this, loser??  And can you do it CONSISTENTLY???
> You will also get an ongoing FREE membership to Our sites as “payment” for
> your efforts.
> And we will expect good work out of you!! and will give u very SPECIFIC
> instructions about what we want done!!!
> -The Femgang.


> Understood and I enjoy the memberships but more important for me I don’t
> want to let you down. I seriously worship you and all the Femgang. I’ve
> been waiting my whole life to serve a group of cruel dominant girls. I hope I prove
> useful and you end up using me in even more ways.
We will see, slave…
and yes, We REALIZE how lucky you  are to have found us.
and u better THANK US constantly for LETTING you have the privilege of
working for us!!!
> also, not sure if u were told this or not, but We want a REPORT from you
> every monday morning updating Us on your promotional activities!  Do NOT
> take this lightly!  We revoked the memberships of the last slave we had
> doing this because he missed his 3rd report to Us after the past year of
> using him as Our main promo slave!
Thank you Femgang for allowing me to serve as your new promo bitch.  I’m not sure what format you desire for this report so I hope this is satisfactory. This week I promoted the following links below:
Hmm…this is very good, slave!!  (btw Our old promo slave is like
BEGGING for his old job back already!  HAHAHA!!!!!!  We think that’s
hilarious AND PATHETIC that you losers literally BEG to work for Us! LOL!)
Keep that in mind, loser- we will DUMP your ass in a heartbeat and BAN
you from Our sites if you ever disobey us or not work hard enough for Us!!
Anyway, we want you to just add some numbers to your reports so we know
how many followers you have grown Our Following by and stuff.  You can do
this on your next report to us next week.  you don’t need to do it for
this one.  (Since it is your first one, you haven’t actually “grown” it
for us yet!)
and ya just do that XXXXXXXXX one then. :/  (and the other one you joined.)
THANK US for letting you have the PRIVILEGE of working for Us, loser!!!!!
Thank you so much for allowing me to work for you for free. I don’t deserve it I’m a very lucky slave! 
yes, EXACTLY.  and dont u EVER forget it!!!
but tbh we would prefer not to have to dump you.  we would RATHER you just
go on being our mindless, obedient zombie drone SLAVE like FOREVER!!!  So
WE don’t have to go thru all the work of training a new one!
The only real “excuse” would be if you like died or something.  in which
case, yeah, we’d have to like replace you.  <UGH>  whatta pain…
[After some months]
Where the FUCK is our latest report from you???
And why has Our twitter not been updated u worthless piece of SHIT???
-The Femgang
Sorry I ran into a bit of a crises situation at work last couple days and was working night and day and fell behind but Twitter had been updated today. Please forgive me won’t happen again. 
Not good, slave….We don’t CARE about any other BS in your life- NOTHING
is as important as serving US!  LOL
Do not let it happen again.
-The Femgang
New clips posted to Twitter and Tumblr this past week:
  • xxxxxxxx
  • xxxxxxxx
  • xxxxxxx
  • xxxxxxxx
  • xxxxxxxx
  • xxxxxxxxxx
  • xxxxxxxxx
  • xxxxxxxx
  • xxxxxxxx
I confess I have not posted to the XXXXXXXXXXX or the XXXXXXXXXXXX forum recently but I will get a post out this week to get both back on track.    
We were just discussing u, slave.  u have been slacking.  not good…
and where is that promo video u were supposedly working on??
are u able to travel here to be beaten??
The Femgang

I’m going to travel there one of these days so I’ll try not to build up too many demerits so I can survive my visit cause I’m not even a pain slave. The way you kick guys balls in terrifies me! 

Sorry if I’ve been slacking a bit just ran into a buzzsaw at work but will be all caught up in a couple more days. Still going to do the promo video I’ve already started on it. 

