Some great memes in this blog, and the word Uxoraphobia too.
And I recently completed a crossword in a top UK broadsheet and in it was a clue, the answer to which, was Uxorphoiba!
Just need to keep pushing the term, Uxo, although I have noticed a growth in the use of the word, (Instead of using the unhelpful word, submissive.)
Over the last three years I have received comments from Sissy Maid Sonya, and I have asked questions which have been answered.
So I provide below, an account of yet another FLR. Please leave comment-questions if there are gaps in the picture.
When Mistress C. and I met and our relationship became serious, I told her about my desire to cross-dress and specifically my maid fantasies. This was certainly new to her, but she was open-minded and accepting. Like most eager submissives, I definitely came on very strong in the beginning and she became overwhelmed. I took her acceptance of what I had told her as enthusiasm equal to my own. So we had to slow things down a lot.
Since my desires were primarily in the service realm (I see myself as a service oriented sub), we started off slow. For a variety of reasons–personal and kink related–I took on the household cleaning responsibilities–bathrooms, kitchen, cooking, laundry and vacuuming. Over time, we established a routine that when Mistress C. would go out to her athletics class on Wednesday nights, I would put on one of my uniforms, clean the apartment, practice walking in my heels, and then stand in a spot in front of a mirror and wait for her to come home and inspect me and my uniform. As time went along, she began to assert her preferences. For example, that I only ever wear skirts or dresses and that I always wear some type of heel. She never wanted to wear heels, but as her maid it was appropriate that I do so.
Over time, I proved to her that I was serious about being a maid and not just dressing up like one for sexual purposes. As we both became more comfortable with my submission, she grew into being more dominant. I introduced her to the Brassiered website and shortly after that we purchased my first chastity device and my first bra. That was a big turning point. I haven’t gone without some form of chastity since–whenever I pleasure her, I must be in my chastity cage and I can only come with her explicit permission.
Following the introduction of chastity and bras, Mistress C. began to assert herself further. She decided to add more regular feminine clothes to my wardrobe to carve out times where I could be submissive, but not in uniform. So now I have a collection of skirts and dresses that we have picked out and I have a specific, classical feminine style. Additionally, she added corsets and girdles because she thought I would look good with an hourglass shape or as a pinup girl. Mistress C. made me learn how to do my makeup and purchase a wig so I could be feminized from head-to-toe. She added a feminine name and I took on more household responsibilities. As a gift, I purchased her a Hitachi wand and that became a key part of our sex life. We also began to explore BDSM a bit more, incorporating gags, cuffs, an improvised cage, and most recently a spreader bar. She also began adding new rules to my submission that she never plans to roll back such as when she goes out, I must be in uniform and doing chores until she returns. I can only come with her permission either into my cage or into the toilet.
After reading the Brassiered website, Mistress C. became more comfortable with being dominant in her own way. She had very stereotypical ideas of being a Dominatrix in her head and it took a while to shed them. She dresses as she wants–almost always very comfy clothes–while I am in uniform and fully feminized. She punishes me when she wants and only if she wants. As she said recently, “Your punishments are necessary and arbitrary.” So that I never know when they may be coming and how severe they will be. She recently told me that she wants to put me in 6 inch heels. She has as many orgasms as she wants, whenever she wants, while strictly controlling mine.
From the very beginning, Mistress C. never wanted to do the housework and additionally, she has a muscle issue that makes housework difficult for her. So the idea of not having to do the housework was appealing to her. At the beginning she felt guilty about it–mostly she felt like she wasn’t living up to societal expectations about adults being totally self-sufficient. She came to see that needing help with the housework or shifting it to me was totally fine and that such societal expectations were damaging.
I think what happened in her mind was that she started seeing real, everyday benefits to my submission and not just maid’s fantasies. I kept the house clean. When I was dressed up, I was less anxious and more present. We were having very pleasurable sex–especially after I bought her the Hitachi Wand). It was not something out of Forced-Fem fiction or anything like most of what exists on the internet, but she was seeing very practical, day-to-day benefits to a FLR–a clean house, ironed clothes hanging in the closet, meals cooked for her, etc. Once she started seeing those practical benefits and how hard I was willing to work, she became more interested in asserting her preferences. The guides available at Brassiered made her feel more comfortable asserting herself as well.
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Mistress C. has taken to using an app to help dominate me. Specifically, she uses a home chore app designed for families with children. Within the app, I have weekly/bi monthly, monthly, and seasonal chores. Each chore has a point value that I can use to earn infrequent rewards—a new uniform or outfit. Some chores, however, like line writing lead to a deduction in points. A line writing session with lots of mistakes can take away an entire week’s worth of points from chores. Additionally, Mistress C. subtracts points whenever she likes.
She likes the way the app has helped me keep the house spotless and organized. She was pleased last week when she saw me cleaning out and wiping down the fridge simply because the app told me to do it.
(Note for Mistress Scarlet: I have posted previously here as Sissy Maid Alice Jane, but after a recent FLR pause due to a family health issue, Mistress C. decided, once we were able to fully start back up again, on 2 big changes. First, to change my name to Sonya. She decided she liked it better. Second, Mistress C. completed her promise make me a BAV on August 16. I believe there is an entry on the BAV registry under Alice Jane. So please feel free to update it with my new name and status.)
It’s called OurHome, but there are plenty of other similar ones on the market. The app has its own lists of chores and you can add your own as well. You can also organize them by part of the house: kitchen, bedroom, etc. Then you can make your own categories like “Training” or “Behavior.”
Mistress C likes it because it frees her up from having to ask me for my chore lists and allows her to administer swift little punishments without having to get off the couch. I like it because it keeps me organized and every week I know exactly what chores I need to do so I can budget my time effectively.
Here is a link to the app: http://ourhomeapp.com/
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I agree completely with tiffany-maid. As much as I would love Mistress C to wear clothing that excites me, it’s not my decision. In fact, I have to wear clothes that please her. I am the only one in the household who wears corsets and high heels. My feminine wardrobe consists solely of uniforms, dresses, and skirts—no pants or shorts allowed because Mistress C doesn’t want me to wear them. She naturally wears whatever she wants.
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Mistress C. enjoys putting me in my cage on weekend afternoons once I’m done with my chores. She clips my wrist cuffs to the cage which is made of NIC storage grids and has a chain linking my collar to my cuffs. She refers to this as “double-cage time” since I am also kept in chastity.
The cage stands in the corner of the living room where she can keep an eye on me or completely ignore me. Mistress doesn’t like to be bothered with coming up with additional things for me to do, especially when she’s doing whatever she wants, so cage time reminds me of my status until she has something else for me to do or until she lets me out of my maid’s uniform.
She can see me from the couch but I’m not in her direct line of sight if she’s watching TV or playing on her computer. I often find myself in my cage on weekends after I’ve finished my chores but before Mistress C. is finished with me being in uniform. I have to stand in the cage in my heels and stare out into the living room, so I’m aware of everything going on and just how little attention she is paying to me. It’s very tedious and I dislike it immensely, but I also look forward to it as it perfectly demonstrates my status in her household.
I also have a spot in the corner of the living room where Mistress C. will send me to stand if she doesn’t want me to set up the cage. In that case, I have to stand facing the wall and cannot see what she is doing.
