Enduring domination sessions

I have noticed one quite distinct difference between domination sessions that by necessity must be relatively brief and sessions that can regularly go on all day and night, or longer. I know some couples have children at home and or other vanilla things that prevent sessions being for longer than say a couple of hours. And also many sub males visit Dominatrices, again most often just for an hour or two.

I know such sessions can be intense and rewarding but for those of us, (and there are quite a few who make contributions to this blog), who have the opportunity of regular sessions lasting several days and nights,  it seems universal that a torment technique becomes a key part of the regime that can only be enabled by having hours and hours of time. The Humiliation/Tedium torments.

The sub must write lines, perhaps while dressed as a schoolgirl, for literally hours and hours. The sub is dressed as a little girl and must colour-in with dolly, or play a Disney Princess board game with dollies, for literally hours and hours. The sub (in chastity) might be locked in a tiny, sound proofed and pitch black cupboard for literally hours and hours. The sub might be bound in sensory deprivation bondage for literally hours and hours. The sub may have to clean a floor with a toothbrush and then re-clean and then re-clean again and again for literally hours and hours.

And very importantly, the chosen activity will not be a one-off. The sub will know, not just today will he endure those hours! He will do tomorrow and the next day, or two days next week, and the week after, and will be doing so for years to come! The sense of miserable helpnessness cannot be moderated by thinking, ‘just get through this and I’ll never suffer this again’. Oh no!

And the Domme will get the most divine, complex feeling of serenity, power, pitilessness and arousal. Arousal that will usually be satiated by masturbation many times in those hours. And as well as the orgasms, there is truly relaxing; – watching TV, or making phone calls, or reading or doing a craft activity, or sunbathing, or shopping, or gym, or sleeping.

It is often mooted that getting older, and also retiring, can be a bad thing. I guess my point is, if you are a Domme currently fettered by circumstances like say, children at home, or you and your sub are both working long hours, then think ahead to when it will just be you and him, day after day after day. One HUGE compensation for thinking about growing a bit older, for children leaving the nest, for retiring; is you have the DIVINE FEELING to look forward to that I have described above!

 

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26 thoughts on “Enduring domination sessions

  1. What a totally mean and cruel bitch you really are! Also bitch boy must be truly brain washed by you and have zero self-esteem to endure this ridiculous and meaningless existence.

    1. Well you have shown so much ignorance and got so much wrong. The only thing you got right was that I’m a totally mean and cruel bitch. (And rather proud of that I am too.)

      If you were to meet bitch-boy in the vanilla world you see how wrong you are about his self esteem which is healthily significant. Why shouldn’t it be? He is a force to be reckoned with in the vanilla world, hugely successful and has a deeply contented submissive soul.
      Me brainwash him? He introduced me to femdom, not the other way around.
      He leads as full an existence as its possible I believe. All his vanilla activities are wholesome and admirable and pleasurable to him. Far from meaningless and ridiculous. And there are literally thousands of men that would do anything to live his life.
      And how about you? You wish to deny me fulfilling his sexuality. Isn’t that rather selfish of you?
      I guess you want gay people to be cured or converted. Anyone whose sexuality is not the same as yours needs curing, or has been brainwashed? Dear or dear.

      How have you been on my blog, yet misunderstood do much? I believe this is the tenth comment you have left. Why do you spend so much time on my blog I wonder John?

      1. I enjoy being submissive up to a certain extent towards my Wife. We both have our limits however. There is no way I would endure the tedium you force bitch boy to endure.

        1. Has your wife seen your comment?

          You can’t be submissive to a certain extent. That is a literal impossibility. That means you make the rules. That is not submissive, it is controlling. The fact that you impose limits on your wife means it’s playacting. The fact that you won’t submit to things beyond what you like, means its just a game

          Surely you can’t feel good about yourself, displaying your ignorant, foul, insulting, aggression. What you do is just fine but what others do is WRONG! Really!
          Who knows, perhaps your ignorant, foul, insulting, aggression comes from knowing that you do not have the courage to actually submit and relinquish all power to another who will then decide what happens with no thought as to what you think you can endure. That is submissive! That is the courage a true submissive has to have in order to absolutely feel what it is like to be dominated and have zero power.

          1. Right O.K. You win Mistress Scarlett.You are right, fem dom is just a pleasant game we both play. We do not make a living out of it like You and bitchboy.

