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Maximise the extreme

We all have different versions of extreme. When it comes to being extreme I am not near some of the activities of the fabulous Dommes who place comments on this blog, (Although others think I am very extreme.)

The comment from the wonderful Domme, Chris M, on my recent blog post about, eye to eye contact while increasing the pain, got me thinking.  Her activity involved eye to eye contact BEFORE the ‘fun’ but still worked because the ‘fun’ was so EXTREME.

That got me thinking about how, if one is planning something seriously extreme with one’s sub, it should be milked for al its worth. I plan to do so in three ways:

  • The eye to eye preamble eliciting heartfelt pleading,
  • doing the ‘thing’,  and
  • having a loud orgasm while the suffering is ongoing.

The activity that is about to happen has to be extreme enough that your sub will be beside himself with fear. If it is not that extreme, my strategy will fail. The example from Chris M is perfect – a thorough coating of Linnex to his birth defect. I have thought of two others I would use.

  • A second nettle whipping to his birth defect when he has only just received a long and terrible nettle thrashing to it. But the second will be exclusively to the head of the birth defect.
  • A continuation of a SERIOUS deterrent punishment when he has been pleading with all his heart for some time and I pause; and he thinks it is all over.

For any of these three things, there is pleasure in simply doing each one. But there is the extra pleasure of listening to that heartfelt, emotional, hopeless pleading for a while before doing the ‘thing’. And there is having an orgasm once the suffering has truly kicked in; just to show what a depraved bitch one is. And show how his extreme suffering is not an impediment in any way to one’s very relaxed pleasure.

So before beginning the application of the Linnex, or the second nettle whipping or the resumption of the thrashing, comes the eye to eye talking. Explaining in great DETAIL what one is about to do, confirming the agony that he will be feeling; then listening to that delicious pleading; and eye to eye contact is maintained throughout. When this phase has been milked for all its worth, then do the ‘thing’.

Thing done and the sub in proper agony, a leisurely session of masturbation which even if he can’t see, he can hear when the cries of ecstasy fill the room.

Two added steps to the terrible thing. Both providing clear evidence of the nature of the relationship.

When it is all over and the sub’s head hits the pillow that night, he will think back to those eye to eye moments and the rest, and he will sleep the contented sleep of a truly dominated sub who is under the TOTAL power of a very cruel bitch!

More eye to eye torments!

First, a quick question to my wonderful blog followers. Do you read all the comments on each post of my blog?

The reason I ask is simple. When I publish a post, like the last one on, eye to eye tormenting. I quite often get great comments sent to me with delicious ideas and depraved practices of how to use and abuse a sub that I have never thought of or heard of before.

I am then wondering. Should I post again on the initial subject but updated with the cream of the comment material? Or do I assume my wonderful blog followers read all the comments on each post of my blog and so I would be publishing duplication? I would hate for any of you to miss out.

As an example; activities from comments, I obviously had not included in my original post on eye to eye tormenting include:

  • Ball squeezing in the hand.
  • Tease talking while using a pin wheel on a cock bursting to get out of, but inside a chastity cage.
  • The long conversation of mocking and pitilessness, )and the responding desperate tearful pleading),  just before applying a TERRIBLE coating of Linnex to his penis.
  • While strapping palms and fingers held very still.
  • While kneeing the in the balls.
  • While spoon feeding him an awful ‘food ‘.
  • Pressing in riding spurs.
  • Missionary position pegging with a too large or beaded butt dildo.
  • While the Mistress masturbates to orgasm and the male is in chastity, and he has not cum for weeks and will not be cumming for a many weeks yet.

Eye to Eye Tormenting

There is a phenomenon that is  very intense for both parties involved but I know of only a limited number of activities when one can indulge. This is when the Domme can be looking into the eyes of a sub, who is looking back at her, at the exact moments of regulating or increasing a torment. Such activities require that the Domme does not need to look away for even a second,  while she is regulating or increasing the intensity of the torment.

Nipple Pinching is one such activity. Not using clamps, but actually one’s fingers and thumbs.

Increasing the electrical power of a Tens Unit is another. But to be honest, even moving the dial around very slowly, it is only a second or two between, uncomfortable, and, the sub thrashing around in the their bonds and not being able to hold eye contact.

A new activity I have been enjoying experimenting with, on a bound bitch-boy, is pushing a dildo down his throat, past the gag reflex point. Doing so as I look into his pleading, distress filled eyes. SO HOT! …….. Much to his immense shame and extreme discomfort,  I am training him to be able to deep-throat a long, thrusting cock like a well practised whore. A couple of entries in my imminent new journal, recount sessions of his early training in very fine detail, including; an appropriate whore-money-maker outfit and an hour of forced video watching, while bound, of a video compilation of deep throating. Then comes the practical lesson!