Hmm…well hurry up with it slave!  ;)
and yes, u SHOULD be scared! lol
[After some months]
Hey XXXXXXXX is maybe interested in using u for doing her college homework at
some point.  just fyi.  what do u think, slave?  Although we haven’t heard
u are like super reliable or anything.  Maybe u are good at math though?
Omg, I would love that! A Domme like XXXXXXXXX shouldn’t even have to do homework.
Slave, we want you to monitor these sites for piracy of our stuff:
Extreme board
Intporn forum
Porn SiteRIPs
Planetsuzy forum
As well as GOOGLING our names on a weekly basis:
And SEND US AN EMAIL EVERY WEEKEND with a list of ALL the links you find
to our stuff!!  They should be links to the site where they are posted
(like the specific link on “pornhub”) as well as links to wherever the
file itself is “hosted”.  (Like on “keep2share” or whatever)
Got it???  This is important.
I’m on it. I’ll monitor the sites and will send a report every weekend with all links.  
Here is the first report
Ok, Good slave.  Not bad for a first report but from now on we want you to send us nightly reports!  ! Keep searching all of these sites every day!  And keep doing all the other jobs we have given you.
[A few days later]
SLAVE!!!!  Where was your fucking SUNDAY piracy report??!???  Someone told
you to do this DAILY, correct???  Did we miss it?  Nobody saw it.  Do u think u get sundays off or something??
-The Femgang
-I’m sorry I was planning on doing it before bed and the truth is I accidently fell asleep while watching TV.  I’m so sorry.  I’ll have a fresh report tonight and will send a tribute for my mistake. Should I send a tip on the, I want clips, site or would you prefer something else instead?
Hmm…you think falling asleep without permission before your SLAVE WORK
is done is acceptable??  Apparently you realize that it is NOT, based on
your offer of a TRIBUTE.  (at least u realize THAT!)
Tip on the clip site is fine, slave.  Make it good. And from now on you WILL send your report EVERY evening before you fall asleep!!  If u MISS any nights, you will be punished with a mandatory tribute and NO FREE MEMBERSHIP for you!
The Femgang
[Joe’s duties continue to increase. An example of when he gets something wrong.]
First of all, we don’t see any attachment.  So it is a good thing you pasted the actual copy into your message.
Secondly, we had to totally re-write your clip description.  Do you WANT
us to post your drivers license at the top of our C4S store or
something???  (That gets a LOT more traffic btw! LOL)
Here is what we expect
I will learn. I just want to be used and abused by the XXXXXXXXXX soooo bad that I can’t help myself. The more you use me for your benefit without any regard for what I want the more I like it! 
Well you came to the perfect place then, FUCKING LOSER!!!!  Because we
will work your ass to the bone and NONE of us give a FUCK about you!  Not
sure who the fuck wrote to you in the other message but your ass gets NO
breaks and you do BOTH jobs for us!!  FOREVER.  Now WORK, WORK, WORK you
piece of human garbage!
-The Femgang
To be continued of there is sufficient interest…………

Innocent Images (2)

It seems fun to post some more following my last such post on 28 March 2020. Not everyone got the final image on my last post. But many did. (A  hot wife getting ready to go out on her date, from the POV of her sexually desperate and denied, cuckolded husband-slave; kept in 24/7/365 chastity.)

Images like these I hope invoke BDSM femdom thoughts in us, while a vanilla person would see nothing to do with serious eroticism. Obviously bitch-boy’s sexual desperation is made worse as he produces these images to my specification, as does his curation of my BDSMLR site, also to my specification. Poor puppet!

The first six of these images are a slave’s POV on a very favourite pastime of mine. I dedicated a post to Partial Ignoring in 2017. You may wish to read this 2017 post if you have not before.

















































For info on my own BDSM manual, in several formats, click on an image below.









Caged and Dangling

Two posts today!

I cannot say why I love so much images which show a males birth defect nicely locked up AND DANGLING,  while THEY SQUAT! What is it I love so much? I really cannot put my finger on it.

