Final post on the topic, (I promise). He will remain a he, not an Itt, IT or it.

Apologies, apologies apologies for taking up the time of you all with this issue. I wish I had never began my contemplation of the topic. Apologies.

I have decided there will be no change to my bitch’s gender. Even formulating the words for this post of explanation is not without difficulty. Throughout my embarrassing flip-flopping, a few blog followers made the point that my bitch is a male and remains a male that, only in respect of the activity of sex, is genderless, (and celibate). Not only is he a male when needed as my knight in shining armour, my protector, my physically strong male when that is needed, it is the fact he is a male, FORCED by me, to be genderless when it comes to sexual activity, that is the turn-on for me.

He has male competitiveness and I enjoy him so often winning in the male games in which I allow him to take part. I enjoy reflected glory because he is MY male. He has male physical strength that is useful on many occasions. He has male assertiveness in the meaner of the streets we may pass along during travelling. But oh dear, when it comes to his male desires to have erections, to have those erections manipulated, to have sex, to have orgasms, he gets nothing! And it is that he is a male, getting nothing, that is such a huge turn-on for me, and such a huge power rush. So I will refer to him as my celibate genderless porn in relation to our ‘shared’ sex life, while he remains a male in all other aspects.

I promise to please the grammar experts if the need for a possessive it ever arises but I will write no more here on this topic, for fear of disappearing up my own tailpipe! Apologies again and thank you all for your endless patience and tolerance.

Photo’s of the alternative chastity device

Following on from my post of 17 April, earlier this year, my bitch’s new chastity device for wearing under tight clothes has been honed, is fully road tested, and in regular use. This is a link to images of it on my BDSMLR blog. The images are on BDSMLR because I have already had one warning that my blog will be deleted, without any notice, if I did not remove offensive images from it, which I have done. It will also be deleted without notice if any appear in the future.

The bottom image in the collage just about shows the padlock passing through his frenum piercing. The apparent soiling of the silicone tube is the smears of the Baby Oil Gel used as lubricant. (Higley recommended! NOT Baby Oil, but Baby Oil Gel.)

When not in tight clothing and at home, I nonetheless have him remove this device and wear his usual device. The reason I do this is that the chains from the frenum piercing to the padlock rattle quite loudly against the hard plastic tube and I adore this sound. An aural reminder to me, (and him), that he is locked up, for at least for six month periods – 24/7/365, (apart from brief washes).

The empty pair of holes were the first attempt at hole location. I may add a pair of nuts and bolts, (each protruding thread hammered flat so it cannot be undone.) I would add a bolt a quarter way in from each side, at the open end of tube, to further restrict attempts to access the penis head and to add to the aesthetic of inescapably and oppressive denial.

I still cannot choose what to do about gender and grammar. I may drop the whole idea. If, as I imagine you are bored to tears with this issue, you need not read on; please, please DO NOT READ ON! Otherwise, for those profoundly patient, sweetest, dearest helpers of mine, as it is my blog, I am having a play.

Genderless version of the above post, version 1, bb named IT.

Following on from my post of 17 April, earlier this year, my bitch’s new chastity device for wearing under tight clothes has been honed, is fully road tested, and in regular use. This is a link to images of it on my BDSMLR blog.

The bottom image in the collage just about shows the padlock passing through IT’s frenum piercing. The apparent soiling of the silicone tube is the smears of the Baby Oil Gel used as lubricant. (Higley recommended! Not Baby Oil, but Baby Oil Gel.)

When not in tight clothing and at home, I nonetheless have IT remove this device and wear IT’s usual device. The reason I do this is that the chains from the frenum piercing to the padlock rattle quite loudly against the hard plastic tube and I adore this sound. An aural reminder to me, (and IT), that IT is locked up, for at least for six month periods – 24/7/365, (apart from brief washes) .

Genderless version of the above post, version 2, if I rename bitch-boy Itt.

Following on from my post of 17 April, earlier this year, my bitch’s new chastity device for wearing under tight clothes has been honed, is fully road tested, and in regular use. This is a link to images of it on my BDSMLR blog.

The bottom image in the collage just about shows the padlock passing through Itt’s frenum piercing. The apparent soiling of the silicone tube is the smears of the Baby Oil Gel used as lubricant. (Higley recommended! Not Baby Oil, but Baby Oil Gel.)

When not in tight clothing and at home, I nonetheless have Itt remove this device and wear Itt’s usual device. The reason I do this is that the chains from the frenum piercing to the padlock rattle quite loudly against the hard plastic tube and I adore this sound. An aural reminder to me, (and Itt), that Itt is locked up, for at least for six month periods – 24/7/365, (apart from brief washes).

The decision on replacing he, him and his

First, a HUGE thank you for the amazing response to my previous post. I am so grateful to have such a helpful gang looking out for what is best for me! THANK YOU!