Face slapping can just about work as an activity for engaging the phenomenon but I can think of no other physical activities.

So I ask dear blog reader, do you know of any other activities that engage the phenomenon of  the Domme looking into the eyes of the sub, who is looking back at her, at the exact moments of regulating or increasing a torment?

There are activities of humiliation  that can engage the phenomenon, but perhaps not quite so intensely as when physical pain/discomfort is involved. Although quite a rare event, one can lock eyes with the sub while  the Domme is speaking on the phone to a new partner Domme and arranging the new partner Domme’s first visit to one’s house. Eyes still locked with bitch-boy, as I describe to the impending visitor, the parody of a little girl outfit bitch-boy will be made to wear and the little girl activities he will be made to perform during her visit.

More common an occurrence can be a question and answer session designed to humiliate. I once had an amazing Domme visit my home and bitch-boy was indeed dying with shame as he had been made to wear a parody of a little girl outfit and his dollies were nearby. His shame reached staggering levels as she locked eyes with him and then engaged in a question and answer session. (And, oh my, her demeanour and her eyes could not have been more disdainful, cruel and mocking.) I had made clear to bitch-boy that even the slightest failure to engage fully would result in a phenomenal and immediate thrashing!

Asked with long pauses between each question, to milk every last drop of his shame from it, moving onto the next question.

Which is your favourite dolly? ………………………What’s her name? ……………………………..Why is she your favourite dolly, you little maggot? ………………………………………..What little games do you play with her. ……………………………Do you love her with all your heart? ………………………Ask her if she loves you with all her heart. And on and on and on went the questions. Poor bitch-boy was shattered by the end and his shame was so intense as he had been having to look into her disdainful, cruel and mocking eyes the whole time.

Having to do nursery rhymes with actions can also work with eyes locked.

Returning to the phenomenon in question, there is also the degradation activity when one can lock eyes, while the sub has to drink urine from source.

Finally, I can ask my girlfriend to stand behind my sub and apply cane or whip strokes to his butt, while I look into his eyes. But to engage the phenomenon each stroke must be individually requested. I can look into bitch-boy’s eyes and say, ‘The first stroke please Nicola‘. Thwack! ‘Another‘. Thwack. ‘Another.‘ Thwack! This just about engages the phenomenon but it is not quite the same as when one is physically regulating or increasing the intensity one’s self.

I’m afraid I have rambled rather. Just to be clear, I will repeat, I am requesting dear blog reader; do you know of any other activities that engage the phenomenon of  the Domme looking into the eyes of the sub, who is looking back at her, at the exact moments of regulating or increasing a torment?

Adjustable spiked clitty collar

A new toy for me to play with. I can’t wait! Some vanilla socialising will delay my first use though.

I have already established it can be locked onto a soft clitty with pins quite deep and the clitty can be teased to erection. And it can be locked onto a very stiff clitty and the pins can immediately be ‘active’ AND THEN the pins can be screwed in further, RIGHT IN, if one so desires.

It is very heavy and I am wondering if I can support it with a scrotum strap to keep it exactly where I want it!


Witnessing painful treatment

A friend of mine recently had very successful facial thread vein treatment at a local beauty centre and had remarked how excruciatingly painful it was. My depraved mind immediately kicked in. I inspected bitch-boy’s face and, not surprisingly given his age and previous life of outdoor sports, he has some thread veins. (I have never partaken in outdoor sports apart from rambling on fine days and I am pleased to say I have no such veins.)

I have booked him into the local beauty centre for thread vein treatment and I shall accompany him in the room when he has the excruciating treatment, using the excuse I want to see it to decide if I should book for it.

It will be a female doing the treatment and his female owner/wife will be watching and my puppet will be in pink beribboned panties under his trousers while it is done. Before we go in I will make it clear that it is good for him to suffer for my amusement.

What a subjugating event for him for so many reasons. And an exhilarating event for me!

Dramatic price reduction

I have slashed the price of my first book short stories published in 2011.  Details of the retailers are below.

The reason;

I AM ABOUT TO PUBISH A SECOND BOOK OF SHORT STORIES. This second book has over 54,000 words and consists of four femdom stories which are quite different from the boundaries and topics on which I normally write. I have let my perverted mind wander freely. I will publish a blog post when that new book has been published.

ABOUT THE FIRST BOOK OF SHORT STORIES. Had the circumstances or creed of my birth and upbringing been different, or had I been born in another time, then I may have been a central character in any one of the stories I have penned in this book.