Is it, I wonder, how irrelevant the dangling nonsense looks? I think perhaps it is, but I am not sure. The two images to which I provide this link particularly appeal to me as the males are looking ridiculous and helplessly bound, and importantly – quite miserable; AND the women are in pretty much everyday clothing. This, I think, really adds to the sense of the irrelevance of the dangling nonsense. He is a toy and nothing more. His sexual needs and dignity are, 24/7/365, utterly irrelevant to the Domme . He is her’s to use and abuse and THAT IS THAT! No reciprocation, all one way. He got himself into all this by explaining he wanted to be dominated, and look where it has led!

I wonder if any other Dommes particularly like seeing a males birth defect nicely locked up AND DANGLING,  while THEY SQUAT? Or is it simply one of my weird quirks?


My 16th journal –  LINK


My BDSMLR site

My new BDSMLR site that replaced my Tumblr site already has 1600 followers. I imagine so far BDSMLR has far fewer users than Tumblr.

My Tumblr site had over 18,000 flowers before Tumblr was sold and ‘explicit’ images were banned. I always took from the number of followers an indication that there were/are many people who share my tastes in female dominance. Particularly things not in the Femdom mainstream industry, like; #males distressed by petticoating humiliation, #males undergoing hours of tedium, #males being humiliated and ignored, #wives, girlfriends and or mothers-in-law dressed in everyday clothes humiliating a male who is naked, or is a sissy maid or school-girl, #the use and abuse of males in everyday homes, #’lesbian’ wives with their girlfriends cuckolding their chastised husbands .

So where possible, I do not post images in dungeons or where women are in corsets, leather or PVC. Some examples:





















When I imply ‘I post’, that is not actually the case. bitch-boy is given a number by me, of posts to make each week, sometimes high, sometimes low. And these posts must all be images I LIKE VERY MUCH. If I do not like one, or I am inadequately titillated by one, he is, of course, punished. And given his state of sexual denial and his inescapable chastity cage, I am sure the poor thing finds this task quite a trial!

There are no posts of lesbian domination. As much as I adore a pic of a helplessly bound and very vulnerable female submissive, I feel such imagery is not suitable for male submissives to be pointed toward.


Petticoat Discipline Quarterly Forum

The Petticoat Discipline Quarterly Forum is on offshoot of Petticoat Discipline Monthly. One has to be registered and logged in to be able to view thumbnail images, otherwise it seems all else can be viewed without registering and logging in.

Some of the Female Supremacy views on the forum, couched as Feminism, are remarkable and from the point of view of a cruel dominant woman, pretty exciting. And I am sure from the point of view of a submissive male, very affecting.

I have yet hardly dipped my toe into the waters of the forum’s many posts and threads, but a number of the feminists and a number of the submissives reporting on their lives under female control, make a great read. The most exciting aspect, I think, is it all appears very real; almost no fantasy.

I sincerely hope the following do not mind me highlighting their posts as a fascinating and thought provoking read. Radical Feminist, Brigitte, Sara in charge, Gemma (of whose exploits have been detailed in the Petticoat Discipline Monthly), SheWearsThePants and Sissycindylynn.

No doubt there are many others worthy of mention and if, dear blog follower, you dip your toes into the waters of the posts of this forum and find others worthy of mention, you will leave an appropriate comment on this blog. I have registered on the forum and will be posting in due course.

Images like these below along with the following paraphrased and amalgamated text are quite thought provoking!

All men owned by woman and in a permanent chastity cage and only allowed rare prostate milked relief. Subjected to all that women have been subjected to in the past. A tight corset always, shaved from the neck down, the frilliest most ludicrous outfits possible, heavy make up and false eyelashes, very high heels always, a pink butt plug, penetrated whenever the sissy’s owner wants to have some fun. The male’s existence being only to do chores and be an amusement in lesbian households.

Obviously all men treated like this is a fantasy, but for the women creating this scenario, it is a desire they truly hold; and taking steps to move society to it is what they truly do.



So Curt Is Good!

