A break in my blog posts

For reasons I need not mention, there will be a break in my posting of blog entries and moderating/publishing/responding to comments. The break will start in two or three weeks and will last for two to four weeks.

After the break I will resume as normal.

On a separate note, the volume of sales of my BDSM Manual have been very considerable; I guess because it is for any gender of dominant dealing with any gender of submissive it has mass appeal. So far I have only received positive comments. I do wonder if it has been featured on some BDSM book review site or similar to have become so popular so quickly.


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Beware a fake Mistress Scarlet blog

Cuckx has advised me of a blog/website masquerading as one of mine. IT IS NOT! It is nothing to do with me at all.

This is an example page. It looks so dodgy I would worry about clicking on a link.



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Pretty Nettle Pouch?

Pink Gimp kindly sent me the following comment.

Hi came across this item,  http://shop.birchplace.com./pouches/pvc-pansy-pouch?cPath=99&  and thought of the nettle pouch You use on bitchboy, more fitting look lol 😂 and nice pink colour.

He is so right but before I purchase, I have one concern which perhaps a blog follower may be able to answer. Has anyone bought this item and if yes, can the drawstring be tied really tightly or does the elasticated opening prevent the draw string being tied really tightly?

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How hard to smack the object?

The wonderful Christine M left me a comment with this  question.

Ms Scarlet
I have always avoided spanking the penis out of fear of serious bruising, knowing there are so many blood vessels within. Can I therefore enquire, when you use the ruler, can you give an indication of how hard you strike, and what might be a typical number of strokes? This is not mentioned in your Manual, which I have enjoyed.
At the end, is there much bruising, and if so, how long does it last?

This is my response below. Do any other ruler smacking users have any guidance tips on how hard to smack?

It is hard to put into the written word how hard a smack should be. I can tell you that there is never any bruising afterwards as a result. I smack at least until the penis has been turned a shade of pink compared to its normal colour. As far as I can tell, if smacking with the force required for that, there is no limit to the number of smacks that can be applied. Quite a good smacking method, is two light taps followed by a serious ‘tap’. Then repeat that sequence of three – again, and again and again. A good way to judge the right force for the smacks is to experiment by smacking your own inner thigh or inner wrist. (Not in front of your sub). I have had many guests apply smacking and I do so at least twice a week, and there has never been any damage. I find a good smacking force causes whimpering and pleading, especially when applied to an already smacked-sore, pink penis, but does not cause shouting out or screaming. Please let me know how your first session goes and what if any of what I have written is helpful. I will then include any that is in edition 2 of my Manual at some point.

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Watch this space – great new posts here

Some great new posts from the delightful Mistress Rebecca Follow this link.

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Alternative punishment

Well it was a full-on domination day but it was also the day before bitch-boy had to go to hospital for a very personal examination. (Nothing serious.) I had decided to accompany him to the hospital. I had insisted he shave his genitals today so that would be an embarrassment for him at the hospital. I decided he could snap out his black, acrylic frenum piercing ring. I would have him glue another ring in place when we got back from the hospital.

However today, he was due a serious punishment for an infraction. I decided against the cane or similar as I did not want his butt all bruised and marked. I did not want to be reported for assault or domestic abuse. But he did need a punishment. I could not count nettles or Linnex to his clitty as punishment as he would be getting one or both anyway, just for my amusement. I could not count two hours in TSD as punishment as he would be getting that anyway, just for my amusement. The same for a substantial cock spanking with the ruler.

This quandary did bring home to me the tricky issue, (I have tried to deal with in my published manual), of differentiating between punishment for infractions and torment for fun. The submissive must know when each is happening and be very clear on that. They must also know that punishment can be avoided, (although torment cannot), if they do not commit any infractions. They must very much want to avoid punishment.

Because of my theory, detailed in my post of yesterday, I do not invent infractions to find an excuse to torment.

In the end, because I like thrashing his butt so much, I opted to postpone his punishment for three days until my next full-on domination day. I have adopted the habit of a very generous deterrent punishment at the beginning of a full-on domination day (as I mentioned in my  post of August 28), and then around an hour later dishing out any actual punishment due. I am a serious sadist because I love to use my cane, paddle and quirt to punish those already red, sore and puffy butt cheeks. Oh poor bitch-boy is so full of woe and disbelief as I nonchalantly spend my time giving one stroke after another after another. His helplessness and pleading give me SUCH A POWER RUSH and associated arousal. And my clear and obvious sadism and pitilessness has him in awe of me when it is all over. Perfect symbiosis!

POSTCRIPT – There were two specialists working in the relevant hospital consultation area. A middle aged aunty type and a very attractive young woman. I knew either would be an embarrassment for him for different reasons, but JACKPOT! he drew the short straw and was led off by the very attractive much younger specialist for his personal examination.

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Maximising the effect on the submissive.

On the 2nd September I posted a theory on maximising the effect on the submissive. There was more detail, but the key I contend is that the submissive’s PERCEPTION of the dominant’s cruelty is key to maximising effect. I mentioned that if there is any doubt that humiliating, painful,  tedious, and or demeaning activity for the submissive was giving sadistic pleasure to the dominant, then the dominant should verbalise that fact.

(I amended the theory the next day to say that if the Domme makes it ABSOLUTELY clear to the submissive that the Domme is a sadist and many acts in which they partake are to satisfy their sadistic desires, then there is no need to verbalise their sadism. I will stress however that there must be no doubt in the mind of the submissive. Any such doubt should be eradicated by verbalising. If in doubt, verbalise.)

Well I have, since these posts, had around a dozen responses to my theory from submissives and 100% agree with the theory. So ladies, if you really want your puppet addicted to you, DON’T BE SHY! You must make it very apparent that you get pleasure from inflicting physical and or mental suffering. If you have feared using the word as a label for yourself. Start using it. –  I am a sadist.

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