I would certainly have adored to have been. I identify strongly with one of the characters in each of these tales of other lives of female dominance and supremacy, and the lives detailed in the book present options, some perhaps unlawful, not open to me in the life I have lived and live.  However, had I not lived the wonderful life I now have, and have enjoyed so much over the last decade or so, I would have cherished any of the alternatives that might have been.

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I believe it is also available on BARNES and NOBLE, NOOK, iTunes, etc.

Here is a brief précis of each story.


16 year old orphan Hilary is decanted out of London to avoid Hitler’s bombing. His destination is a house of five females; two women and three daughters. They had expected to receive a girl, not a boy.


Gloria and Elles were both employed in the young entrepreneur’s hi-tech business. Unless he is taken under some control, their own blissful future could be in jeopardy.


Mistress decides to experiment with a female submissive to augment her enchanting life with her boy-toy.


Jearl is of black Caribbean ancestry. Her husband will be away a great deal with his new job. Jearl’s use and abuse knows no bounds with her new gift.


A new governess arrives to take care of Edwin while his parents are abroad. The governess does not believe in sparing the rod, or in young masters possessing arrogant male


Beautiful Jessica settles into university life quickly but she has always been spoilt and
cannot bring herself to partake in her share of the chore rota drawn up by her room-mate. An unwitting solution presents himself.


So close : Xmas day nettles

Just a quick post as an update. From three stinging nettle stems picked and used yesterday, one produced VERY powerful stings indeed. We are so close to an Xmas day of using stinging nettles!

Mistress Nicola was over and expertly applied the nettle stem for A LONG TIME! When it seemed she was satisfied and bitch-boy was writhing and sobbing, I held his clitty upright with my tongs and the foreskin was back and invited Mistress Nicola to attend to the cock head. Her front was sensuously pressed into my back and with one warm hand sensuously holding me where top of thigh meets tummy, she attended to the cock head with the nettles in her other hand. From bitch-boy’s reaction, this was much, much more painful than on the shaft. So much sobbing and carrying on when we had finished.

So four days to go and we will have to got to Xmas day. Fingers crossed there are no serious frosts before then.


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White Noise Alternative – Initial Test

Further to my previous post yesterday, I tested the white noise alternative on bitch-boy. That alternative being an 18 minute audio recording of a harsh deterrent punishment session dished out by Mistress Nicola and I. bitch-boy had it playing on a repeating loop in his ear phones during an almost two hour sensory deprivation bondage session, (interrupted just once by me to apply a second whipping of his clitty with nettles, forty minutes in).

I interrogated bitch-boy as to the difference between the white noise he is used to and the audio recording with the threat of SERIOUS punishment if I felt he failed to be 100% honest with me. He reported that with the white noise there is extreme tedium but his mind is left to wander which sometimes helps to fend off the tedium.

With the audio recording, firstly there is deep humiliation for him having to listen to his own whimpering, sobbing and pleading during the recorded thrashing. Secondly, an unequivocal emphasising of the serious sadism and pitilessness of Mistress Nicola and especially me, on how we truly see him as no more than a toy we can subjugate into obedience and can hurt, simply because we want to. Thirdly, he could not take his attention from the recording even when he tried to. So his mind could not wander beyond his helpless submission to me and all he has to endure. Time dragged very slowly for him!

I would say a great success! Whether these advantages will fade away as the hours of listening cumulatively get into the hundreds, only time will tell. I will keep you all informed.



Shaming White Noise Alternative

As Mistress Nicola was attending my house for a day of use and abuse of bitch-boy, I actioned a thought that had been brewing in my mind. An experiment for an alternative to white noise, to be played through bitch-boy’s ear phones when he is regularly in his  hours of sensory deprivation bondage.

The alternative being, a recording of a serious punishment session of him. A deterrent punishment which is how Mistress Nicola, and I like to kick-off one of her visits. The punishment was duly recorded and can be now played on a repeating loop. I’ll see how it goes.

One thing that surprised me was how long a deterrent punishment session lasts for poor bitch-boy. This one lasted just over 18 minutes. I was surprised at this, having never paid attention to the time taken. That’s 18 minutes of Mistress Nicola and I taking turns with various implements; thrashing his butt and the backs of his thighs. Marks are left that last around three to seven days. On this occasion, my plastic tube cane, my rattan cane, a large leather paddle, a small but vicious rubber paddle with a rough surface, an agitation whip and a dressage whip. Mistress Nicola purposely allowed some wraparound when using the dressage whip and left eight distinct purple lines at the side of his butt / side of the top of his thigh, each about three inches long. These marks I expect will last a couple of weeks.

I was concerned that bitch-boy would minimise his whimpering and begging and also perhaps Mistress Nicola and I would become somewhat theatrical. I am pleased to say the recording device was truly forgotten about by all three of us almost immediately the deterrent punishment began.