Besides putting me in my cage, Mistress C. likes to secure me to the bed, gagged and blindfolded, and leave me there for hours.
She generally does this after I’ve completed my chores and before she’s ready to use me for personal services. I’m dressed in one of my sissy maids uniforms, corset, tights, high heels (4 inch at the minimum), wig, and full makeup. I am also locked into my chastity cage and my metal collar. Since making me a BAV, Mistress C. has been extending the time between my orgasms, so there’s no guarantee for me that she will grant me relief at the end of a session.
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From my own experience, I think there is truth to the regrets part. Now Mistress C. only allows me to come into the toilet and under her supervision (and much less frequently than in the past).
I certainly miss coming as often as I liked and wish I could do it more often. But I also don’t want to go back to when she exerted less control over me. Over the past year-plus, Mistress C. has increased her dominance and has no plans on rolling any of her changes back. And I find those changes intoxicating and they have only deepened my devotion to her.
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Mistress C. does enjoy making me do menial or tedious activities like line writing, strap-on practice, or time in my cage. She has a vibrator that I purchased for her and still uses me to pleasure her.
As her maid, I obviously take care of the household chores. I very much enjoy being her maid. I’ve always been drawn to the maid role. The tedium activities—not so much. She’s fantasized about loaning me out to her friends to do chores and has left me at home while she goes to a work function or something similar with a list of tasks to accomplish. But we’re also very private and only 1 other couple knows of my role as a maid but they live far away.
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Mistress C. makes me endure a similar regime for my releases. I am not on as rigid a schedule as Tiffanymaid. Releases are very much at Mistress C.’s whim—she does not like the idea of a schedule as she feels it creates an obligation for release when it’s entirely up to her.
When she decides to grant me release, she sets a 5 minute timer that starts the moment I unlock my cage. I then have 5 minutes to take my cage off, go into the bathroom, reach an orgasm, and then put my cage back on. Mistress C. remains in the bedroom and constantly reminds me how much time I have left and that I need to hurry up. Failure to be back in my cage at the end of 5 minutes results in severe punishment. Occasionally, I am successful at orgasming but often I have to stop to make sure I get back in my cage on time. She has no sympathy for my failure to accomplish everything in time and insists that I should be grateful for her allowing me any kind of release and I’ll either have to get faster or accept that I’ll only ever have ruined orgasms going forward.
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The typing quiz is part of my weekly training. I have to write 100 lines while dressed in one of my maid’s uniforms. The lines come from a pre-approved list, but are all sissy maid or submission related. For example, “Serving as a sissy maid is my purpose in life.” My Mistress finds the test helps instill a proper submissive mindset.
My Mistress has an escalating punishment scale for mistakes. Mistakes 1-10 are equal to the same number of strokes with a crop (10 mistakes = 10 strokes). Mistakes from 11-20 count double. So 15 mistakes equals 20 strokes (the first 10 and then 5 more times 2). Mistakes 21-30 are tripled and the punishment continues to escalate from there.
Well there are some simple ways, just by the Domme talking, that both parties can get more from their relationship.
I mentioned this in my published ‘BDSM manual’, but it is SO important, I will mention it in this post.
Take for example that my bitch is inescapably locked in his chastity 24/7/365. No erections. No touching. No orgasms. Sometimes, when in a situation of one sort or another that arouses him psychologically, or reminds him of his denials, he begs with all his heart to be allowed to get erect.
Now I could simply say, “No“; and bring the matter to an end. This does have the effect he craves most as an uxo, of, feeling helplessly in the power of a dominant woman who has a bit of a mean steak. Very helpless, and a very dominant and mean streak. He hates hid denials of course, but without enduring what he hates, he would not be a totally content uxo. (That old uxo paradox.) By simply saying, “No“, I get a lovely power rush and sexual arousal as, (I admit), I am being so extreme and so very, very cruel!
BUT: I can both increase the intensity of that feeling he needs, and thereby increase the intensity of my pleasure feelings, if I drag-out the exchange.
A bit of utilising neuroscience, and/ or personality component research. I know this will put off some people, but I urge you to read on, to the very end. I was initially sceptical about this issue, but I experimented and wow, I am glad I put my skepticism to one side.
Of the many fine-detail personalty components that exist, that make us such different people with different personalities, one is whether you ‘live’ in the moment or focus most of the time in the future. It has become very clear that I live in the moment while, apart from in extreme ‘visceral’ circumstances, my bitch focusses on the future.
I will not go further with the explanation but move onto the practical.
I can think, and say to my bitch, “All locked up aren’t you. No erections ever. No orgasms ever. No sex organ or sex life to speak of. I get so turned on when I think of the life I am imposing on you. My celibate, genderless, porn. ”
These words effect me deeply as I speak them. However……I have used these words with my bitch and in response, there is some sighing and slow shaking of head and a miserable expression. But if instead, I add some extra words at the end, the effect on my bitch is amazing! “All locked up aren’t you. No erections. No orgasms. No sex organ or sex life. I get so turned on bitch, when I think of the life I am imposing on you. My celibate, genderless, porn. And that is how its going to be, FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. THE NEXT MONTH, THE NEXT YEAR, THE NEXT TWENTY YEARS. FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.”
Now I am no longer talking about the current moment, I am talking about the future. His response to this augmented speech, is to very, very emotionally beg and plead and dry-sob; over and over. I have mentioned his amazing robustness and capacity to cope with all sorts of vanilla and FLR adversities and it seems that is mainly because he sees things in the moment as transient; adversities that will soon pass. (For instance, he has no problem with a filling at the dentist. Once when I queried this, he explained he simply thinks about how it will all be over in a few minutes. So it is no big deal. This was a revelation to me. I had never considered before thinking such a thing while under the dentist’s drill. I lived in the moment; every horrible second of it!) But, back to him. The future will not soon pass. That is to be dreaded, that is hanging over his head. It will not soon pass.
I further experimented to find that his ‘future’ can be 5 minutes to go, or twenty years and everything in between. The effect is still the same. If I am thinking of giving him a very thorough, tied down on the bed whipping, in around five minutes time. I can simply do so when I am ready to. Or I can, immediately I have had the thought, announce, “I will be giving you a very thorough, tied down on the bed whipping in 5 minutes or so bitch. I will be using all of my implements!” . He begins to beg, and beg and plead. He is miserable and feeling so utterly helpless, as he thinks about what is shortly to come. And that is begging I would never have heard, if I had not given notice of this imminent event. Begging that gives me a lovely power-rush I would not otherwise have had.
I benefit enormously by living in the moment given my life is so full of pleasures from my domination of my bitch. It suits me just fine. So, you can think all this is psycho-babble-poppycock nonsense and a waste of time, but even if you do, there is a reason these two activities are in the same post.
Even if you do not believe there are people who live in the moment, and people who focus on the future, think about the benefit of announcing an endurance in advance. The uxo almost certainly begs and pleads, and is caused to feel helplessly in the power of a pitiless dominant with a mean streak, thus increasing his sense of uxo contentment, AND, the Domme gets a lovely power-rush listening to all the genuine pleading and begging, AND, that brings us back to the first activity in this post. The Domme can drag out that pleading and begging, giving both yet more affecting symbiotic stimuli.
