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Lady Jessica has upped my meanness (Part 2)

Well the content of my last post certainly was influential. Numerous submissive males subsequently confirming that Lady Jessica’s approach is very affecting indeed. And even more interestingly, several experienced Dommes, like myself, deciding to amend some of our activities or styles to ensure additional opportunities to raise and then dash the hopes of our little puppets.

I have a list of my current, favourite depraved activities and I peruse it before I start a full-on domination day of bitch-boy. It is like perusing a menu at a fine dining restaurant. It is so hard to choose! But what I don’t choose today, I can have the next time or the time after that! (Which is quite often the following day.)

After reading Lady Jessica’s wonderful contribution, I split my menu list between those activities that are mainly about physical pain for bitch-boy and those that are mainly about that terrible combination of extreme humiliation and extreme tedium. I did this as I realised that creating and dashing hope followed two sets of principles, depending on whether the activity is mainly about physical pain, or mainly about the combination of humiliation and tedium.

An example regarding an activity that is mainly about physical pain for bitch-boy is deterrent punishment. Before Lady Jessica’s post,  I would get to the stage where bitch-boy is pleading with all his heart, then I would become aroused as I carried on, (for a further ten to fifteen minutes), until I felt both a true deterrent had been achieved, and I had become so turned on I needed an orgasm. I would then simply end the deterrent punishment.

Now, after Lady Jessica’s post, I get to the stage where bitch-boy is pleading with all his heart, and after another say three or five minutes, I ask him, ‘Do you think you have had enough to be deterred from disobedience maggot?‘ He answers in an emotional panic of muffled noise through his gag that, yes he has, and I will answer, ‘Well I’m not sure about that. I’ll continue for a while longer to be sure.

And that routine is then set until the end. Every three to five minutes, I ask, he answers and I say, ‘I’m not sure about that. I’ll continue for a while longer to be sure.‘ Until finally when I ask, and he answers, I then say, ‘Yes bitch, I too think have had enough to be deterred from disobedience maggot.’ And I stop.

Each time I have asked, ‘Do you think you have had enough to be deterred from disobedience maggot?‘ his hopes have been raised that once he has answered, I will stop. But each time he answers,  yet I continue, his hopes to end the searing, burning strokes are dashed.

Such a simple technique that (A) has increased my feeling of meanness and my arousal considerably and, I have no doubt, (B) increased bitch-boy’s subjugation to me and his awe of me, through the punishment, made worse by raising and dashing hopes.

If there is interest in this rather ‘technical and systems’ aspect of domination, I will post again on the changes I have made in the activities that are mainly about the combination of humiliation and tedium. Unfortunately for my poor puppet, as well as now involving raising and dashing hopes, my analysis of these activities has also resulted in extra humiliation and in options of physical pain, neither of which were there before.

 

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Dominant Mother and Daughter

In accordance with my ne policy, (given the vast majority of dear blog followers do not read many of the comments to my blog posts), here is a comments exchange that you may find of interest. Please let me know if compiling and posting such a group of comments is interesting.

The comments below were initiated by my post of 5 May 2019, about ……..

……..The females speak to each other with sweet voices and a pleasant, patient, demeanour; BUT, in an instant, when their voice is directed at the male sub, sweet and pleasant is replaced with malevolent and impatient and irritated. Then, speaking to the sub is over, and the tone and demeanour of sweet and  pleasant and patient returns as the Domme addresses a fellow female…….

Comments

The two women that dominate me, are very much like this. They are mother and daughter and so have a lot to catch up on when a weekend visit is arranged with me in attendance. Once dressed as a baby and put in my playpen they will have a cup of coffee and chat away politely, but at any moment either of them might snap out at me and have me trembling with fear. They know that this sudden change keeps me nervous and very intimidated. I am also fearful that the situation might escalate and they will both start snapping at me till I crumble and start to weep. This can be hard to avoid but never receives any sympathy. Quite the reverse in fact. If I act like a cry baby they love to twist the knife and ridicule me all the more. They love it when I’m so scared that I wet my nappy.

The daughter was a professional who I visited to lose my virginity in 2008. Upon my failure to rise to the occasion, she suggested I would be better suited to visiting her mother – who had different specialities. After a few meets I was completely subjugated by her mother – Julia. Or Nana Julia to me. She found that I had certain work skills she could utilise and it has become a trade off of my abilities for the opportunity of spending time with her, and often her daughter. She must enjoy it for what it is though as she often orders me to visit even if she has no requirements of my skills in the preceding month.