Unfortunately, a good number of commenters on my last post suggested gender neutral names for bitch-boy which was not the task. The task was a way to replace the words, ‘he’ and ‘him’ and ‘his’ with genderless terms that would not be used for a human being. Also a number of commenters suggested using “speech marks” which unfortunately cannot work as I will often use the terms in question, “within passages of speech“, which are already in italics and bounded by speech marks.

The vote was broadly equal between options 1 and 3. There were a number of objections to 3 over it causing confusion to the reader. (No apostrophe when there WAS possession.) There were objections to option 1 over confusion with the acronym for information technology, which I struggled to have sympathy for given, firstly the context of what I write, and secondly, how the subconscious of the reader will quickly adapt to the use I MAKE of the word IT. And also objections over what I deal with in my next paragraph.

As many of you know, I analyse everything that is based on convention. I reject a huge amount of convention in the domination-submission world that has so often been founded on misunderstanding and never been corrected. For instance: The term BDSM. The phrase, Safe, Sane, and Consensual. That the male in the book Venus in Furs was a masochist! So many commenters had a problem with capitalisation of the word, ‘IT’, because capitalisation has often been used in femdom communications for references to the Domme, while lower case used for references to the submissive. (A very clunky and significant grammar error no one seems to have a problem with!)

Raising this issue with me, caused me to think long and hard about the importance of my slave-husband. I resolved that while it is true that he has no importance of status, he is of great SIGNIFICANCE to me, is that importance? A significance worthy of capitalisation though! It has me thinking all long-term submissive spouses warrant capitalisation, but not for reasons they like! They are a very significant focus of their Domme when they so often would rather not be.

There were only two commenters who wanted bitch-boy to retain a gender. I am perhaps incorrectly thinking that means everyone else would prefer I choose option 1, 2 or 3 rather then 4, even if the option I choose out of 1, 2 or 3 is not their preferred option. No one wrote that were I to choose an option from 1, 2 or 3they did not like, they would stop reading my journals!

So, although my mind is not made up at all over what I will do, I probably will eradicate his gender and I am minded to go for, ; ‘IT’ and IT’s, and if so, I will include the following within the introduction of my next journal:

For possible inclusion in the journal introduction

He and his are replaced with IT and IT’s in this journal because I have chosen to delete the gender of my slave-husband. As IT has at most, two erections and orgasms per year, and soon will never have any for the rest of IT’s life, for all intents and purposes IT is not male, and certainly he can never reach the high status of female. No operational sexual organ equals no gender.

The capitalisation does not represent importance of status. The capitalisation has three purposes in all.

## Chiefly, it is to make it easier for the reader to understand the passages.

## Secondly, it is the case that the capitalisation represents significance. IT is very, very significant in my life. IT is the foundation of my totally satisfying and extraordinary sex life. IT is also my personal slave, providing manicures, pedicures, hair washing, hair drying, leg and cunt and arm-pit shaving, feet moisturising, etc.  IT is also my chore slave, doing all chores inside and outside the home so I have no chores to do. I am sure IT wishes IT was not significant to me in this regard.

## Thirdly, IT is the target of my gratuitous meanness and my sadism. I am sure IT wishes IT was not significant to me in this regard.

IT, certainly does not feel the capitalisation represents importance of status! Clearly the capitalisation cannot represent importance of status given: IT is constantly teased but has no sex life, IT does all the chores and often the most lowly chores repeated several times. It is physically tortured for my amusement, and IT is a thing that suffers the worst degradations and humiliations. No, the capitalisation clearly cannot represent importance of status and I am sure IT very often wishes IT was not significant to me in the ways it is.

Help please, dear blog followers

In my post of 23 May I pondered making reference to bitch-boy in this blog, and possibly in all future journals, as ‘it’. This is because I have removed bitch-boy’s gender. He cannot be the grammar defying ‘they’ because he is not gender fluid. He has NO gender. I choose he is an,’it’.

However, in order refer to him this way I have to break some grammar rules. I provide 4 options below and my plea, dear blog follower, is to let me know by a comment with a number, which option you find the least confusing to read and you prefer. The first option is a new idea I have had of referring to bitch-boy as, ‘IT’, using capitol letters.

Option 1

…… I think this was a combination of a LONG and relaxed (for me) punishment session for IT strapped down to the bed, first on IT’s front, then on IT’s back – legs together, then while on IT’s back, in the frog-dissection position so I could work on IT’s inner thighs for a while. IT pleaded and pleaded………

Option 2

…… I think this was a combination of a LONG and relaxed (for me) punishment session for it strapped down to the bed, first on it’s front, then on it’s back – legs together, then while on it’s back, in the frog-dissection position so I could work on it’s inner thighs for a while. It pleaded and pleaded………

Option 3

…… I think this was a combination of a LONG and relaxed (for me) punishment session for it strapped down to the bed, first on its front, then on its back – legs together, then while on its back, in the frog-dissection position so I could work on its inner thighs for a while. It pleaded and pleaded………

Option 4

Do not refer to bitch-boy as, ‘it’ or ‘IT’.