(Finally, I will mention that one extreme ‘visceral’ circumstance when my bitch DOES live in the moment, is when my domination activity at that moment, is SERIOUS and INTENSE; if you know what I mean.😉 )
Not a post type I have ever posted before.
An ignoramus has left an ignorant comment on my last post on my Facebook page. If any wonderful blog follower is at a loose end, I would adore someone replied to the ignoramus’s comment please. It would be better coming from someone other than me.
Just a thought.
For those that did not know, I have a X – Twitter, and A Facebook account and a Facebook page. Should this blog ever go down, that is where I will post about my situation at the time.
If you read my Journal No. 23, you will know I use a 20 sided dice from time to time. And a 50 sided dice too.
My main use of the dice is, if I am feeling generous, I will allow my bitch to roll a dice for a chance to experience an activity otherwise prohibited for the rest of his life. It is very amusing.
Not long ago, although his birth-defect was securely locked in its little cage, I gave him his last ever tickling/stroking touch of my fingers to his scrotum and perineum. I did this to a countdown from 20 to 1, to “NO MORE EVER!” Twice, I did miss out a few numbers during the countdown I am afraid. I am so unfair to my poor little bitch sometimes. And there were tears, because he knew I was deadly serious. I did tell him I would, from time to time, allow him a dice roll for a chance to experience the activity again.
The other day he had produced a very fine meal indeed. I told him as a reward I would give him a dice-roll chance of experiencing the tickling/stroking touch of my fingers to his scrotum and perineum for perhaps half a minute. His face fell when I told him to get the 50 sided dice, but he was careful to avoid being ungrateful, which would have cancelled the dice roll immediately.
He brought the dice to where I stood on the polished wood floor, and he knelt as he has to, to drop the dice between my pretty feet in their sexy shoes.
I had him to choose a number. He began to breathe heavily and whimper and whine. I gave a barked instruction of impatience. He, almost reluctantly, chose 17.
The roll of the dice produced 38. He sighed heavily. I laughed mockingly. I told him to look at me as I spoke. “Do you want domination my way, or no domination at all bitch? You can choose whatever you want. I won’t have any problem either way. I could easily get a young female uxo for me to satiate my needs. You and I will never part. I will always want you as my husband.” He looked very defeated and helpless when he answered, “Domination your way Mistress.” I snorted derisively, “Just a pathetic little uxo aren’t you. A pathetic little uxo who is so very, very lucky indeed, to have a cruel Mistress-wife …………………….. who is also totally out of his league.” He confirmed he was lucky, but he did look very subjugated.
I had to go upstairs for an orgasm while he cleared the table and the kitchen. I had two orgasms!
(If any Mistress wishes to experiment with dice rolling before purchasing a special dice. Type dice throw into google and you can try out a dice throw with a dice of any number of your choosing, A dice with even more than 50 sides if you like.)
(For the word-pedants among you, I quote Collins dictionary: In old-fashioned English, ‘dice’ was used only as a plural form, and the singular was die, but now ‘dice’ is used as both the singular and the plural form.😃)
From time to time I post updates I receive via Fetlife from cuckold-Tiffany-maid. It has been a while since the last one. Below are the latest mini-updates I have received. (I adore the attitude and behaviours of Mistress Serena!)
Further…. Ms Scarlet, just to add a little more to the previous comment. We purchased the Head Cage & Mitts a fortnight ago. Alas, i was in hospital last week for a ablation (heart procedure), which was extremely painful. As a result Serena and i have yet to fully experience the aforementioned cage/mitts to a great degree. ( When i spent an hour in them, hands were rendered helpless, and the head cage was a “tsd” experience (with an added blindfold) . The access to the items and immediate effect being an attraction.
The Holy Trainer is being worn 50% of my time ( i am always in chastity 365, 24/7) It is extremely restrictive and i am not sure yet if it is suitable for full time use.
Since Serena took up a new post (work) She has no time to do much housework etc. i have reduced my own workload to about 50% so i now do almost all the housework. (Dressed accordingly when able)
Nettles… used as always. We have a crop in the greenhouse, and more spread in corners and behind shrubs. All methods of application are used.
Cuckolding… Mistress continues to see Her long term lover. Spending every other weekend with him. i do not serve him in any manner, but am on friendly, talking terms with him, he obviously knows my status to Mistress Serena.
So… Mistress Scarlet… due to the procedure of the past week, my activities are hugely reduced till after easter. Once we get back to a decent routine i shall report accordingly.
( I shall post a pic on Fetlife of the Cage/mitts, and in a few weeks put one up of my wearing it)
Respectful admiration as always
tiffany
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An April Fool… Mistress Scarlet curtsy W/we trust You and bb are well and the drab weather this year hasn’t been too depressing.
April 1st is one of my relief/release days, Serena specifies a 12 week period of chastity hence 1st Jan, Apr, July, Oct are my “special days” when i am allowed to cum.
Being a Bank Holiday, i served Serena breakfast and went about my usual tasks. There was an unspoken atmosphere as i dare not mention the day, or my expectation.
Sure enough after breakfast Serena granted me the treat i had been waiting three months for. i need not have bothered…
Serena and i convened in the “Punishment Room”… my CB-X mini was removed as Serena orally teased me (the cage is 1.1”) . She then presented me with my blow up sheep. “You have three minutes” was all She said. i dislike the blow up sheep especially without lube. Inevitably, i wasn’t even able to arouse and remained in my usual state of being tiny, flaccid and useless.
Serena gave me a look of despair as the minutes ticked by, and sure enough within five minutes of releasing the chastity, it was back in place, locked for another 12 weeks.
with all my respect….. tiffany
Response from Mistress Scarlet
I do adore Mistress Serena. I wish to use your communication as a blog post. I would theretofore like some clarifications.
Orally teased you, actually means verbally, rather than her lips to your defect?
Was her look of despair, more accurately, a look of disdainful, mocking contempt?
Ms Scarlet curtsy … i was delighted to hear from You, as Serena & i have had quite a miserable time over the past 24+ months with work and health. Irrespectively, W/we have managed to maintain our F/l, D/s relationship, albeit on a lower level. Keeping in touch with You and updating You was always a pleasure.
RE. April 1st. Orally teased did indeed refer to Her addressing me in derogatory terms (understandable under the circumstances ).
Again, You correctly appreciated the phrase “despair”. It was precisely one of disdain and perhaps contempt on seeing Her “husband” fail so miserably.
Trust this is suitable confirmation, and of course please feel free to edit and post.
Hopefully, it is O/our intent to get back to a more intense and daily pattern, where and when relevant i shall post You accordingly.
Yours, as always and ever, respectfully… tiffany
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Ms Scarlet curtsy
As a postscript to my recent communication, i thought this would please and amuse You, albeit a tad repetitive.
Only a few days after my failed relief, i was released from my cb-x cage, alas Mistress Serena decided “clitty discipline” was required.
Hugely influenced by Your good self, i was hooded and funnel gagged, otherwise naked.