They like nothing better than to tease and humiliate me during nappy changes or potty time. Sometimes they will do it gently and be amused when my ‘birth defect’ rises to its very best quivering 4 inches. I feel humiliated by my erection, my face flushed with shame at showing them my pitiful, attention-seeking willy. They find my embarrassment hilarious and more often than not their scorn and mockery makes it wilt pretty fast, but on occasion it will be tugged, and forced to squirt like a toileting chore. Post ejaculation I will feel utterly wretched, but they just pour on more scorn as they watch my red dick dwindling out of sight. They know I feel at my most uncomfortable at this moment and make the most of it. I have to cope.

Mother and Daughter take me to task regularly and enjoy themselves at my expense. It is not a 24/7 relationship but when they demand I visit I am completely there for the entertainment of the Mother. They like to keep me as their baby, but they have made it clear they don’t like baby boys and silly little wimps like me deserve relentless humiliation. I almost feel she is a MIL as the cruel mother role is well suited to her, but I do get to escape for a few weeks at a time. When she wants to play though, I have to attend

Regarding potties, I am forced to make the best of my white and yellow Mothercare pot though it can be very uncomfortable as my testicles get quite squashed by the front pee guard. I’m not always sitting either as it has been gaffa-tapped to my bottom so that I have to waddle around with my rubber pants around my ankles and my potty stuck to my bum. Almost a nursery version of a humbler – only much, much more humbling. It seems to amuse the two cruel ladies in my life

New posts: The cream of the comments

Further to my previous post, and after my little survey, it is clear what is best is for most of you blog followers is as follows:

Around two weeks after the original post I will post a summary of the cream of comments received on that original blog post, (if the comments are worthy of such publication).

I was quite surprised how many blog followers have been missing out on much of the amazing material sent to me as comments; especially from other real life domestic tyranny wives and girlfriends. It is completely understandable though. There is no threshold signal that the time is right to delve into the comments on an older post, or that those comments are worth a read.

 

 

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Which hardcopy and on-line mainstream magazines?

I have honed my faux article on orgasm benefits of being a Domme and added to it the faithfulness benefits of being a Domme. (Blog posts of 25 May and 1 June this year.) I would like to send it to vanilla women’s hardcopy and on-line magazines who might be bold enough to publish it. But which magazines. I have no idea which ones in English speaking countries might publish it.

Can any of you wonderful blog followers identify suitable magazines that may be racy or brave enough to publish such an article?

I will add these orgasm and faithfulness benefits to my blog page entitled, Ladies- Adopt the Lifestyle.

ARTICLE –

So you want more and better orgasms and a faithful partner? Get a submissive!

So many articles appear on increasing the number and intensity of women’s orgasms and others on faithfulness of partners, but never is mentioned the following GUARANTEED strategy. Before continuing, it is true to say that, for a large part of society, this is taboo, just like discussing gay sex was fifty years ago.

There are many, many true submissives in our population. (Why do you think there are so very many wealthy, professional dominatrix?) These male and female true submissives usually discover they are sexually submissive before they reach puberty. They are only truly content if they are dominated by another person, at least in the bedroom. Truly dominated; not just playing a game. True submissives can come from any upbringing, often loving and nurturing homes; their submissiveness is not the result of abuse during their early lives.   It could possibly be due to a parasite carried by cats! Google Toxoplasma gondii. Go figure!

In order to feel truly dominated, things must happen to them they would prefer did not. They might be coerced to take responsibility for tedious chores, or be spanked just that bit longer and harder than they believe they can cope with, or humiliated, perhaps a male having to wear pink panties, (as a starter). Humiliated just that bit more intensely than they believe they can cope with.  

Having to do the tedious chores, (another benefit), or be spanked or humiliated – a little more than they believe ‘they can cope with’, proves to them that it is not simply a domination game. This other person has total control and is proving this domination and control is REAL.

What has this to do with my orgasms you ask! Well I am a dominant  woman and I have done some research and found that power truly is a MASSIVE aphrodisiac. Women who have adopted a life of, or sessions of, real power over their sexual partner, ALWAYS move from none or average orgasms, to numbers and intensities previously only dreamed of. ALWAYS! Many like me, having perhaps a dozen HUGE orgasms during a few hours of dominance. Aching, shaky legs from those orgasms!