            1. Your obsession with the fact that people purchase the things of mine that are published is rather weird. You might be surprised to learn that clicks from my blog to a purchase site are extremely low, less than 3%. I maintain my blog for three reasons. One, is to help true submissives understand that there is nothing wrong with them for feeling like they do. Two is that I gain valuable knowledge and learning all the time from people leaving comments that I can disseminate, and three, most importantly, to try to convince more women to adopt a true submissive and enjoy the amazing, exhilarating, symbiotic relationship that can result.

              I feel a little sad that your wife will never get to experience true power over another and has, instead, to playact in the games you insist she plays.

              I am most perplexed by your aggression and spite and judgemental views.

          2. “You can’t be submissive to a certain extent.”

            I’d like to respectfully disagree on that. Person can agree into a D/s relationship that isn’t unlimited it can be still real. Some people wish for a stern hand and sense of being put into their place, but not a complete subjugation and domestic tyranny. I would call it a relationship between a boss and a servant: not an equal one, but not tyranny either.

            I, for one, am in a relationship where there’s no question who calls the shots (she does), who does the housework (I do) and who decides when we have sex and how (again, she does) and when I need to be corrected for my behaviour. But at the same time it is clear that there are things that I want to do in my life and things that I would not stand, and she respects my limits. For example, I would never do that colouring-in or write lines on a work trip unless it was a punishment from something stupid that I had really done. If she would propose something like that as as condition for our relationship, I would walk away that instant. And not look back. I still have a backbone.

            1. Why oh why did you have to end your otherwise well written and well reasoned argument with a judgemental, aggressive, prejudiced, bitchy insult to all the males who have chosen to experience their submissive sexuality by giving up 100% of their power in their DS relationship?

              Ironically, that seriously smacks of a lack of backbone, self esteem and of insecurity. (The main reasons people show aggression and prejudice and spite.)

              I don’t know how many times I have to set out THE FACT that most submissives who give over 100% of their power, have in the vanilla world, great respect, loads of self esteem and are forces of nature; like bitch-boy. More back bone that you I imagine as he would never feel the need to lash out with prejudice and insults because someone was different to him. And it takes backbone TO GIVE OTHER 100% OF YOUR POWER TO ANOTHER. It takes no backbone to compromise.

              I would have liked to explore whether you take for granted how lucky you are and how difficult or impossible you would find it to find someone else like you Mistress. The most likely outcome of walking away being, you would never experience such a relationship again. But I cannot be bothered to engage with you.

              1. Well, no need getting upset here, have we. My sincerest apology, I came through unclear. I’d never say that somebody giving up all control _willingly_ would be without backbone. That’s actually pretty courageous.

                But, should he (or she, for that matter) do it for a fear of losing the relationship or due coercion, that would be lack of a backbone and just it. What I mean with having a backbone myself means that I will stand to my ground and my principles whatever the cost might be, even if that would mean being alone or in a vanilla relationship the rest of my life. And actually that is the reason my Mistress loves me so much.

                1. I hope you can be open minded in the consideration of this but I am afraid, ….. principles whatever the cost might be….., absolutely is not backbone. Backbone is courage.

                  …principles whatever the cost might ….., is inflexibility; stubbornness. A failure to weigh up pro’s and con’s without animal emotions getting in the way. Principles whatever the cost might be……, have for thousands of years caused misery and worthless futility. I am unable to believe that your wife loves you because of your inflexibility and stubbornness and a failure to weigh up pro’s and con’s without animal emotions getting in the way.

                  And you have continued the same prejudiced, insult that you are better than the submissives who have given 100% of their power over.

                  According to your own argument, they too are principled. They stick to their principles. They stand their ground, that they will endure, (whatever the cost might be to them), anything their mistress requires them to endure.

                  Given you have had stab at rewording the very same position you posited before, I can only assume you are actually made to feel less of a submissive than those who give over 100% of power and are therefore trying to justify why you do not have the courage to do so. Believe me, no justification is required. No one is judging you. Why don’t you stop judging them? You are not better or worse than them, just different to them.

  2. I would love to be in bitch boy’s place Ms Scarlet. I have always craved for that feeling of true submission that can only come long after it’s no longer a game. My soul was made to endure the whims of a wonderfully cruel and creative woman, and as much as I would probably hate every second of coloring with a dolly while you’re relaxing or otherwise enjoying yourself in adult pleasures, it would however fulfill some very deep seated needs and desires that can not be satiated in any other way. Your bitch boy is a very lucky man, and I can’t thank you enough for sharing your life with us.