Strapped to the bed, Serena poured Her piss from a jug in measured amounts throughout the next two hours. Hot water & exfoliating scrub gloves, toothbrushes, brushes, plastic rulers where used to punish my exposed clitty.
This lasted 15 minutes. Next Serena placed the nettle apron over my waist, and very fresh, young nettles stroked/whipped my clit for 15 minutes (agony). Then, Serena place my now swollen clit in my nettle pouch for 30 minutes.
Despite my now very swollen and burning clit, “Lady Linnex” was applied and i suffered for a further period before release.
Very subdued, the CB-X was relocked in place, before i set about tidying and clearing up.
In truth, it was genuinely, one of the worst “clitty discipline” sessions i have experienced.
We attended a concert that night, and my clit was still stinging way past midnight.
Yet…. i slept soundly that night.
Ms Scarlet…90% of this activity is influenced by You. We both respect and thank You very much.
Yours in all honestly, respect and admiration
tiffany
Ms Scarlet curtsy
As a postscript to my recent communication, i thought this would please and amuse You, albeit a tad repetitive.
Only a few days after my failed relief, i was released from my cb-x cage, alas Mistress Serena decided “clitty discipline” was required.
Hugely influenced by Your good self, i was hooded and funnel gagged, otherwise naked.
Strapped to the bed, Serena poured Her piss from a jug in measured amounts throughout the next two hours. Hot water & exfoliating scrub gloves, toothbrushes, brushes, plastic rulers where used to punish my exposed clitty.
This lasted 15 minutes. Next Serena placed the nettle apron over my waist, and very fresh, young nettles stroked/whipped my clit for 15 minutes (agony). Then, Serena place my now swollen clit in my nettle pouch for 30 minutes.
Despite my now very swollen and burning clit, “Lady Linnex” was applied and i suffered for a further period before release.
Very subdued, the CB-X was relocked in place, before i set about tidying and clearing up.
In truth, it was genuinely, one of the worst “clitty discipline” sessions i have experienced.
We attended a concert that night, and my clit was still stinging way past midnight.
Yet…. i slept soundly that night.
Ms Scarlet…90% of this activity is influenced by You. We both respect and thank You very much.
Yours in all honestly, respect and admiration
tiffany
To all those blog followers who use a comment to ask a question about a particular blog post; please ensure you post the comment-question on the relevant blog post.
There have been a number of comments recently asking questions of Mistress Tracy about her last account, and the comment-questions are posted on the recent post of Mistress Suzanne’s latest account. This is simply discourteous to these generous Mistresses who provide the accounts and also it devalues the posts in question, as Mistress Tracy’s answers end up on the chain of comments on Mistress Suzanne’s account.
I will no longer be approving for publication, questions asked in a comment made on the wrong post. (I have to add I found Mistress Tracy’s last answer very hot indeed, so I provide it below.) The question was:
Mistress Tracy, Thank you again for continuing to update us. Moving in with your boyfriend is a huge step change for your slave. How did she react upon hearing the news that you both would move in with your boyfriend? How did the conversation go when you announced this change to your slave? I imagine considerable shock and humiliation for her and arousing pleasure for you.
She was not happy. A lot of delicious tears from her. I do love it when she cries. I did give her the option to leave and that I would help her find a place if she wanted to but she asked to stay.
I told her that, similar to what I said when I told her I was pursuing a romantic relationship with my bull, there would be no romantic contact with her. Purely a relationship of owner and slave. She again asked to stay.
And for a third time because I wanted to make sure, I said she would be living a miserable life of control, constant work and humiliation. Again, she asked to stay. Through tear stained eyes I might add. Very hot.
Myself and my boyfriend are in the process of discussing the dynamic.
Mistress Tracy
Many Dommes like their uxo to write lines; many many lines. Mistress Jess and Mistress Christine immediately come to mind. So below is an excerpt from a book; The Female Disciplinary Manual, published by the Wildfire Club, in the 1960s I think, and the famous lesbian dominant Miss Martindale was the author, (I think). It is a very long excerpt!
While on the face of it, it is about boarding school female pupils, it was in reality written for adult uxo female discipline, and uxo male discipline when the male is treated as a schoolgirl-of-the-past, as part of his punishment and subjugation. I enjoyed reading the excerpt, thinking of my uxo bitch dressed and treated as a 1950s schoolgirl, being one of the girls, about which the excerpt’s suggestions are aimed. Although I like my bitch to write lines on my toilet rolls, but this does not feature in the excerpt below.
The sensibility of lines – Practical merits as a form of punishment. The set line – Length of the line. Neatness and uncertainty whether work will be checked – Correcting lines – The ‘bare glance’. Unusual words. The ‘Magical Thousand’ – Multiples of 1,000 lines.
Among those punishments which do not fall into the category of “corporal”, the most usual takes the form of an imposition – a task, preferably lengthy and repetitive, which must be completed by the ‘girl’ being thus disciplined. Among impositions – especially in schools, but also in the home, the office and elsewhere – the best known and most frequently employed is the long tried and tested, the well-beloved imposition of ‘lines’. The form of this punishment is so well known that it seems almost unnecessary to describe it, however, for the sake of completeness, we shall do so.
Essentially, the punishment may take two forms, either the setting of so many lines of poetry to be copied or, more usually, the written repetition of a sentence dictated by
the Mistress or prefect (we assume the scholastic setting throughout the main part of this essay as that is the one in which we have most experience of this form of discipline). It is a punishment which is too often treated in a cold and functional manner, as if it were somehow less vital than, say, a spanking or a dose of the strap. We wish to put forward most strongly the thesis that this is not so: that there may be a depth of sensibility in the imposition of lines quite as profound as that which may be found in any corporal chastisement. There is, in some respects, even a greater intensity: a more pronounced sense of ruling over the life and liberty of the ‘girl’ subjected to this discipline – of dictating, with a few lightly-spoken words, the entire course and colour of her existence in the near future. We have known the closest and most fruitful of disciplinary rapports to be founded partly or even largely upon the imposition of lines and are firm supporters of the extension of this form of discipline beyond the boundaries of the academy. For a maidservant, for example, the condemnation to spend a portion of her precious leisure hours in the written repetition of some improving sentence may well be more effective on occasions than a good switching (or may be a salutary supplement to the same); for office ‘girls’, the taking home of a sheaf of foolscap to be covered with lines by the next morning is a wonderful promoter of future neatness, diligence, smartness and punctuality (they may also remain behind in the office after hours to complete the imposition, but this really comes under the heading of detention – a form of discipline which also might profitably be used more widely than its current scholastic application).
Indeed, with the introduction of the Office Cane into many advanced places of business today, the use of such impositions would seem to be the logical next step – and one which would perhaps find favour among the backward-looking minority who still imagine that an occasional caning with the light-weight implement authorised by the Home Office for this purpose is in some way bad for an office-girl (it might also open their eyes to see how many ‘girls’, faced with the choice between a substantial imposition and a caning will freely choose the latter to ‘get it over with’). On the purely practical side, lines have the advantage of being one of the few punishments which can effectively be given in absentia.