And the relationship intensity and intimacy and loyalty is as strong as can be. When those things the submissive do not enjoy are all over, they adore their dominant and sleep the most contented sleep; knowing they are helplessly in the power of another.

In addition, the sex life does not fade away over the years. It remains as intense as it ever was; decade after decade after decade.

I can hear those judgmental do-gooders reading this, screaming, ‘These true submissives need help and therapy. They need rescuing and converting’. Well this is what was shamefully said about gay people not so long ago! So if you are screaming that; SHAME ON YOU! I can assure you that true submissives do not want to change. They adore the intensity of feelings and relationships they experience when their submissive needs are met.

If you really want to be virtuous, go and find a true submissive and begin a dominant relationship with them. Then you will be bringing fulfilment to their otherwise unfulfilled lives. And bring fulfilment to you too! Best estimates suggest the number of discontented, unfulfilled, male and female submissives among us, currently outnumber female dominants by about one hundred to one. And honestly, anyone can become a dominant and get hooked on, and benefit from, that aphrodisiac power and the benefits.

As long as you are able to raise a middle digit to conservative societal values, (which remember only 50 years ago condemned gay people to prison and worse), then you can become a dominant; and become an orgasm Queen into the bargain!

But there is a second massive benefit from finding a true submissive and beginning a dominant relationship with them. FAITHFULNESS.

As the years go by, so many vanilla men seek out a ‘younger model’ during their long term relationships. A prettier face, a firmer body, more exciting sex; whatever. And of course this is compounded by the fact that we do all get older. We may well all get a little less attractive than we once were.

Well for vanilla women this can be a worrying threat, but for dominant women it really is an irrelevance. In fact the shoe is on the other foot. True submissives know how many of them there are and how rare dominant women are.

If a submissive is lucky enough to be in a long term relationship with a Dominant, they know how fortunate they are. They know there is a queue of 100 other submissives who would jump at the chance of replacing them and serving the dominant instead. So even if we have used our pretty faces and or our attractive bodies as a source of attraction at the outset, well as we get older, emphasis on face and body can fade into the background and be replaced by emphasis on sessions of dominance. The sub will remain UTTERLY ADDICTED to the dominant right through to the end of their lives.

Of course not all women are born to have pretty faces or amazing bodies. But if they choose to be dominant, they can still have a queue of submissives from which to choose. And the chosen one will be besotted and addicted as though their dominant was a twenty year old supermodel.

In these relationships, the sub is frightened of losing the dominant. I am realistic to accept that, like me, many dominants do not want to lose their sub either! Well trained, and hugely adorable and valuable for many reasons when in vanilla mode; but the sub is petrified of losing their dominant even then. Unequalled loyalty over decades through the phenomenon of supply and demand and the deep compulsive, drive to be submissive to a dominant.

Finally it must be made clear that it is rare for a submissive to be a beta to the outside world. Many submissives, like mine, are charming and assertive and very successful alphas. Why do you think Dominatrix can charge so much! He is my protector and a force of nature. He is my knight in shining armour, an impressive person indeed. It is our little secret as to who wears the trousers so often when we are alone! But even when we are alone, I can and do choose to have him in his vanilla mode quite often when we snuggle down to watch TV, or share a wonderful meal. Life could not be better.

 

 

Source a cock-stomping stage

On the theme of yesterday’s post, (and previous posts), it dawned on me that so many Dommes will miss out on this powerful, stimulating activity because I don’t believe cock-stomping stages are available for easy purchase, not even on-line.

It is possible to cock-stomp without a stage if the male’s birth defect is resting on a pile of thick hardback books or a coffee table but these options do not any where near provide the full subjugating experience for the male or the full powerful, stimulating experience for the female. I think there is a gap in the BDSM equipment market!

Fortunately for me, bitch-boy is great at things like carpentry so I instruct him to make a cock-stomping stage and I get one. And it is custom made for his body size and my requirements.  (For example, my requirements did include that the stage be easily big enough for my girlfriend and I to both be standing on it in an embrace, or side by side.)