Parallel paths for Christine and I

I received the delightful comment below from Christine regarding my post before last. I think it needs no more introduction. (I have included an image that IS NOT DAVID but I thought it might amuse Christine.)

Scarlet
I love this CGP post. It says so much about the commonality of the situation for both BB and David. I had not considered the sexless/celibate aspect of his existence, but yes, this is so true. He is permanently locked, erections and releases limited to just two brief occasions in a year (at most), with his period of stimulation for those releases limited to no more than one minute, though he usually spurts well within that time frame, given his denied and frustrated status. So, yes, sexless/celibate.

Then, he is attired as my maid most evenings, complete with carefully applied make-up.

He wears ladies lingerie, always, including under his male attire for work or when joining me for social events; and due to his tiny chastity cage preventing urination when standing, he must sit like a lady, which is often very inconvenient for him. So, yes, genderless.

This year is a special year of anniversaries for us. David will celebrate his fortieth birthday, I will celebrate my fifty-fifth, and it is our fifteenth year of ‘marriage’. You have inspired me to further ‘clamp down’ and provide him with more restrictions and suffering!

Opportunistically, crystal is the tradition for a 15th Wedding Anniversary. I am thinking that when we go out for our anniversary dinner, I might gaze into ‘my crystal ball’ and flag to him that he, like BB, is facing a very limited, finite number of future releases.

I am considering that I might inform him that, when I turn 60, which is just five years away, I will ‘semi-retire’ from providing releases, providing just one release a year thereafter; before I permanently retire from providing releases when I reach sixty-five.

Depending upon whether he draws his releases before each of my above birth dates, will be whether he has 12 or 14 releases left before being permanently denied and truly subject to zero sexual compensation, beyond extreme teasing, for his continued subservience.
Just thinking about telling him how, before he even turns fifty, his releases will have ended for ever, is making my juices flow. So, I am thinking this is going to be his reality! He will of course continue to serve and please me for so long as I desire, which will certainly be for many years after my sixty-fifth birthday!

It, not he or him

A post just for a bit of fun, for me.

In a recent comment, I received a suggestion that I adore. For a bit of fun for me, I have rewritten the latter portion of my previous post, but I have complied with the great suggestion. The suggestion is that, given my bitch is genderless, it does not get, ‘he’ or ‘him’ labels.

I once had a very young natural sadist Domme visit me who talked about her slave by always using the term, it. The usage of the term was as natural to her as breathing. She saw her slave as an object or thing to be used, not as a human.

The rewrite of the latter portion of my previous post, I LOOOOOOVE it.

In my post of 23 Feb 2023, I referred to my bitch as human porn. Things have moved on rather rapidly since then and I am able now to count myself as a rather extreme Domestic Domme. Extreme in terms of control and rationing of orgasms and erections for my poor bitch, and also in terms of cruel physical punishments.

Despite my last journal being published on April 9, I am two thirds through writing journal No.22, such have been the number and particularly the magnitude of recent step changes.

My bitch is now close to being Celibate, Genderless Porn; so it has a new dog-tag; CGP. Celibate because it’s orgasms and erections have moved to at least 6 months apart, so it is as good as celibate, but for the most pedantic blog follower, it also has, at most, only a handful of orgasms left for the rest of it’s life; and then it will truly be celibate; no orgasms or erections ever.

Genderless against it’s will. It is not making a gender choice of being whichever gender it chooses, I am making the choice that it has NO gender at all. It has no functioning sex organ, no sex life, so no gender.

Porn, because that is what it is to me. My porn. I interact with it to quickly and powerfully raise my arousal levels and then to ensure my orgasms arrive quickly, are huge, and are repeated many times in a session of using my porn, that lasts a few hours. (It isn’t just my porn, it is my body-slave and chore-slave too, but it being my porn brings me the most endorphins by far of all it’s roles.)

A few days ago I enjoyed a full-on DS session with it that necessitated me having a late afternoon nap, because I had had so many orgasms of such intensity, I felt too overwhelmed to function effectively. I think this was a combination of a LONG and relaxed (for me) punishment session for it strapped down to the bed, first on it’s front then on it’s back, legs together, then while on it’s back, in the frog-dissection position so I could work on it’s inner thighs for a while. Three orgasms for me during that punishment session. That activity combined with other things I did with it, and a background noise in my head of how I had moved it to, as good as getting zero sexual compensation for it’s suffering and slaving, and soon to be ABSOLUTELY ZERO sexual compensation for it’s suffering and slaving.