Where a protegee is separated from her Mistress, effective discipline may be imposed very satisfactorily by letter or over the telephone. In this age of discipline, when the looseness of yesterday is being so roundly rejected and new areas of sensibility discovered and understood, we feel that the often-undervalued discipline of lines should be seen with fresh eyes: its delicacy and grace, its great versatility and its psychological subtlety should be appreciated by the new generation of feminine disciplinarians. The imposition of lines should be refined to a gentle art, and valued as one of the delicate and purifying things of life.
Non – Corporal Punishments
The Virtues of a Set Line
One of the beauties of this punishment is its ease and simplicity— the fact that but a moment’s thought and the speaking of a few words by a Mistress may condemn a child to hours of repetitive and tiresome labour. Sometimes, in order to increase this
element, a ‘set line’ or ‘standard line’ may be established, so that the Mistress is not even put to the trouble of devising a line. This system was used at ***** School at various periods. In one house the set line for the week was pinned upon the noticeboard by the housemistress, and the prefects and Mistresses had merely to say to a girl “ One hundred lines” and the punishment was imposed. The girl knew that she must copy the ‘set Line’ one hundred times and deliver it to the Mistress’s study by five o’clock the next day— the standard time for the submission of such punishments. Of course, those in authority were always free to set their own lines, and often did so, especially if they wished to amuse the young delinquent by setting a rather longer line than the standard one, but the existence of the ‘set line’ had a very definite effect toward increasing the amount of written punishment imposed in that house.
The ease and freedom felt, especially by the prefects, in being able to say “Lydia, 100 Lines”, perhaps as a sort of aside, without even turning away from one’s conversation with a fellow-prefect, was almost intoxicating in its bestowal of a sense of effortless power. At the same time, the younger girls stood more in awe of the prefects as an order of beings who could and would ruin an afternoon’s leisure without giving the matter a minute’s worth o f her own attention. It was noticed also that the prefects and even the Mistresses often gave larger numbers of lines than before, perhaps tiring of constantly saying “50 lines” and “100 lines” and finding it interesting to vary the refrain with “250 lines”. “300 lines” and even perhaps the occasional four or five hundred.
This system was introduced and found to be of great advantage whenever one of those occasional periods of turbulence and unruliness setted upon the school or upon a particular form, year or house (all schoolteachers and Governesses will be familiar with this phenomenon). It has a great effect in increasing respect for authority, calming the passions, and, indeed, in giving the children something more tranquil with which to occupy their leisure hours!
The Length of the Line
As WELL AS THE question of the number of lines, the punishment may be varied in other ways, the most obvious of these being the length of the line. Some Mistresses take a whimsical pleasure in, say, keeping a girl behind after class to receive her punishment and saying, “Well, Veronica, you are to write fifty lines for me,” and even as Veronica is breathing a sigh of relief, proceeding to dictate, or to write upon the blackboard a form of words orotund and leisurely in its expression, replete with dependent clauses, causing the child’s heart to sink ever more deeply as the line seems
to be coming to a natural conclusion only to open into some fresh convolution of bluestocking verbosity and as it becomes apparent that the task will be as heavy as three or four hundred lines of a more usual length. Such procedures, of course, would lose their force if employed with too great a frequency, and, in any case, some Mistresses never use them; but it should be considered as a means of increasing the psychological effectiveness of the punishment. Conversely, a prefect may set the line first, giving a simple line of just a few words ‘I must not shout’, for example, and then dash the child’s hopes with an off-hand “Two hundred and fifty by tomorrow evening, please.”
The opposite effect may also be achieved. The girl who is noisy in the corridor may be brought up sharply with the following: “I am going to make an example of you, Fiona. You will have ample time to repent your thoughtlessness over the writing of four hundred lines.” A lengthy lecture – or perhaps the leaving of the room for some time to attend to some other business – is recommended at this point. And then: “Take down the line, please: Silence is golden.” This is still a substantial imposition, but the child is forcibly impressed with the thought of how much worse it might have been and doubtless will be should the offence recur, and of how wholly her fate is in the hands of her superiors.
The length of the line is often not a matter of much considered thought, and can easily become dictated by mere habit. Certain Mistresses are known for mostly setting short, simple lines, probably because they are the first that pop into their heads (they
probably set longer ones every now and then, when they are cross). Others dutifully compose lines of a middling length because that is what seems to them the “right” length for a punishment line, while Miss S——is well known for the length of her lines; solid slabs of artfully constructed prose three or four lines long, even though she sets the same numbers as the other Mistresses. Very probably there are one or two prefects who gleefully copy this trait, perhaps making their youthful compositions
even more elaborate than those of the Mistress they have suffered under. No doubt these foibles are an ineradicable part of human nature, but we wish here to express our opinion that the length of the line is, ideally, something to be considered: a part of the psychological balance of the punishment as a whole which should be so weighed as to make the punishment as elegant, effective and as appropriate to its circumstances as possible.
Neatness
The third important consideration in the setting of lines is neatness; some prefects and Mistresses – probably the majority – will accept lines of almost any quality, others will take pleasure in rejecting a hundred lines for a few minor imperfections, demanding that they be done again and perhaps even doubling or trebling them, or bringing out the cane for the offence of “unsatisfactory completion of punishment work.”
Girls quickly mark the difference between the two types, and it would be a revelation to many to compare a page of lines written by the same girl for a mistress whom she knows will accept them with a cursory glance and for a prefect who has a reputation for re-setting, doubling and strapping. Curiously, there is often little ground between these extremes, which is unfortunate, because a girl should at least work in the realisation that her lines will be looked at. Some girls are so confident that the lines will not be checked that they deliberately do the wrong number, or even insert “amusing” variations into the lines in the middle of the imposition, on the (usually correct) assumption that only a few at the beginning or end will ever be read. These variations are often shown to other girls before the lines are submitted in order to demonstrate the ‘wit’ and daring of the writer.
The present writer recalls one girl who ‘concealed’ a great deal of innocent hilarity within the lines that ‘would never be read’ and well remembers the consternation registered on the countenance of this young person upon learning that she must repeat the imposition of 150 lines every day for a fortnight, with a sharp application of between three and a dozen strokes (depending upon the excellence or otherwise of the lines) of the Junior Dormitory Cane (a light instrument, but, as the girls put it, “a real
stinger” ) upon the reception of each repetition. Methods of ‘correcting’ lines are various and each has its particular charm. The simple act of tearing the lines in half or into pieces with the information that they are unsatisfactory and must be repeated is especially effective where a long imposition has been completed and sometimes has the effect of reducing a girl to tears.
Some Mistresses go through the imposition, scoring in red ink through each unsatisfactory line, or circling unsatisfactorily formed letters; each line thus rejected to be repeated several times – often three, five or ten times. Other Mistresses may award a stroke of the strap or five minutes’ detention for every rejected line. To tell a girl in advance that her imposition is to be “marked” in this way greatly increases her care and patience in writing it. The girl who has not been warned of this strict marking may be given a salutary shock as she sees the Mistress, whom she had expected to receive the lines with no more than a glance, set to work closely examining them with a severe countenance and dotting the page with red marks. The simple rejection of the
entire imposition with the instruction that it is now doubled – or even, occasionally, trebled – is perhaps the most devastating ‘correction’ of all. This penalty may be awarded for lateness of presentation as well as for untidiness.