I think a fairly humorous documentary compilation video could be put together on cowboy built home made stomping stages. I have noticed in videos, stage legs too short so the stage precariously rests and rocks on the males stomach and the Domme needs surfing skills to remain standing. I have also noticed stages with a board of insufficient rigidity so it sags with the weight of the Domme as she moves around and again she needs surfing skills to remain standing.

There are two distinct types though. One type has a hole just the right size for a cock to poke through. The other type has a hole big enough for cock and balls to poke through. My stage is with a cock only hole. The cock is so robust that I feel unfettered in what I do to it with my shoes and boots, while the balls can be damaged fairly easily and require hospital treatment and I do not want to have to be careful when I am stomping. There are however plenty of videos of balls getting astounding treatment from women who are not being careful on stomping stages!

The legs are easily removed for storage with the stage I had bitch-boy make. Perhaps I should have him make  an alternative top with a bigger hole so I can choose on my whim which top to use on any given day?  I did wonder if I should have bitch-boy set up a business providing custom built stages!

If any blog follower knows of a retail source of cock stomping stages, please leave a comment. Considering some of the amazing (and expensive) BDSM furniture that is available and that a good stomping stage is so easy to make, and that the experiences of uses are so intense, I am amazed these stages are not more readily available.

 

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More loyalty with BDSM

I recently posted three posts about the massive benefit for Dommes over vanilla women of the number and intensity of orgasms. The feedback was 100% that this is very much the case indeed! (With the caveat that this related to REAL domination; not playing at it and having safe-words, with the alleged sub actually in control, etc.)

That had me thinking about what other benefits I may not have adequately promoted in my ongoing quest to convert as many vanilla women to Dommes as I possibly can.

This brings me to subs’ loyalty. So many vanilla men seek out a ‘younger model’ during their relationships. A prettier face, a firmer body, whatever. And of course this is compounded by the fact we do all get older. We may well get a little less attractive than we once were.

Well for vanilla women this is a massive threat. But for Dommes it really is an irrelevance. In fact the shoe is on the other foot. True submissives know how many of them there are and how rare Dommes are.

If a sub is lucky enough to be in a long term relationship with a Domme, they know how fortunate they are. They know there is a queue of a 100 other subs who would jump at the chance of replacing them and serving the Domme instead. So even if we have used our pretty faces and or our attractive bodies as a source of power, well, as we get older, emphasis on face and body can fade into the background and be replaced by emphasis on cruelty and implacability. The sub will remain UTTERLY ADDICTED to the Domme.

Of course not all women are born to have pretty faces or amazing bodies. But if they are a cruel  Domme, they can still have a queue of submissive males from which to choose. And the chosen one will be besotted and addicted as though his Domme was a supermodel.

In these relationships, the sub is frightened of losing the Domme. I am realistic to accept that, like me, many Dommes do not want to lose their sub. Well trained, and hugely valuable for many reasons when in vanilla mode, but the sub is petrified of losing the Domme even then.

Unequalled loyalty over decades through supply and demand and the deep, deep compulsive, obsessive drives of submissive males.

 

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Article for Cosmo

I remember women’s magazines like Cosmopolitan used to have many articles on the topic of women improving the number and intensity of their orgasms. Do they still publish such articles?

My recent research on comparing the number and intensity of orgasms for cruel dominant women compared to vanilla women leads me to fantasise about writing, and having published, an article in such magazines.

ARTICLE – So you want more and better orgasms – get a submissive!

So many articles appear on increasing the number and intensity of women’s orgasms but never is mentioned the following GAURANTEED strategy.

There are many, many true submissives in our population. (Why do you think there are soooo many wealthy professional dominatrix?) These true male and female submissives usually discover they are sexually submissive before they reach puberty. They are only truly content if they are dominated by another person. Truly dominated, at least some of the time; not a game.

In order to feel truly dominated, things must happen to them they would prefer did not. They might be coerced to do tedious chores, or be spanked just that bit longer and harder than they believe they can cope with, or humiliated, perhaps a male having to wear pink panties, (as a starter), humiliated just that bit longer and more intensely than they believe they can cope with.  

Having to do chores or be spanked or humiliated – a little more than they believe ‘they can cope with’ proves to them that it is not simply a domination game. This other person has total control and is proving this domination and control is REAL.