It seems yesterday’s post really struck a chord with a number of submissives. (See quotes at the foot of this post.) And I can attest to its considerable effectiveness with bitch-boy. I think this makes ‘curt instructions’, a TOP TIP! For Dommes it is a very  special delight when an activity:

  • provides pleasure to them,
  • subjugates the submissive to be more in awe of the Domme,
  • has no cost involved,
  • has no effort involved like dressing up or bondage,
  • can be undertaken during vanilla times,
  • actually takes less time than not undertaking the activity!


Submissives’ Comments.

Certainly Madam understand the submissive psyche in ways that few do. Your methods are awe inspiring Ms Scarlet…thank You for sharing Your lifestyle.

Feeding our submissive souls – curt commands, humiliations & discipline – you are so, so accurate MsScarlet!

You are absolutely correct, the issuing of orders in a vanilla situation and leaving no one in doubt that you are to be obeyed is thrilling. Even now in the supermarkets when being asked if help is needed at the checkout, my wife will always answer,” no he will do it, he’s been trained”. Or if her mother is visiting, ask me things like, have I ironed a particular dress or cleaned a pair of boots……………

My Mistress of days gone by issued very short and curt orders to me. Down Boy meant get my tongue busy on her pussy, knees, get down fast and kneel…… Out in public she used hand signals to give the same orders as well as using soft commands that could be overheard by nearby persons, to cause me much humiliation, and i loved her so much for it.

I like curt because it makes it so clear what I need to do to please and I over think things. Getting over my tendency to over think things and doing a better job of responding inmediately is one reason discipline is so important to me. Letting go of thinking for myself and handing over the power to a loving authority is very fulfilling. Empties my crowded brain

You are very right Mistress Scarlet. MK uses curt commands constantly during the day. “Get this for me.” “Put this away..” Sometimes she uses one word with a harsh voice. “Water.”

I believe she takes special pleasure asking me to do something when I am busy with something I am doing such as filling up the dishwasher. I have to stop immediately and do what she has commanded.

Mistress enjoys handing me her handbag while we walk so her hands are free. “Take this,” she says as she shoves the bag into my arms.

And, there are consequences if I do not respond immediately. IMMEDIATELY. MK is a very experienced with hand spanking. She works out at home and in a gym so she is strong and very fit. Her hand spanks hurt. When she is very angry, I am caned with hard strokes.

MK LOVES watching me jump to her commands.

Update on forced impotence

Further to my last post, by coincidence, a second letter was published in Petticoated.com from the Mistress wife of impotent husband sissy maid Chrissy.

What follows is an excerpt relevant to my last post.

Obviously, Chrissy and I do not have intercourse. Even when we first started dating, when I saw how small he was, I had no interest in being with him in “that way”. And now that his teeny peeny is in a perpetually limp state, he couldn’t perform even if I let him try. But that doesn’t mean he can’t satisfy me in another way – that is, with his mouth. In fact, most days end with Chrissy’s face between my legs. Usually she is on her back as I straddle her face – and I must say that she has become very skilled at using her lips and tongue in that position to bring me the pleasure I desire.

And for the past few years, I have often added a face dildo to our routine – one that is strapped in place over Chrissy’s chin in such a way that Chrissy can still work her magic with her tongue while I give the dildo an energetic ride. Chrissy is often left with her lipstick totally smeared and with slightly sore (or even bruised) lips – but those are outcomes Chrissy relishes as signs that I really enjoyed myself!

But that is not the only kind of sex I have. Throughout the many years of our relationship, I have had boyfriends – handsome, well-endowed, professionally successful men who take me out on dates (to dinner, to a show, perhaps to a concert – and occasionally on luxurious and very romantic and sex-filled vacations). Of course, I do all of this with Chrissy’s knowledge and approval, because she understands that I have needs that she simply can’t completely satisfy.


Chrissy had finished giving the house a thorough cleaning and had done the laundry, and she was ready to do one of the things she most loves in life – to be my helper as I get ready for a date.