As we have suggested, the degree of severity with which an imposition is ‘marked’ and ‘corrected’ should be a matter for some consideration. Undoubtedly the temperament of the Mistress or prefect is, and should be, a factor. Some really do not wish to concern themselves with an imposition once it is completed, and the off-hand, scarcely-noticing manner in which they accept what may represent two or three hours of girlish tedium is an important nuance of the punishment. Others have a sense of order and neatness which demands that lines be checked carefully. Nonetheless, we feel that, in the interests of effective and subtly-calculated punishment, the matter should sometimes be considered.
It should be borne in mind that when a girl knows that her work is to be sternly marked, fifty lines which must be written with the most painstaking care and attention may be a greater punishment than a hundred lines of the same length set in the ‘normal’ way— a punishment which is also intensified by the psychological uncertainty as to whether the task will really be ‘over’ when it is completed; that when she does not know it, the imposition of 100 lines which are almost certain to be rejected and repeated is psychologically very different from setting 200 lines in the first place, and 100 lines which are repeated twice and finally doubled before they are at last accepted (making 500 in all) is an entirely different sort of punishment from a straightforward imposition of 500 lines, a punishment on some occasions much better and on others not so good. On the other hand, the fairly free acceptance of lines is not to
be derided. It has its uses. Very strict marking does greatly increase the time taken up by lines, both from repetition (unless other means are used to chastise unaccepted lines) and from the much slower speed of a girl working to make each line, each word, each letter acceptable to her taskmistress. 150 lines under these circumstances, even if no correction work is necessary may be the equivalent of 300 ‘ordinary’ lines. This is often an excellent thing, but sometimes the Mistress may want the sound and feel of setting the higher numbers. She may desire the crushing effect of announcing “ 500 lines” without actually giving the equivalent of 1,000 or 1,500. She may want the overwhelming psychological effect o f giving the dreaded “ thousand lines” without prolonging the punishment to inordinate lengths. In such cases lighter marking is called for, though even here, the present writer cannot advocate the ‘bare glance’ or automatic acceptance which is all too common.
Is there ever a case for the ‘bare glance’ ? Yes, we should say there is. As we have already indicated, it can be psychologically effective in indicating how very little the girl’s punitive labours may signify to the superiors who impose them. Some Mistresses and prefects are known for this and it is part of their ‘style’ – it
suits them. Others may vary their methods, and it can be particularly effective when a girl is expecting the strictest marking, to accept the lines occasionally without a glance. She has worked at them with the greatest care, extending the dreary time of her punishment to twice its normal length or more. Now her careful work does not receive even ten seconds’ attention. The pages are not turned. She might have scribbled it all at breakneck speed. She might have written only half the set amount. It would not have mattered after all. When a Mistress is known for being unpredictable in her reception of impositions, an interesting tension is created in the hearts of her pupils – should one really work so horribly slowly and carefully when, as likely as not she will accept the work without considering it for a moment? Dare one risk rushing a bit when she may be in one of her ‘fussy moods’ and examine every individual line? It is something of an unorthodox ‘effect’ , perhaps, to aim for, but one that is not without its piquance and charm.
Unusual Numbers
Just as too many Mistresses give too little attention to the examination of lines, so they may give too little thought to the numbers they set. In a way, of course, this is often as it should be. Lines do not demand much of the setter. It is the pupil who has
to think about them, write them, live with them until they are finished. Many Mistresses set the standard ‘100 lines’ for almost everything, occasionally venturing to two or three hundred when much displeased, and there is nothing wrong with this style. Nonetheless, there are shades and colours that many mistresses might enrich their work by considering. Each number of lines has its own subtle feeling. ‘100 lines’, of course, is the standard, classical imposition. ‘50 lines’ (often set by prefects) has a feeling of lenity about it, although it is a tiresome enough imposition when one actually sets about doing it.
Slightly more unorthodox numbers should sometimes be considered. 150 is a number with a gentle charm. More than the standard 100, but not yet ‘taking wing’ into the multiples of 100. It is an interestingly homely little punishment which at once feels lenient because it has avoided the more obvious 200 and severe because it is substantially more than the standard 100. 250 is a nice, solid quantity: it has a feeling of being well-considered. It is half 500, seeming to suggest the higher reaches of punitive imposition and, while it does not yet aspire to them, the pupil will find it weighty enough. It is a good ‘warning’ number. 350 is another number with charm. Do consider it from time to time. Small numbers are also not without interest. Sometimes in
schools where a standard line is written up for the week, the habit of giving ten, fifteen and twenty-five lines for minor offences is encouraged.
Such sums are irritating rather than crushing, but they are good for maintaining order in little things and may rapidly mount up. It is a useful system to consider in some circumstances. 25 lines is a punishment which should not be neglected. It sounds light and whimsical. It is light, but not quite as light as it sounds. If you are inclined to disbelieve us, stop now, in the middle of this paragraph, and write, 25 times, “ I must be a good, demure, obedient young lady.” Have you done that? Then no doubt you see what we mean. 25 to 50 lines is an excellent punishment for breaking small bad habits like bad posture, bad pronunciation and so forth. The lines must be written immediately, every time the girl is found doing – or not doing – whatever is in question.
The Magical Thousand
From small numbers to large ones. Perhaps the most crushing phrase in the schoolMistress’s repertoire is “You will take a thousand lines.” There is something magical about the dreaded thousand: so utterly crushing; such a heavy, inescapable sentence
that comes down upon one, changing the colour of one’s immediate life. One remembers the oppressive tedium of the 100 or 200 one wrote last week, but a thousand seems almost outside comprehension. There is a curious satisfaction in imposing such a rounded, thorough punishment. From 500 onwards, lines take on a darker, more serious colouring. 600, 700, 750, 800 are numbers whose announcement leaves one numbed and a little chilled, but 1,000 brings one somehow into a new dimension of seriousness and severity. A thousand lines has something of the fateful, drastic quality of the cane in schools where the cane is rarely used and only for serious offences: something which suddenly brings the erring child up against the hard reality of Fate. The very phrase “ a thousand lines” has something of the classic severity of ‘six o f the best’, and, indeed, with less whimsy and more heaviness about it. The present writers are of the opinion that every girl should at some time endure the experience of writing a thousand lines or more. There are few, if any, who do not on some occasion deserve it, and distressing as it may be at the time, it is, in itself, a part of the education of character.
We have seen many girls surprisingly improved after such a long and gruelling imposition – at once quietened and in a curious way deepened, and also somehow refreshed, as if a period of dull restriction had increased their appreciation of the simple pleasures and everyday liberties of life. As with the severer forms of discipline in general, girls vary considerably in how frequently large numbers of lines will benefit
them. Some girls – probably most – require such discipline only rarely, but there are those who benefit and actually flourish under their fairly frequent application. These are not necessarily the girls who find them most tolerable; rather they are those who have an inward need for submission and the subjugation of the will to that of another. Such subjugation does not come within the compass of usual school discipline, but may sometimes flower between a Mistress (or often a prefect) and a girl who have a particular rapport. Conversely, it is true that some Mistresses are prone to set the
dreaded thousand lines more easily than others. A majority will not do it save in exceptional circumstances, but there are those who regard this form of punishment as a salutary part of regular school discipline. They will set a thousand lines not infrequently and sometimes will sentence a whole class to this crushing imposition.