What has this to do with my orgasms you ask! Well I am a dominant  woman and I have done some research and found that power truly is a MASSIVE aphrodisiac. Women who have adopted a life, or sessions of, real power over their sexual partner ALWAYS move from average at best orgasms, to numbers and intensities previously only dreamed of. ALWAYS! Many like me, having perhaps a dozen HUGE orgasms during a few hours of dominance. Aching, shaky legs from those orgasms!

And the relationship intensity and intimacy and loyalty is as strong as can be. When those things the submissive do not enjoy are all over, they adore their dominant and sleep the most contented sleep, knowing they are helplessly in the power on another.

I can almost hear those judgmental do-gooders among you screaming, ‘These true submissives need help and therapy. They need converting and rescuing’. Well this is what was shamefully said about gay people not so long ago! I can assure you true submissives do not want to change. They adore the intensity of feelings and relationships they experience.

If you really want to be a do-gooder, go and find a true submissive and begin a dominant relationship with them. Then you will be doing good for them! And you! Best estimates suggest the number of discontented, unfulfilled male and female submissives out there currently outnumber dominants by about one hundred to one. And honestly, anyone can become a dominant and get hooked on, and benefit from, that aphrodisiac power.

As long as you are able to raise a middle digit to conservative societal values, (which remember only 50 years ago condemned gay people to prison and worse), then you can become a dominant; and become an orgasm Queen into the bargain!

 

Can vanilla ever compare? (post 2)

Well a rather low response to my post of 11 May on a comparison of the number/quality of orgasms Domme women get compared to vanilla women. But the comments I did get were of very high quality! Thank you so much to those that commented on this personal topic!

From my limited sample so far, plus my own experience, it seems pretty conclusive that both the number and the quality of orgasms Domme women get are hugely superior to those of vanilla women. This is perhaps an issue of importance I have underplayed both in my blog and in my published BDSM manual, as a component of convincing vanilla women to become Dominants.

I was VERY DISAPPOINTED with the many MALE submissives who read my blog who  have experienced relationships with vanilla women and then dominant women, but did not help me gather the data I was after. Shame on them. I would still however like more data on this topic because I like to make claims about BDSM based on evidence rather than intuition.

I understand many womens’ magazines have articles on female orgasms and how to get them or get more. I bet none has suggested women find a sub male (or female) and become a Domme!

I was and am surprised over the coyness of Dommes to talk about this topic. 🙂 Dommes who have no coyness at all over telling the world about their very depraved activities while using and abusing their male puppets, blushingly tight lipped about their orgasms. 🙂 I fear this may be societal / cultural conditioning. Men are quite happy to bang on about how, on average, they are born physically stronger than females and with better spatial awareness. But women too shy to mention, even on this blog!, that can have a far superior orgasm count than males during a ‘sex’ session.

As an aside, it dawned on me how it must be a little less sexually satisfying being a male Dom rather than a female Domme? The male Dom experiencing a loss of interest in things sexual for quite some time after orgasm while for most female Dommes, interest immediately and fully continues!

 

 

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My BDSMLR site

My new BDSMLR site that replaced my Tumblr site already has 1600 followers. I imagine so far BDSMLR has far fewer users than Tumblr.

My Tumblr site had over 18,000 flowers before Tumblr was sold and ‘explicit’ images were banned. I always took from the number of followers an indication that there were/are many people who share my tastes in female dominance. Particularly things not in the Femdom mainstream industry, like; #males distressed by petticoating humiliation, #males undergoing hours of tedium, #males being humiliated and ignored, #wives, girlfriends and or mothers-in-law dressed in everyday clothes humiliating a male who is naked, or is a sissy maid or school-girl, #the use and abuse of males in everyday homes, #’lesbian’ wives with their girlfriends cuckolding their chastised husbands .

So where possible, I do not post images in dungeons or where women are in corsets, leather or PVC. Some examples:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When I imply ‘I post’, that is not actually the case. bitch-boy is given a number by me, of posts to make each week, sometimes high, sometimes low. And these posts must all be images I LIKE VERY MUCH. If I do not like one, or I am inadequately titillated by one, he is, of course, punished. And given his state of sexual denial and his inescapable chastity cage, I am sure the poor thing finds this task quite a trial!

There are no posts of lesbian domination. As much as I adore a pic of a helplessly bound and very vulnerable female submissive, I feel such imagery is not suitable for male submissives to be pointed toward.