So it wears it’s new CGP dog-tag on it’s 24/7/365 stainless cable collar, or when naked on it’s chastity tube padlock. I think I will get a second tag so it wears one in each location all the time.

It is truly shell shocked over the recent step-changes, but still, when I give it the choice of domination my way and getting to see me erotically dressed and naked, or no domination at all and no seeing me other than dressed in vanilla outfits, it chooses my domination, MY WAY. So it only has it’s self to blame for it’s endurances.

Celibate Genderless Porn

In my post of 23 Feb 2023, I referred to my bitch as human porn. Things have moved on rather rapidly since then and I am able now to count myself as a rather extreme Domestic Domme. Extreme in terms of control and rationing of orgasms and erections for my poor bitch, and also in terms of cruel physical punishments.

Despite my last journal being published on April 9, I am two thirds through writing journal No.22, such have been the number and particularly the magnitude of recent step changes. (Oh no, not Mistress Scarlet banging on about step changes yet again! Could there actually be any more of interest? Well there have been more, and they are certainly of interest to me and my bitch).

The reason for this post is the image above. My bitch is now close to being Celibate, Genderless Porn; so he has a new dog-tag; CGP. Celibate because his orgasms and erections have moved to at least 6 months apart, so he is as good as celibate, but for the most pedantic blog follower, he also has, at most, only a handful of orgasms left for the rest of his life; and then he will truly be celibate; no orgasms or erections ever.

Genderless against his will. He is not making a gender choice of being whichever gender he chooses, I am making the choice that he has no gender at all. He has no functioning sex organ, no sex life, so no gender.

Porn, because that is what he is to me. My porn. I interact with him to quickly and powerfully raise my arousal levels and then to ensure my orgasms arrive quickly, are huge, and are repeated many times in a session of using my porn, that lasts a few hours. (He isn’t just my porn, he is my body-slave and chore-slave too, but him being my porn brings me the most endorphins by far of all his roles.)

A few days ago I enjoyed a full-on DS session with him that necessitated me having a late afternoon nap, because I had had so many orgasms of such intensity, I felt too overwhelmed to function effectively. I think this was a combination of a LONG and relaxed (for me), punishment session for him, strapped down to the bed. First on his front, then on his back – legs together, then while on his back, in the frog-dissection position, so I could work on his inner thighs for a while. I had three orgasms during that punishment session. That activity combined with other things I did with him, and a constant background noise in my head of how I had moved him to as good as getting as zero sexual compensation for his suffering and slaving, which would soon to be ABSOLUTELY ZERO sexual compensation for his suffering and slaving.

So he wears his new CGP dog-tag on his 24/7/365 stainless-steel cable collar, or when naked, on his chastity tube padlock. I think I will get a second tag so he wears one in each location all the time.

He is truly shell shocked over the recent step-changes, but still, when I give him the choice of domination my way, (and also getting to see me erotically dressed and naked), or no domination at all, (and no seeing me other than dressed in vanilla outfits), he chooses my domination, MY WAY. So he only has himself to blame for his endurances.

My Boot pics, as requested

On 5 May in response to demand, I posted images of me wearing some of my gloves. I have now had a number of requests for images of me wearing some of my boots. I have to admit I do like boots. I have around half a dozen pairs of high-heeled boots for vanilla wear and of course my knee-high Ugg boot slippers, an indoor pair and an outdoor pair. My Ugg boots are a favourite for when I am in either my outdoor or outdoor swing seat and I have my boot n my poor puppet’s throat. For that purpose, more comfortable for me than boots with a heel. My bitch doesn’t seem to find them so comfortable though. I have also have my DS boots.

I have not included my walking boots as they are not sexy at all. But I do love getting them really muddy on a walk and then having my bitch clean them to an immaculate standard, only for me to immediately go outside and get muddy again, and have cleaned again.

Boots do feature on several of the covers of my journals. Including my very latest journal. No. 21.

Journal No. 21; paperback version NOW available

Apologies that my post of 27 April erroneously stated this journal was available as a paperback, however, it is now! PAPERBACK LINK HERE. It remains available as an eBook on LULU.com and on Amazon for Kindles. (If you search on Lulu, you will need to tick the ‘explicit‘ box.)

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I am pleased to write that so far, No. 21 has exclusively full 5 star rating on Kindle. And among the kind reviews I have received, this review I found particularly amusing:

In due course, it will also be available in most other outlets and formats.

……………….She allowed me to buy Journal 21 and using the Kindle app, she reads it to me in a female English voice, as long as my hands are tied behind my back. She is amused at how much I drip from my chstity cage into my panties after just a dozen pages or so……………..