Their classes tend to be exceptionally quiet, subdued and well turned-out. Such Mistresses will be prone to set 1,500 or 2,000 for more serious offences, and we have heard such formidable ladies speak warmly of the virtues o f “ a few thousand lines”
for the cure of this or that fault. Such Mistresses may also set a thousand lines of more than usual length: an instruction to write a long, complex sentence one thousand times is one of the most heart-oppressing that can be received. This brings us on to the subject of multiples of a thousand. These are rare for all Mistresses and all girls, only occurring in exceptional circumstances, but can be an excellent discipline in
certain cases. We recall a girl who was directly defiant to a Mistress who, after consideration of the matter, decided to suspend her from all lessons and to take her to every class she was teaching for the next few days, seating her always at the back of the class where she would employ her time in completing 3,000 lines which were
subject to the closest scrutiny, several pages often being rejected for inadequate neatness. At the end of this ordeal (which also included several corporal chastisements) the girl’s tendency to insubordination went into abeyance for a very long time. We have heard of prefects giving one, two or even three thousand lines as ‘holiday tasks’ to their favourite juniors at the end of term. This is not a practice which is officially approved, but in our view, so long as there is a real rapport and the girls are not being oppressed entirely against their will (and this is not usually the case among girls, especially those brought up in the sensitive atmosphere of an advanced school), it does little harm and often much good.
Spread over the period of a holiday, these large impositions are not as onerous (provided they are approached sensibly and not left to the last minute) as when given in a more concentrated form. This is generally the case with high numbers of lines. The instruction “You will present 150 lines a day for the next week” is actually an
imposition of just over a thousand lines (if Sunday be included), yet it has not nearly the suffocating weight of a thousand lines to be presented in one or two days. What it lacks in immediate force, of course, it makes up in duration – the obligation to produce today’s 150 lines being continually with the girl. As we have said before, the skilful Mistress will weigh the relative merits of setting the same imposition in different forms. We might even say that there is a method midway between these two. If one were to say “ You will take a thousand lines” and to follow this (either immediately or at a later time) with the instruction that they may be presented in instalments of 100 a day for the next ten days, one has at once the effect of setting the fateful thousand, and of giving the longer punishment, which is at once a mitigation and an extension of the suffering.
A punishment such as “You will write 100 lines a day for the rest of term” is in fact likely to be an imposition of several thousand lines, but has a very different tone and character from a simple imposition of four or five thousand lines. The unimaginative may argue that the words, or the precise form in which a punishment is set, is of no real importance, and is purely psychological, but we reply that lines are in any case a
wholly psychological punishment. The suffering is “ all in the mind” . A girl can only ever be writing one line at any given time, and few girls would mind writing a single line in the least – it is the memory o f what she has written before and the knowledge
of what she has still to write which make the imposition a punishment at all. Therefore the way it is set, the perception of the punishment, is a vital part of its nature.
This also is why such questions as the length of a line, the meticulousness with which it is marked and the severity with which it is ‘corrected’ are all vital to the ‘colouring’ of the punishment. One hundred long lines; 200 ‘normal’ lines; 300 very short ones; 50 lines which will be scrutinised, rejected and doubled, the new work therefore done with painstaking care and slowness – these four punishments may all take the same length of time by the clock, sitting in uniform at a desk, to complete. To the unsubtle mind they are ‘the same’, or at any rate equivalent punishments.
To the mind alive with the New Sensibility, they are four quite different things, each with its own unique flavour and bouquet, each appropriate to a particular combination of occasion and individual girl rather than another, each to be weighed, sensed, savoured and appreciated in its own particular way. There are of course, a dozen variants and hybrids o f these four, all of which would take up the same amount of objective disciplinary time – but by no means the same amount of subjective time, or the same quality of time. When we say – as we propose to say – that setting lines is an art, we are likely to be suspected of making a statement that is both clicked and strictly
untrue. We maintain, nonetheless, that setting lines is an art – or at any rate that it can be. A minor art to be sure, but insofar as it conveys to its ‘audience’ a particular nuance of this particular aspect of the variegated human tapestry called discipline, an art by all means.
(Link to previous post regarding Mistress Suzanne HERE)
Dear Mistress Scarlet
I can confidently say that Mary has become accustomed to wearing her little girl dresses and realises that the slightest resistance to her daily routine will incur punishment of a severe nature.
You were good enough to send me a link to Birch Place Shop, and on Wednesday evening a compliant Mary sat beside me as I explained that I was looking for various outfits compatible with her proposed new role as a maid. Her reaction to the catalogue was remarkable to behold. I honestly believe that she had no idea that such costumes were available and that they could be sized specifically for her. In simple terms she was immediately and dreadfully afraid. Her fear was perceptible in both her face and posture.
Asked to point out the dresses she liked most, she responded by asking why they were all so short. I reminded her that she loved to show off her panties and that such dresses would give her every opportunity to do so. She didn’t disagree, but simply sobbed. She seems to be increasingly emotional for some reason.
I am a strong believer in positive reinforcement and so on the following day I gave Mary 200 lines. “My name is Mary and I love to show off in my pretty panties”. This task will be repeated every day for some time until she openly admits to me, and more importantly herself that the statement accurately reflects the truth.
I am aware that crossdressers are sexually excited by wearing female clothing. I remain certain that this does not apply to Mary. With her chastity device removed I have dressed and undressed her many times now that I am becoming increasingly hands on. On no occasion has she shown the slightest sign of an erection. The body cannot lie, and I conclude that she has a deep need to be humiliated. I am of course happy to help out.
There has been a rather strange development. On the last 2 occasions of her milking she has managed to ejaculate and as usual experience a thoroughly ruined orgasm. However, whilst her little thing was not completely flaccid, her erection was unsatisfactory and I teased her about it. I plan to fit a smaller chastity device as over the longer term it would please me to do away with unsightly protuberances in her lingerie.
I shall have more to report in the near future, but please let me know when you want me to discontinue. I imagine you are routinely buried in email and I have no desire to add to your burden.
With respect and thanks, Suzanne
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Dear Mistress Scarlet
You may well be familiar with the “broken windows” theory of policing. The idea is that even the smallest misdemeanours are investigated, the offenders are charged and suffer the appropriate penalty. The system has been extremely effective in reducing both minor and serious crime wherever it has been conscientiously applied.
Could a successful FLR work in exactly the same way ? For instance, Mary is fully aware of how she is required to conduct herself. Despite this, on two recent occasions her behaviour has fallen below the required standard.
Firstly she entered a room when I was present and failed to curtsy. On the second occasion when told to sit down she did so without smoothing her frock and observing the rule which requires her to sit prettily with knees together and her hands on her lap.
These apparently minor offences are in fact nothing of the sort. Both of them are indicative of a serious lack of respect and I now treat them as such. There was a time when I was squeamish about doing anything more than administering a few sharp smacks to Mary’s bottom. When I witnessed her being competently spanked and properly caned by Marion I was sexually excited and my reluctance to administer corporal punishment evaporated.