Chrissy started by running my bath for me, then helped me undress, and when I was in the bath I enlisted her services to help wash me and shampoo my hair. Then while I relaxed in the warm bath for a few more minutes Chrissy waited obediently at attention with two large bath towels in hand – which she wrapped around my body and my hair as I stepped out. I then sat while Chrissy polished my fingernails and toenails (she actually took some cosmetology classes a few years ago and does an excellent job) and then dried and brushed my hair. During this time we chatted – about where Ross and I were going that evening and so on. I confess that I also teased her a bit (as I often do) about how different she is from Ross and about how much I was looking forward to feeling Ross’s strong arms around me, his lips against mine, and his beautiful big hard cock inside of me.

Chrissy did get a little sad at that moment, and said that she sometimes wonders what her life would have been like if she weren’t such a small-dicked sissy. Her sad look and comment amused me, and in response I gave her a little kiss and reminded her how fortunate she is to be my beloved sissy maid, and that it was silly of her to waste time thinking about how different things might have been for her if she had a bigger cock because – it was obvious that she was born to be a sissy, and that it was laughable to even think about her as a “real man”.


Chrissy greeted us at the door in her well-trained way – with a curtsy and with eyes submissively down. Then as we went into the TV room, Chrissy brought us drinks and asked if there was anything else she could do for us. By then I was sitting on a couch with my head on Ross’s shoulder and his arm around me, while Miranda was on a chair in Alex’s lap – and it was Miranda who told Chrissy that Alex wanted to see her limp little peeny. Chrissy blushed a deep shade of red and looked at me to see if this was something she really had to do. Of course, I nodded yes – and Chrissy then obediently stood in front of Alex and lifted up her skirt to show him her little sissy clit in its chastity. I reached down to my anklet (where I keep the key), unlocked the chastity, and then showed how Alex how completely unresponsive Chrissy’s clitty is even when it’s squeezed and stroked. I also showed Alex the design of the chastity (with its internal spikes) so that he could really understand how the conditioning had occurred. Of course, every time I gave Chrissy’s limp peeny a flick, we all laughed, while Chrissy hung her head in shame.

I then put Chrissy’s chastity back on and dismissed her…………..

Ross and I went up to my bedroom.

On our way to the bedroom, I also called out for Chrissy to join us. Now, I should explain that, usually, I do not permit Chrissy to be present when I’m in the bedroom with my boyfriends, but occasionally I do – as a kind of reward when Chrissy has been particularly well behaved (as she had been this past Saturday). So while Ross led me by the hand to the bedroom, Chrissy scampered behind us, and while Ross and I stood kissing and embracing and petting each other, Chrissy knelt on the floor beside us. After a few minutes of passionate kissing, I stepped back so that Chrissy could do what she knew would be her role – removing my clothes. This is, as they say, a bit of a bittersweet task for Chrissy, because she loves everything involved in slowly removing my clothing and lingerie to reveal my beautiful nakedness, but at the same time, she is painfully aware at all moments that she is doing it to prepare me for sex with my boyfriend.

While I was being disrobed, Ross removed all of his clothes except for his boxers – though they did little to hide the evidence of his arousal. And when I was completely naked, Chrissy then crawled on her hands and knees over to Ross to remove Ross’s one remaining item of clothing – something Chrissy has learned to do very carefully. And then finally, when Ross’s gorgeous erection was in full sight – and as I always do at that moment – I made Chrissy focus all of her attention on it, noting how much bigger it was than hers had ever been, and I then directed Chrissy to give it some gentle kisses and to lubricate the head with her tongue. It always gives me a little thrill to watch Chrissy doing that – partly because it is the prelude to taking Ross’s huge cock inside of me, but also because it is such a powerful demonstration of how well my sissy husband has been trained and of how fully she has come to accept her position of effeminate sissified subservience in our relationship. And then – after giving the tip of Ross’s hard cock on final kiss, Chrissy left –as I always require her to do at that point – and then Ross and I got into bed for a night of passionate lovemaking.