Thank you to everyone who helped me with getting the blog for beginners into a reasonable shape. LINK below.
Scarlet’s Guide: Sex and Relationship Nirvana with a submissive: A beginners Guide
I have made it live now so that I can get on with the, Manual for Beginners. More work than I thought!
If you want to help some more, I am thinking of the manual having a plain cover, like the example below. Is an image necessary given any image may contain something that would put off a woman thinking of experimenting with being dominant?
Mistress Scarlet's Blog 
MistressScarlet a generic cover I think as shown is the best. That way any lady can pick it up and actually be reading it this the public vanilla world without worry that someone not in the lifestyle would be able to identify the contents and make some type of disperaging remark. I vote for this one but will always submit to your rule and decision.
No, I think thats perfect.
If however you really feel an image will help, and bearing mind what you are trying to do, a line drawing of a couple hand in hand would strike the right note
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An image is absolutely necessary.
Your idea that any image would put off a woman like that is wrong because it could just be a very neutral image, like just an image of a family or of anything you want like that.
I could design something for you if you want. Instead of paying me just like be my friend
Thank you for your comment but it seems you are the soldier out of step here so I will be using a plain cover as the majority prefer.
I would also suggest no image. If you must go with an image, something that is almost vanilla might be a good idea.
I think a plain cover is the best option.
Ms. Scarlet,
I thought I would update you on my progress since you were so kind as to offer genuine feedback to help me in my relationship. I don’t want you to think your suggestions or time spent went to waste.
I still have yet to broach the subject of your alternative blog. My biggest issue was having a lack of empathy and so I dedicated my self to service and learning how to be more empathetic. I wrote a hand written apology accompanied by flowers to atone for my previous insolence and insensitivity. That was well received. However, I made no mention of anything I needed or any reference to reading material. I figure an apology should stand on it’s own.
My Wife is very busy at work, to the point of being emotionally overwhelmed. She’s very good at what she does and has constant demands on her time (including nights and weekends). Clearly now is not the time for my submissive desires/needs, so I’m doing everything I can to support her and make her life as easy as possible by taking as much off her plate as I can. Eventually when things slow down as they inevitably always do I will then humbly bring up the topic of your new blog.
Thank you again!
Thank you for letting me know. Your behaviour seems to be pretty much perfect now. Empathetically thinking about her life and her needs. Really good. I wish you all the luck in the world.
Thank you. I really appreciate it. :)
Well I finally made my pitch. It was very well received and she says she will make time to read your alternative blog this weekend. She even started assigning tasks since according to her “now that you are here to do my bidding.” I’ve been a busy man this weekend. :)
You were so right about being empathetic. Thank you.
Please let me know if there are passages that work well and if there are some that do not. Also you may wish to mention that she can leave questions to me in the form of comments on my alternative blog if she has questions she would rather I answer than you.
Absolutely.
Thank you.
She was kind enough to finally read it. She woke me up with a hug to inform me that she read it and that she loved me for who I am. She sounded up beat and positive, but reserved. I explained that I just wanted her to better understand what goes on in my head. She said she’s always known who I was and that’s why she married me and kept me around. I said I’m not looking for anything crazy, I just don’t want her to feel guilty when I do things for her. I just want her to be her. She hugged me again, told me she loved me for who I was and then she had to leave for an appointment. But she joked before she left that she should probably tell me to go make breakfast “bitch,” but she’ll let me sleep a little longer, chuckled and then left.
I think that went well? We didn’t talk about specifics in the blog. Should we? My instinct tells me to see what she liked or disliked about what you wrote, however my instinct is terrible and I don’t trust it. So I am going to do the opposite and just be quiet.
The kids are away tonight so we’ll see I guess.
I wonder how it went. I think you did well keeping quiet. Let her mull it all over for a while, perhaps a few days even.
Apparently it went great. We had a great time. She finally allowed herself to indulge a bit and had huge and multiple experiences. She was kind enough to push a few of my submissive buttons too. It was an amazing start. We really connected. I have to say I haven’t felt this calm and at peace in years.
I kept quiet, which took an enormous amount of will power, and she brought it up on her own. She said what really made the difference for her was the apology. The fact that it was heartfelt and I clearly understood her side made it easy for her to try again and it removed the pressure she used to feel.
She said she is committed to moving forward at her pace, now that she better understands my need. That’s all I ever wanted so it’s a success. I’m committed to patiently tending this spark and nurturing it to a flame.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the insight and guidance.
My I should change my to Patiently Serving now :)
Wonderful. I’m so glad it has all worked out. Well done for being patient and quiet. That was so important.