Whenever necessary I make an appointment which informs Mary of the exact time and place she must report to for corrective therapy. I also choose the appropriate clothes she will wear for her appointment. I have found that introducing a delay between the offence and the appointment is an effective way of increasing both her anxiety and compliance. Following “correction” I think it unlikely that Mary will repeat those particular offences in the near future although I remain vigilant.
I have everything to learn and I continue to read any potentially relevant material. Occasionally it is very useful, for instance I was most impressed by the recent account from Mistress Jess. However I remain confused by the mass of articles which speak of FLR “grading” where terms such as light, moderate and severe control are commonly used. Either I am in control or I decide on a course of action following a discussion with Mary during which I take into account her opinion. This would be time consuming and pointless as I have no interest whatsoever in Mary’s opinions and perspectives. I believe there is no such thing as slight disrespect or minor disobedience. I haven’t the time for the pointless classification of offences but I have to acknowledge that owing to my relative lack of experience I may be missing the point. Time and experience will tell.
I have said before that Mary fears embarrassment and humiliation more than physical pain. I have made it clear to her that persistent offending of any nature will lead me to test that theory by devising more profound humiliations and administering increasingly painful corrective therapy. I have plans for the weekend.
With respect and thanks
Suzanne.
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Those infractions are not minor. What clothes does she have to wear?
What punishment do you intend? What are your plans for the weekend?
There are two of my posts that are relevant.
Scarlet
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Dear Mistress Scarlet
Many thanks for the links. Later today I will follow them and carefully consider what you have to say. With regard to clothing, Mary’s usual daily wardrobe to date has been developed to normalise her current little girl status. Consequently her frocks are both pretty and short. Thanks are due to Etsy and in particular Chameleon Clothing. Some of these frocks have an integrated petticoat, but where this is not the case a short and pretty half slip is added. Her panties could be described as excessively girly and always feature bows, frills and lace trims. Always frilled white ankle socks and Mary Janes. Her costume will be developed over time. In the future I have in mind a range of frocks which could be roughly categorised as a slightly more mature Lolita/Kawaii style. I am reminded of the fun I used to have as a child dressing up my dollies
I am aware that some uxos are required to wear specific clothing for punishment sessions. This is something I will consider, but for the time being the length of Mary’s frocks is perfect for occasions when she must submit to the cane. She has to fully confess to her misbehaviour in writing before apologising. I then require a full written apology which I may accept or reject following which it must be rewritten. Her apologies are inevitably rejected at least twice.
In the case of the recent offences she was then required to practice her curtsy and her manner of sitting down until she was visibly exhausted. As required she then asked me to correct her and she was caned. It always makes her plead and cry but she knows if that I judge that she has cried too soon, the number of strokes will be increased. She must then thank me for her correction before utterly exhausted and miserable, she is put to bed. Correct deportment is absolutely central to her training.
For me, these are early days. In due course I intend to experiment with some of the methods you have so effectively employed. Linnex application is high on my list as is full restraint in sensory deprivation which would suit me very well when I need to go out or simply need some time to myself.
I need all disciplinary methods to meet two basic requirements. Firstly, administering the punishment must sexually excite me and secondly the prospect of the punishment must fill Mary’s mind with dread. She wanted a change from her usual frock and panties and her wish will be granted. This weekend she will submit to basic nursery discipline.
With respect and thanks
Suzanne
A very hot email indeed!
I assume orgasms for you followed her caning?
I would love to hear about Mary’s nursery weekend!
How is Mary coping with only occasional spilled prostate induced orgasms as her sex life?
Scarlet
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Hello again,
To Mistrike’s comment, we certainly are taking a wide berth around exposing our child to anything other than a loving home. Part of our contract is that deeper and more formal submission begins after the child is asleep I kneel before my wife and ask her if I may serve her for the remainder of the evening. During the day she will text me anything that the child should not hear and I otherwise just display courteous and chivalrous behavior which I think a man should demonstrate for a child anyway, but there is nothing untoward or erotic about it. Just good manners.
We do both wish I could wear a chastity cage more often (as we had recently purchased a more snugly fitting one), but the risk of the child coming into contact with it while I wear it is just too high.
Last night was another experience that I know was influenced by your book, Gratifying Domination: A Guidance Manual, if not taken directly from it, because I have read a blog post here about “playing with the trinkets” or something like that and this was a very similar experience. As we were winding down for the evening and I had finished my nightly routine another part of our contract is that I have to strip naked and then thank my Miss for the privilege of serving her and ask her permission to enter our bed. She told me that I needed to go and get a shoelace which I retrieved. She then ordered me onto the bed on all fours facing away from her. She then proceeded to tie my testicles away from my penis and pull the whole package between my legs then ordered me to keep my legs closed with everything pulled back between.
As I was on all fours facing away from her I felt very vulnerable and exposed, as she was under the covers relaxing and munching on an apple (cut into 12 pieces, part of my nightly routine) and reading Miss Scarlet’s book mentioned above. As she read and snacked she would alternate between gently running a finger along my penis and using a rather concussive and hard smack to my testicles. As soon as I began to relax into the pleasure of the touching she would go back to hard smacks. There didn’t seem to be any discernible or predictable pattern as she was reading and idly tormenting me a bit.
After probably a half hour of the treatment she untied my testicles and told me that I could now lay under the covers with her. I spooned her and let out a bit of a groan as my very erect penis slid between her perfect butt cheeks as we came together in the spooning motion. I kissed her neck lightly and she told me if I was feeling pent up I could rub her neck a bit to work off the energy.
As I laid there rubbing her neck and feeling my penis throbbing and pulsing between her cheeks she told me how much she has been enjoying tormenting me and was very happy that tying me up and leaving me the other night had such an effect on me. She said she would be doing it again soon, but that she would be making it more difficult for me. She did not say how and my mind began wandering if she meant duration? Pain? Teasing? Maybe a gag? Maybe some other way in which it could be made more difficult? This is probably the first time she has identified something I truly did not enjoy (there are things I love to hate or it is kind of a secret that I do enjoy to some degree) but this is pure sadistic pleasure for her to have me suffer in that way, which feels like a massive breakthrough and has me feeling some genuine fear, which is very exciting as well as scary.
She then told me she can do whatever she wants to me and that she WILL be doing whatever she wants with me. This was driving me wild and I begged her for an orgasm and she laughed and said no. I pleaded with her a bit and she told me if I asked again I would be punished, so I stopped asking. A few minutes later she told me that my neck rubbing was sufficient and I may stop and we fell asleep.
I am still reeling from the past few days and think back on what has been happening and am just blown away by how things have taken such a turn so quickly. I’m trying to remain cautious in my optimism, but I really think that her reading has made something click for her and we will continue a deeper journey of greater suffering for me and pleasure for her which is very very exciting for me! I can’t thank you enough, Miss Scarlet, for opening this door into a deeper dynamic for us.
Thanks again,
LSK
I simply wanted to mention that the book to which LSK referred above, Gratifying Domination: A Guidance Manual, should not be given to a vanilla wife. It contains some things far too extreme and likely to horrify a vanilla wife who has not fully understood and accepted the mind-set of an uxo, and the beneficial symbiosis of an FLR.
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