    1. Thank you for providing the perspective of a courageous and true submissive male. I always hope such perspectives will help tip the balance of females considering being dominant to give it a go and reap the rewards.

  3. Thank you Ms Scarlet for publishing the full thread and allowing us to read the responses. Why shouldn’t you do well from your writing? You have a unique ability, style and insight into the submissive male and dominant female mind. There is a lot of taboos about domination and submission in society. It is a challenge to not unconsciously sign up to the projections of uninformed people who have a fixed idea of what is ‘normal’. Personally, as a male who enjoys being dominated, I find it difficult to acknowledge my own desires with the people I love because of the fear of being called a pervert and my preferences are relatively mild. To accept ones self and be accepted by others for who we are is liberating. Your writing is a triumph in erotic self expression. More power to you!

  4. Thank you Mistress scarlet for all your writing as I have almost all of your journals. It would be great to be in the live of BB. May I ask how much female domination you have known prior to meeting BB.

  5. I have taken your comments about me seriously.I promise never to comment on this blog again and I offer my sincere apologies.

  6. Having never written a reply to anyone’s blog entry before, I do so with some trepidation, but I strongly felt the need to do so with this post.

    I’m always saddened to see comments such as those from John and it’s mystifying to me why some people seem to be driven to make them. As a long time follower of this blog I’m well aware that, far from being ‘brain-washed’, it was BB who encouraged you into the lifestyle you now enjoy and he did so in a caring and sensitive fashion. In my view this shows intelligence, love and personal insight on his part and a great deal of courage to place himself so entirely in your hands. You’ve also written many times of BB’s strength and prowess in the vanilla world and it’s hard to see how this equates to ‘zero self-esteem’.

    As for the sarcasm and insinuation that you’re only in it for the money, well I’m reminded that those who cannot win a debate with reasoned argument often resort to spiteful personal attack. Just look at some of our politicians for evidence of that.

    Like you I’m sad for John’s wife, but I’m also sad for John that he seems to be compelled to make such disparaging, hurtful attacks. I would not presume to attribute motives to anyone, but can speculate that perhaps he’s has had disparaging attacks made upon him in the past and, in repressed anger, feels justified in making them on others; perhaps he has some condition that leaves him with an inability to empathise with others, or perhaps his attacks help protect him from some underlaying insecurities he has when confronted with people who do not share his view of the world. Whatever the cause, I hope he can develop the insight and courage to find it within himself to identify it, make a change, and bring light into other peoples lives rather than trying to be hurtful.

    I have the greatest respect for both BB and yourself and for your commitment to each other and feel grateful and privileged to have read about your lives. Whilst I understand that, to many of us life-long submissives, BB may seem to be a very lucky man, in my view he has made his own luck with his choice of partner, his love for you and his total commitment to being submissive. I wish you both a long and happy life together and, as ever, I look forward to hearing more about it in the future.

  7. This is the part of femdom I find the most exciting, fascinating, and terrifying!

    Misstress Scarlet may I ask, what’s the most extreme example of this that bb has endured? I don’t recall you mentioning him locked in a box before? And is there something of this nature you haven’t tried yet but want to in future?

      1. Yes sorry, I meant the cupboard idea you mentioned in the post. I don’t remember reading about that before, but maybe I missed it. I wonder what the most brutal type of act like this you’d done before was? I remember you saying he’d been in sensory deprivation bondage for 6 hours?

        I meant do you have any of the type of acts you mention in this post that you haven’t done yet that you’d like to try?

        1. A long time ago if I had to work at home on the PC at weekends, I would do so with bitch-boy shut in a cupboard in the room in which I worked. I was busy so could not play, but I had this lovely warm feeling of bitchy power while I worked, that my toy was shut away in the dark cupboard, in chastity, wrists cuffed in front of him, in the dark. It greatly reduced the pain of having to work at a weekend.

          Yes when my lesbian sub, play-toy, used to visit, while I played with her I would have bitch-boy in sensory deprivation bondage, in diapers and plastic pants. I always played with her for five or six hours straight. Then he would be released and she and I would abuse him for a couple of hours.

          I’m always thinking of new activities of this nature, or I read of a relevant activity I like that another Domme does. There are two I have done recently that feature in my Journal No. 16 I am working on; which will be published before Christmas. One of the activities, I loved so, so much and bitch-boy hated to the point of truly profound begging for it to end! That one will become a regular.

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